Yes that's true. I always can't find a reason to happy. Positive quotes, motivational quotes does nothing for me. I actually feel irritated when people tell me to be positive minded. They haven't been through the same problems as me so they have no idea that I can't be.
Yes it's true. It pisses me off when some people say stuff like "only selfish and coward people commit suicide" They act like they know it all. Just because they didn't have unbearable problems in life, they act like everyone's life is the same like theirs. They don't accept the fact that some people are unlucky in life.
I had told my supervisor at work about my problem/situation.
He told me that there's a way out/things will get better, but it might take 10 years to heal.
He believes the problem is not unsolvable, but solving it is just a matter of mindset/perspective.
He believes that therapists can help. He says they won't be able to solve my problem directly by talking with me, but through talking with me, I will be able to figure out how to solve it.
I respect him and know he means well, but it's all bullshit.
The reality is that not all problems can be solved, and we can only bear the pain/misery or escape from it.
As you said, they don't have the perspective/haven't felt the emptiness for months or years on end. They can say all they want that they could deal with any situation themselves and not need to ctb, but I believe you can break anybody/take enough away from anybody to make them not want to be alive. They just were fortunate to never be there yet.
Selfishness is a two-way street when it comes to ctb. People want us to live, despite that we are tormented. And we don't die, despite knowing it could hurt others. It's asinine that they point out only our selfishness.
And a coward wouldn't be able to overcome SI.
But of course they'll say anything to guilt trip us into staying alive.
On the other hand, a lot of people who want to stop us from ctb mean well. And I know it's tough to know what to say to comfort someone. Reality is they can't help us. The best thing they can do is validate our feelings and just listen.