When improvement seems impossible

[Arrow]

What comes next? what do i do when it doesn't seem like this situation has any realistic way of improving? recently it has seemed more and more that i am at the bottom of a hole there is little chance of getting out of. I know I should continue to try and not give up if I want to see life get better, but it's hard to do that when I can't be convinced there is escape.

For those recovering, what do you do when you reach these kinds of pits? It feels like I am completely in the dark right now. Do any of you guys see any light where you are?
to add on: I guess something that has helped is trying not to expect anything, and shutting down a bit emotionally.
It's strange, i don't normally feel moved nearly to the point of tears when considering my situation, but today I regret to say that I have been. It is silly, of course, because I can't blame my being here on anything other than my choices or lack thereof (depending on your perspective), and it's not like tears will solve anything.

i have hit a large obstacle in this road

 

[WadeingThru]

I think I know your pain. I shutout friends and family for a day or two. Heavy drinking and self medicate. That seems to rest things for awhile. If a couple of days don't work some vacation days from work, heavy drinking and self medicate.

 

[timf]

If it is possible, it might be helpful to consider some small tangential aspect of your situation that you have some control over and see if that can provide if not a solution, at least a distraction.

 

[WhiteDespair]

when you've dug yourself into a hole, keep digging

sounds counterintuitive. it's not

the amount of times a bad situation improved because I kept digging is astounding

or as alinksy would say keep pushing the negative until it's a positive

 

[whatevs]

Fumito, I'm curious about your life, I hope you don't mind. You've been posting some struggling threads lately. If you want, you can share some specifics.

 

[Arrow]

Fumito, I'm curious about your life, I hope you don't mind. You've been posting some struggling threads lately. If you want, you can share some specifics.

thanks for your interest, but i will probably not go into specifics. the reason i choose not to is pretty much just because all that really matters is that I feel this way, regardless of how good or bad the circumstances are from the outside.

specifics might just seem alienating for people who relate to how I feel, or it may distract from the feeling because others may think something isn't a big deal that i think is, etc.

i like the idea of others being able to relate to that feeling in their own way, and being able to understand from their own perspective why they may relate to these threads, rather than making it so anyone might be trying to connect my feelings to my life circumstance to see if they align, which would miss the point imo.

but again i appreciate the curiosity and also thanks for replying to the thread. there will probably be more struggle threads later tonight.

 

[Foresight]

I rest if I can when I feel this way. I think the rest state is underestimated in the recovery process. We get caught in a cycle of trying to climb out but sometimes we need to just be. I know it might seem like you've been staled out for awhile but in reality there has probably been a constant internal battle raging on. A solid and accepting state of rest is necessary.

I also recently reached out for professional help and consulted family on how bad I really am right now. So pretty much I gave up on the lone wolf route and reached out. I needed to and I have no regrets so far. I've been staled out for awhile now too. I'm just getting some gas in the tank but need to be patient on getting it started and actually driving forward.

I also think tears CAN help. I'm not big about crying. I've barely cried in the past 10 years. I've been completely numbed out. In the past few months since I've been opening up old wounds and diving deep into recovery. I have had several ugly cry sessions and lord is it a release. I recommend it. It's healing sometimes.