What's your opinion on teenage suicide?

[Lost Soul]

I'm 18 yo. Am I too young to ctb?

 

[Slate128]

It very much depends on what your own personal situation and struggles are.

18 is fine though - the law (in most countries) assumes you can make decisions for your future on your own, so I wouldn't mind too much about that.

 

[Fadingfast]

I'm 18 yo. Am I too young to ctb?

Honestly, it makes my heart hurt. I'm 31 years old and have reached my breaking point. I at least gave my self a chance. There have def been a lot of lows in my life but I have had a few good laughs along the way. In my final moments I will at least have those to cling to. I will know I tried. At 18 you are just now able to become your own person. I'm not judging you at all just wishing you the best.

 

[Lost Soul]

It very much depends on what your own personal situation and struggles are.

18 is fine though - the law (in most countries) assumes you can make decisions for your future on your own, so I wouldn't mind too much about that.

My situation is complicated, but I can tell you that some of the reasons are boredom, low self-esteem, appearance, self-consciousness, hate, loneliness, jealousy, and insecurities.

Honestly, it makes my heart hurt. I'm 31 years old and have reached my breaking point. I at least gave my self a chance. There have def been a lot of lows in my life but I have had a few good laughs along the way. In my final moments I will at least have those to cling to. I will know I tried. At 18 you are just now able to become your own person. I'm not judging you at all just wishing you the best.

Thnx. I personally think it doesn't matter how long you live, it's how you live. Quality over quantity.

 

[soda_pressed]

Honestly, it makes my heart hurt. I'm 31 years old and have reached my breaking point. I at least gave my self a chance. There have def been a lot of lows in my life but I have had a few good laughs along the way. In my final moments I will at least have those to cling to. I will know I tried. At 18 you are just now able to become your own person. I'm not judging you at all just wishing you the best.

Seconded. I'm 21 (22 in a week) and have too reached my breaking point after having depression on and off for 8 years.
I was going to ctb at 17/18 too but I can honestly say I'm glad I didn't as I've made some amazing memories, and was no way near as logical about how I viewed suicide/mental health issues (if that makes sense).

It's just something to think about x

 

[JadedGray]

I understand it from their point of view because I wish I had done it then instead of waiting until my 20s, but at the same time I understand that others would want to discourage teens on here from doing it because they have plenty of time for their lives to get better.

 

[JoeFailure]

My situation is complicated, but I can tell you that some of the reasons are boredom, low self-esteem, appearance, self-consciousness, hate, loneliness, jealousy, and insecurities.

Thnx. I personally think it doesn't matter how long you live, it's how you live. Quality over quantity.

LIke others have said, it really depends on the physical/mental health issues.

But outside of that, mostly what I say to teens is life can be totally different once you get past high school, and college if they go and that sucks or if they didn't go. What makes me sad is the ones who weren't able to see that there is a whole world out the outside of the walls of middle and high school. If the home situation sucks, do your best to get out and move somewhere else and start a new life there.

From what you listed, it's your life and decision but I would really want you to wait this out. A lot of that at least has the potential to change.

 

[toolateforme]

totally depends on the person's individual situation. Catching the bus destroys any opportunities to get better, so it's up to you to decide whether those opportunities might be worth living for considering your present circumstances.

 

[Fadingfast]

I just wish all these teens were immune. These feelings are hard to process for anyone but I have a soft spot for these younger ones.

 

[s_girl]

I don't often like to share my personal opinion but I have worked with teenagers and young adults and this is something that I feel strongly about.

I personally don't agree with suicide before 25. Science has taught us that our brains are still developing until we're 25 and it's well known that one of the major areas that is still being developed is decision making capacity. I also don't believe the decision to die should ever be made impulsively, which is more prevalent in young people. I don't support any impulsive suicide based on a temporary crisis... I would really like to see everyone try to live life after school, away from parents and after gaining independence as so much will change in your life. I figure if you are going to die anyway, what's another few years delay in the big scheme of things... Because there is still hope for huge life improvements at this stage in your life and if there's any chance, why would you not want to try to take it? Like myself, there are a lot of people here that feel that an improvement in life circumstances could change your decision.

I believe it's only after this that you can truly say that you've really tried everything, exhausted all options and are now ready to end it permanently.

This is my opinion, so I do not want to debate. Despite my non-agreement with suicide (unless terminally ill) before 25 years, I understand my beliefs are my own and I can still respect other people's decisions... Ultimately, it's your life, your death, your right and your choice. Only YOU really knows what's best for you.

 

[toolateforme]

I personally don't agree with suicide before 25. Science has taught us that our brains are still developing until we're 25 and it's well known that one of the major areas that is still being developed is decision making capacity.

what if you already have a very severe personality disorder before 25? Not trying to argue, just curious about your thoughts on this.

 

[sunny.sativa]

God, you're so young. I mean, okay, yeah I'm 19, so am I, but damn. This makes me sad cause you have SOOOO much shit you could do. Got any goals? Please think about it. We're impulsive creatures from hell, us fresh "adults" Like damn, friend, at least give yourself a year or two to do some fun shit.

 

[JoeFailure]

I just wish all these teens were immune. These feelings are hard to process for anyone but I have a soft spot for these younger ones.

It is. Some believe they're doomed because of family life at home or bullying or just a rough time in high school. And I remember that too, thinking that was my whole world because it was at the time.

It's definitely not to say everyone will live happily ever after unfortunately as evidenced here, but many teens find their lives completely changing once they get out there.

 

[toolateforme]

It is. Some believe they're doomed because of family life at home or bullying or just a rough time in high school. And I remember that too, thinking that was my whole world because it was at the time.

It's definitely not to say everyone will live happily ever after unfortunately as evidenced here, but many teens find their lives completely changing once they get out there.

Unfortunately some teens continue to be bullies into adulthood

 

[paroxetine]

Most of us start understanding the true nature of the world when we are teenagers. It's natural that people are prone to start having suicidal thoughts or attempts at this age. It's when we take the rose-colored glasses from our childhood off.

 

[EmotionlessWanderer]

Also don't forget the fact school system gives little shits about your mental health or qualities and grades you based on some stupid combination of numbers on a shitty piece of paper.

 

[s_girl]

what if you already have a very severe personality disorder before 25? Not trying to argue, just curious about your thoughts on this.

I really do not want to argue but I believe we have more control over our personality and we have the ability to change. It has been suggested that 'personality changes can still occur depending on new life experiences and our social identities naturally change as we mature'. There's significant debate within this field. I have studied in this area and could discuss it forever but do not have the time or energy to debate anymore. I might even delete my comment soon.

There's an interesting article on it here: https://www.google.com.au/amp/s/www...ht/201509/can-you-change-your-personality?amp

I personally don't believe the science is anywhere near settled. Psychiatry is a medical field and must categorise and label everything with clinical precision. Psychiatry is NOT well understood and is under funded, so it has not been well researched. There is extensive controversy and debate even within psychiatry itself. There are often multiple views and theories on one single concept... and theories are only that and can be disproven. Societies views on the social sciences and mental illness have changed considerably throughout history. Psychiatry is still considered a 'new' modern medical field that is constantly changing and developing.

Anyway, I still stand by my opinion and thoughts, as stated before, but everyone is entitled to do what's best for their life.

 

[JadedGray]

Most of us start understanding the true nature of the world when we are teenagers. It's natural that people are prone to start having suicidal thoughts or attempts at this age. It's when we take the rose-colored glasses from our childhood off.

I agree with this. Childhood and the mindset we have as kids, shelter us from how this world truly operates. It makes sense to become suicidal as a teen, when faced with the true nature of human beings and this world, and when our minds begin to mature into adulthood.

 

[deathxoxo]

I'm a teenager. I've been hospitalized multiple times, & I'm not going back for the same bs. I have to do this before I become a adult and face more harsh reality's. It shouldn't have ever come to this point where i'm searching for my method, writing my letters, and giving away items. I'm really tired. I wish every teen well they all deserve the best life can offer. I can't take it anymore. I've truly tried to help myself but I don't think I want to realize that some parts of me are disturbing and vengeful. I don't want to hurt anyone anymore which contradicts what i'm saying. what I mean is that I don't want to live a life misery and regret not killing myself when I'm in my 80's... I don't want to be told i'm so YOUNG to consider this but a lot can happen in the span of someone's up bringing.... I'm scared I haven't fully thought this through but If I was given the opportunity to take my life peaceful or die from some sickness at this age. I would 100% take it with out a doubt.

 

[Monster]

I might just be a dick but I say teenage suicides that are just from one thing going bad and doing it in the heat of the moment (like because of a breakup) are pretty fucking dumb. But if it's because you've learned what the world is like, you understand what all the implications of suicide are, all that other crap, then yeah there's not much reason to treat it differently than adult suicide.
There will always be the "but the future could be different" argument. Yes. No one should ever just kill themselves because some bad things happened or they never tried to make things better or see what could change. But after that, yeah it's the same. Your choice.

 

[discokicks]

Wait and try to see if things get better. Your brain is still developing.

 

[itsallover]

I should have killed myself when my mental illness first hit and I had to leave college. Since then I've been overmedicated to the point I got physically sick. My mind wasn't strong enough to make it in this world. If you are going through intense irreversible suffering then it's okay.

 

[iwannaendme]

I guess your situation isn't the best if you are on this forum. I don't think there's anything bad if u r in teen years and having suicidal thoughts. I'm also 18yo and I just wanna ctb asap. Have thse feeling since 14? I think. But probably year ago, when I was 17, it got to point where I think about it constatly and it's only relief I can get.

I don't believe in shits like "things will go better". That's fucking bullshit. Anytime and I mean it ANYTIME I feel a little bit better, the next day or so, it's all back and I just wish I did it sooner. Things are hard now, so I can't imagine how would they be in next couple of years. Hopefully I'll ctb at this age tho.

 

[LastFlowers]

I kind of wish I had CTB'd when I was much younger or simply died, before I had the chance to make myself even uglier. Before I was aware of what I lacked. But there was also another fork in the road back then that could have led to the slight possibility of fixing my face enough to feel relief and live my life. Now I'm too far gone and have no support, I'm an "adult" so suddenly responsible for anything and everything wrong with me, even the things out of my control. Even the things that happened or weren't helped as a child.

So I'm really on the fence when it comes to this subject. I know people and life can change a lot from that age onwards, but there is also a chance it will stay the same or get even worse. So without a fortune teller, I really can't say.
There is also the whole subject of when a brain is fully developed enough to make rational decisions that are well thought over.
I made bad decisions that have affected me to this day when I was young and stupid. Whose to say suicide can't be someone else's bad decision at that age..even though I believe everyone should have that option, it's something to think about.

 

[tomz323]

I honestly would wait to you're 20, I'm 22 though and I've always wanted to kill myself.

 

[BridgeJumper]

If youre in ubrearable pain, why would you want to wait till twenties? I had my first attempt at the ripe old age of 13. Its your decision :)

 

[tomz323]

If youre in ubrearable pain, why would you want to wait till twenties? I had my first attempt at the ripe old age of 13. Its your decision :)

Yeah, I guess its always up to the individual. I wanted to kill myself at 13 I just told myself it would get better and to wait. At 22 I'm an adult and know that's not possible.

 

[Meretlein]

My situation is complicated, but I can tell you that some of the reasons are boredom, low self-esteem, appearance, self-consciousness, hate, loneliness, jealousy, and insecurities.

Thnx. I personally think it doesn't matter how long you live, it's how you live. Quality over quantity.

I don't want to invalidate your feelings but I would not commit suicide if I were you. It sounds like there is still hope for you. No one can make this decision for you.

 

[tomz323]

I don't want to invalidate your feelings but I would not commit suicide if I were you. It sounds like there is still hope for you. No one can make this decision for you.

I'm glad you think so, thanks man. I'm still looking for something, don't know what but I'm looking. If I cant find it then I'll ctb.

 

[Santiago]

Really depends. A lot of teenage suicides are based on emotional decisions rather than really not having a different way out.

That doesn't count for all teenagers though.