Which is worse

[Megsallthewaydone]

ive come recently to a realization that despite all that is actually wrong with me, I may actually be a better person than I am able to give myself credit for... this would be the result of an abusive and manipulative spouse with his own set of issues that he is not willing to accept or admit...

I'm a mother of two who grew up in foster homes and shelters, I now know that if I could get myself and my children out of our current situation I might stand a chance at saving them from growing up victim of a mom who committed suicide...


Which is worse though...? The only out I have from my current situation is going to a homeless shelter with both kids.... uprooting then from this life I always wished I had as a kid and taking them directly to the one I actually had...


Being homeless is hard to endure especially for a small child...


What do I do???

 

[Megsallthewaydone]

@color_me_gone

 

[JustAboutDone]

Hi, can I help be your sounding board at all while you wait for @color_me_gone ?

 

[Lara Francis]

ive come recently to a realization that despite all that is actually wrong with me, I may actually be a better person than I am able to give myself credit for... this would be the result of an abusive and manipulative spouse with his own set of issues that he is not willing to accept or admit...

I'm a mother of two who grew up in foster homes and shelters, I now know that if I could get myself and my children out of our current situation I might stand a chance at saving them from growing up victim of a mom who committed suicide...


Which is worse though...? The only out I have from my current situation is going to a homeless shelter with both kids.... uprooting then from this life I always wished I had as a kid and taking them directly to the one I actually had...


Being homeless is hard to endure especially for a small child...


What do I do???

Hi there.
I feel for you and admire your courage and potential sacrifices in giving up a secure home life.
Throughout our lives we strive to provide the best for our kids especially when our own childhood has been poor.
Growing up in care and moving around must have been upsetting and frustrating.i am sorry that you had to go through that.
My young son was taken away from me for 6 months ,he was placed in care with a family that had a lovely house and all of his physical needs were taken care of but the one thing he asked for each and every day was me.
Living in a shelter may be a temp situation.
I am sure my son would have chosen to sleep in a tent than lose me altogether.
Imagine the strength and respect they can learn from you which will take them through their lives.
Stay strong . It is your decision but you have options and insight to move forward.
You can create the life you want , it will take time and effort and will be difficult but not impossible.
Well wishes to you and your children x

 

[SeekingSolace]

Hi there.
I feel for you and admire your courage and potential sacrifices in giving up a secure home life.
Throughout our lives we strive to provide the best for our kids especially when our own childhood has been poor.
Growing up in care and moving around must have been upsetting and frustrating.i am sorry that you had to go through that.
My young son was taken away from me for 6 months ,he was placed in care with a family that had a lovely house and all of his physical needs were taken care of but the one thing he asked for each and every day was me.
Living in a shelter may be a temp situation.
I am sure my son would have chosen to sleep in a tent than lose me altogether.
Imagine the strength and respect they can learn from you which will take them through their lives.
Stay strong . It is your decision but you have options and insight to move forward.
You can create the life you want , it will take time and effort and will be difficult but not impossible.
Well wishes to you and your children x

I second this! I couldn't agree more!

 

[Megsallthewaydone]

Thank you so much you guys!

 

[stellabelle]

Remember that a shelter is only temporary and losing their mother is permanent.

Depending on the shelter, they might also offer services for you and your children as victims of domestic violence and help you three get back on track to recovery.

Also, the abuse could shift from you and be projected onto them if you are gone. If you can protect them from it, please give it a thought or a chance.

I'm sorry if this isn't very helpful. I wish there was more I could say. I hope everything works out for you guys. It's really hard to leave abusive situations, but once you do it is a relief.