Why i find life unfair

[_Minsk]

You got born with with a naturally good looking body, superior brain or any other favorable traits? lucky you! people gonna love you, without you having to do anything for it. good looking children get most attention, more care and love and thus expecting and getting the same later on in life. its no secret, its just a matter of whom you ask. you can most likely tell in childhood wether if someone can expect a rosy and easy life or if that person will have pure hell ahead.

its the definition of unfairness. we get appreciated, loved and desired if you was lucky in the genes lottery.
we naturally tend to prefer beautiful things, while this might have evolutionary benefits, it is highly unfair for those who were unlucky and got some poor genes. but that's not all, growing up in a damaged household plays also its role in setting us up for life. nearly all mental issues which have to do with low self esteem, self worth, social anxiety and many more stem from young childhood. we have no concept about ourselves, we simply pickup on the way we get treated as child. good luck with growing up in an abusive family, low self esteem, trust issues, social anxiety, constant need to apologise and many more things are expected.. we have absolutely no control about what we gonna have to deal with in near future, growing up in such toxic households.
we expect the world to treat us the way we got treated when we were young. girls who grew up with a narcissistic father will most likely expect and believe other potential partners to be exactly the same way and most likely attract those. ever wondered why some people cant stop talking about how good and fun life is, while others are suffering in plain hell? we all life in the same world but yet in our own parallel worlds, defined by shit we haven't had control over in the first place.

we have close to 0 impact on how our parents and society shapes our view on ourselves. if you live most time of your live with depression, you already got a good picture on how you are being treated, how others make you feel about yourself and stuff you have nothing done for. people who deal with metal illnesses are being treated disrespectful, like trash. and still its not even our fault. even today im being forced to deal with people who have absolutely no respect, some call me lazy and unproductive. my dad still cant get how bad it actually is for me. at times i question myself, my sanity, since i have been treated like im not valid at all.

being loved for being a hard working member of society isnt fair. especially since a lot of peeps cant just "work hard" and expect a happy life as result. i hate when people treat others merely based on their born-with-traits. lucky people are being praised to heaven and back, for stuff they could comparatively easily do since they had favorable traits.. at times i imagine this life like going in a predefined rail, we just "experience" life based on the traits we are being given. but we take stuff personally and get hurt badly quit often.

 

[Circles]

The pure randomness of how unfair it all is enough to spite existence. Some people are born with almost everything while others have nothing, but why? Bad things happen to good people while good things happen to bad people, but WHY? Oh yeah that's right I forgot, it's all completely random. Hmmm well ain't that just fucking swell. It's essentially like that stupid platitude 'well it is what it is' but that doesn't feel like a good enough explanation. So it's all completely random and we just somehow have to live with that fact, to just suck it up, man up and accept it, as if that's any more reassuring when it feels just dispiriting. To get no answers as why any of this bullshit happens just feels like adding salt to an open wound making the pain of being so unlucky feel all for nothing. Either it's all completely random or something intentionally wants us to suffer, or maybe something even more insidious who the fuck knows. But what's even more fucked up is even if we got any answers for why these things happen or why some people are more lucky than most the explanations probably wouldn't feel good enough to justify all the senseless pain of simply being born different not considered 'normal' enough and cursed by the twisted hypocritical societies we had no control being born into.

 

[Deleted member 17331]

"The world is an inextricable tangle of contradictions of the most tragic negativity."

J. Bahnsen.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

The part about looks is so true and therefor extremely unfair. People will in fact treat you better the better looking you are an example is just school you NEVER see the loner being a 9/10 looking person that simply doesn´t happen they are like magnets to people because people want to be around these aesthetically pleasing looking people and all of this is called 'The halo effect' that just because a person is extremely good looking they get treated better in every way, they get compliments left and right, people see them as good people and will look past their faults even if they are "evil", they will also be hired for jobs over ugly people and generally just being treated better by everyone.

Also think about Jeremy Meeks also known as "the hot felon" he got busted for something and was member of a gang but his mugshot went viral and he was so good looking he even became a model, in 2019 he even landed a 15 million dollar fashion deal. All of his success is JUST because he was born with good genetics i.e. he won the genetic lottery.

You see the same on Instagram where the beautiful people with thousands of followers makes a living even become millionaires for promoting some products life is truly unfair.