What’s your experience with your ex-partner?

[ThatStateOfMind]

Mine has been fairly alright, she's partially the reason I'm still around. It's weird because she caused/causes me both pain and happiness, with a fair share of both. I get a weird comfort from talking to her though, hence why I'm trying to salvage a friendship which feels possible.

Although I know I'm likely an outlier, as some breakups can be particularly nasty/difficult. What is your experience with your ex?

 

[Bluebunnysky]

Narcissistic behavior

 

[metalpi]

SA'd

 

[HadItAll]

Very good, a few more years together and we'd be married. She was very hot. But we broke up once I got sick and since it's a hereditary disease I knew I would never have children.

She found a good healthy partner and I'm happy for her that she will have a chance at a healthy family.

I had no hard feelings about the breakup since I knew my life was over anyway. We ended it on good terms and we talk if we see each other.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

SA'd

That's rough, I'm sorry you've had that experience.

Narcissistic behavior

I'm sorry if this sounds dumb but what exactly is narcissistic behavior, I've heard the term but never really understood it.

Very good, a few more years together and we'd be married. She was very hot. But we broke up once I got sick and since it's a hereditary disease I knew I would never have children.

She found a good healthy partner and I'm happy for her that she will have a chance at a healthy family.

I had no hard feelings about the breakup since I knew my life was over anyway. We ended it on good terms and we talk if we see each other.

Damn, it's insane how something like that can just creep up and ruin everything. My mental health is partially the reason for my breakup. I was overly clingy sometimes and she was afraid I would hurt myself so she broke up.

We still talk on the phone around once a week and I hope we can reconcile even further and even if we cannot get back together, I would love to remain friends with her. I hope you're handling things okay, I know diagnoses, no matter what it is really sucks, so I wish you well!

 

[HadItAll]

Damn, it's insane how something like that can just creep up and ruin everything. My mental health is partially the reason for my breakup. I was overly clingy sometimes and she was afraid I would hurt myself so she broke up.

We still talk on the phone around once a week and I hope we can reconcile even further and even if we cannot get back together, I would love to remain friends with her. I hope you're handling things okay, I know diagnoses, no matter what it is really sucks, so I wish you well!

Arthritis + other autoimmune conditions significantly physically affecting my every day life. As far as I'm concerned I died that day.

I wouldn't put my hopes up, in my experience it's best not to restart a broken up relationship. But of course only you know the context.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Arthritis + other autoimmune conditions significantly physically affecting my every day life. As far as I'm concerned I died that day.

I wouldn't put my hopes up, in my experience it's best not to restart a broken up relationship. But of course only you know the context.

Yeah I'm not getting my hopes too high because I don't even know if we will. It's an odd situation that I find myself in. She's in a relationship but has feelings for me still, he got with her about 3 weeks after she broke up with me and she said she agreed to get me off of her mind, but apparently it didn't work. I'd like us to get back together but like I said, I'm keeping my hopes low so I'm not too disappointed.

At the very least we can likely keep a somewhat strong friendship, we were friends for 4 years before we got together.

 

[lili]

I have been living with my ex for over a year now. It can be rocky at times. But other times we are friends and play video games, eat food and other stuff.

 

[HadItAll]

Yeah I'm not getting my hopes too high because I don't even know if we will. It's an odd situation that I find myself in. She's in a relationship but has feelings for me still, he got with her about 3 weeks after she broke up with me and she said she agreed to get me off of her mind, but apparently it didn't work. I'd like us to get back together but like I said, I'm keeping my hopes low so I'm not too disappointed.

At the very least we can likely keep a somewhat strong friendship, we were friends for 4 years before we got together.

Alright. Yeah. Odd situation as you've known each other for so long before the relationship.

 

[Bardo]

Narcissistic behavior

Yep. My ex-gf gladly accepted my saving her perfect ass to the tune of thousands. But when I was in need, she begrudgingly and resentfully sent a mere $150. Hope she gets splinters from her broomstick in that perfect ass of hers.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=fCcEjZQQNjo
www.youtube.com/watch?v=RmXRQ3vfzcA

 

[stermc]

The only way I can be at peace is ignoring his existence. And it feels good

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I have been living with my ex for over a year now. It can be rocky at times. But other times we are friends and play video games, eat food and other stuff.

Hmm I've never heard of someone living with their ex. I'd imagine your breakup was a wrong place, wrong time situation or something similar? I say that as I can't imagine an explosive breakup ending with the two amicably living together. Either way, I'm glad you two are doing alright and are friends.

I have been living with my ex for over a year now. It can be rocky at times. But other times we are friends and play video games, eat food and other stuff.

Hmm I've never heard of someone living with their ex. I'd imagine your breakup was a wrong place, wrong time situation or something similar? I say that as I can't imagine an explosive breakup ending with the two amicably living together. Either way, I'm glad you two are doing alright and are friends.

Yep. My ex-gf gladly accepted my saving her perfect ass to the tune of thousands. But when I was in need, she begrudgingly and resentfully sent a mere $150. Hope she gets splinters from her broomstick in that perfect ass of hers.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=fCcEjZQQNjo
www.youtube.com/watch?v=RmXRQ3vfzcA

Ouch, I'm sorry someone did that to you. It amazes me how cruel some people can be to others, and even more so that there's often zero consequences.

The only way I can be at peace is ignoring his existence. And it feels good

Sometimes, that can be the best thing to do.

 

[Bardo]

Hmm I've never heard of someone living with their ex. I'd imagine your breakup was a wrong place, wrong time situation or something similar? I say that as I can't imagine an explosive breakup ending with the two amicably living together. Either way, I'm glad you two are doing alright and are friends.

Hmm I've never heard of someone living with their ex. I'd imagine your breakup was a wrong place, wrong time situation or something similar? I say that as I can't imagine an explosive breakup ending with the two amicably living together. Either way, I'm glad you two are doing alright and are friends.

Ouch, I'm sorry someone did that to you. It amazes me how cruel some people can be to others, and even more so that there's often zero consequences.

Sometimes, that can be the best thing to do.

That's just it. "Blindsided" is the correct term. One thinks one knows another, but only during tough times or alternately tough for each of you at different times, does all that get tested.

 

[5417807]

My ex is a convicted domestic terrorist who groomed, abused and SA'd me and made CP. completely took over my life, isolated me from all my friends and family and left me to die on the side of the road resulting in hospitalisation for hypothermia and other things

TDLR: bad

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

My ex is a convicted domestic terrorist who groomed, abused and SA'd me and made CP. completely took over my life, isolated me from all my friends and family and left me to die on the side of the road resulting in hospitalisation for hypothermia and other things

TDLR: bad

Oh my! I hope you're doing better now, I'm glad he's an ex.

 

[nowaru]

Had breakdown, tried to check on her because I was worried, accused me of SA/stalking, never talked to her again.

 

[oneeyed]

Played mind games (shit tests). Ironically she said trust is very important to her. Haven't dated anyone else since, haven't been pursuing either but don't see myself doing so.
Through a mental exercise I took note of whom I've had sex with, approximately the total number of times doing the deed, and over the total length of time. The result was a geometric regression of epic proportions. If my projections are correct, I'll be cumming dust soon.

 

[hellispink]

being raped, bullied, cheated betrayed . Nothing crazy

 

[lionetta12]

Mine has been fairly alright, she's partially the reason I'm still around. It's weird because she caused/causes me both pain and happiness, with a fair share of both. I get a weird comfort from talking to her though, hence why I'm trying to salvage a friendship which feels possible.

Although I know I'm likely an outlier, as some breakups can be particularly nasty/difficult. What is your experience with your ex?

He worsened my PTSD more than any of my childhood abuse and rape did. I prefered my flashbacks of being abused as a kid than all the terrible flashbacks and nightmares of this narcissist abusing me for 0 logical or legitimate reason for an entire year.

 

[5417807]

Oh my! I hope you're doing better now, I'm glad he's an ex.

I am still in therapy for it but I'm doing better, it's been a long time since then and my current fiancé is a lot nicer and is very understanding. Thank you

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I am still in therapy for it but I'm doing better, it's been a long time since then and my current fiancé is a lot nicer and is very understanding. Thank you

I'm very happy to hear that you're doing much better and that you're with a better person now!