Discussion What would you look for in a ctb partner?

[MMB]

There have been a few threads discussing partners and how difficult it would be to find someone who is ready on exactly the same day and wants their final moments to be the same as yourself. Also someone who would deal with fear, SI, etc. in the same way.

Assuming you're considering partnering, does much of this matter to you? I would prefer to ctb with a partner but only because it would be nice to feel some human presence or contact in those final moments. Just a voice saying goodbye is, to me, infinitely preferable to a lonely death. Obviously I couldn't do this with a complete stranger, I'd need to know the person enough to know they were genuine, and to trust them. Anything else would really be optional.

Sure, in an ideal world I'd get to know them well, we'd share a final experience or two, maybe a last meal, conversation etc. but none of that is really that important. Just to have someone saying goodbye, maybe holding my hand as I breathe my last, would make death more pleasant than my life.

Interested to read your views!

 

[JustAMatterOfTime]

Someone who would push me off a high place.

 

[hfdepression30]

I think someone who equally shares the same intention and inclination to leave, but just need the reassurance of someone else.. it's like sharing the fear or sharing the pain, whilst also not feeling alone on the way out. I would like a partner, but I don't think I'll be able to find one before I CTB. I don't have the time, nor patience to wait

 

[WornOutLife]

I'd rather ctb alone because if one of us survived, he/she or I could go to prison.

However, dying with a partner would be nice.

You know, enjoying our last days getting drunk af, watching series, talking about life and death and making afterlife theories, etc.

Just having fun during our last moments.

 

[Luna88]

not to be alone. The thought is beautiful but the reality is a different matter. Finding someone who wants exactly what you want at the same time is almost impossible. That is more of a coincidence with those who did it. I gave up trying to find someone because it won't work and the disappointment hurts a lot every time. Still, the idea is comforting.

 

[UseItOrLoseIt]

An extra dose of N

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'd rather CTB alone because a partner adds too many variables where something could go wrong for either me or them. To me the most ideal CTB partner would be a spiritual guide living in my head that makes sure I don't screw anything up and that helps me to overcome my SI.

 

[Odwin]

Thought about it. It would be feel kinda weird cbt with someone you don't know.

 

[Zzzzz]

I wouldn't care about age or gender. Only that they are an adult. And that we feel generally comfortable enough with each other in order to do such a thing together. Also they'd need a car ! In order for the method to be doable. I think that's all.

 

[Carrotcake]

I don't think partners are a good idea. It complicates it.

We talk a lot about our survival instinct, but I think that when you are with someone else you start developing a survival instinct for them too. That's only "natural", the instinct of saving a life. And I think that SI is even more difficult to overcome than the one for yourself.

 

[MMB]

I don't think partners are a good idea. It complicates it.

We talk a lot about our survival instinct, but I think that when you are with someone else you start developing a survival instinct for them too. That's only "natural", the instinct of saving a life. And I think that SI is even more difficult to overcome than the one for yourself.

I never thought of it like that. I guess you'd need to strike a balance between getting to know someone well enough to trust them, but not well enough to develop protective feelings towards them.

 

[Lmd]

I prefer to do it alone but having a partner sounds tempting. I only agree if they are crazy and we have some type of connection. Someone totally out of their mind. I want to feel the despair and the rush of the momment.

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

Depends on the gender. If woman I fall in love and then leave whilst crying after rejection, if man we bro-hug and chug the N.

 

[Blondi]

Under 35 , smart , emotionally stable , 100 % suicidal , preferably non-depressed.

 

[lofticries]

Hmm,no. I'd feel guilty if I had even an ounce of influence on this said person taking their own life. Suicide is a very personal choice.

 

[DunnoWhyButYeah]

Hmmm... If I have partner with me, it need to be someone who I can really trust.

I have heard sad stories where someone has ended up as victim of murder so that's not something what I want... Ofc person who I know or who I trust could want to murder me too, but it's not still high risk in my mind.

So that person needs to be trustworthy, he/she must want same things what I want.

 

[smithy]

The one reason I need a partner is that certainty. I don't care about the company. I just want it done.

 

[deleted]

I wanted to be hanged or to be pushed from a tall building, I am very fearful

 

[W’ren]

I don't think i would have a partner.
There was someone who i trusted... who said i wouldn't have had to go alone... and i actually believed in that person's friendship and sincerity.... to the point that i was ready to say ok let's do it when the time comes.... we'd even spoken on discord.
But as always in my life, with everyone, the person began to ghost me... and ultimately did what everyone i place any trust or faith in does.... disappears or leaves....
Sorry. The hurt is vicious at the moment.
Anyways- all that to say that i don't think my head or heart can trust in anyone again to believe them-
The number 1 thing i'd need to see in a person is consistency in the relationship/friendship/whatever in the time leading up to the Time. I'd take time to get to know my partner... Because everyone f*cks off on me... they tell me i'm such a great person.. then like days later they're gone :(
I know people have their own issues but be up front with me! Communication! Don't ghost; Talk!! Ugh. *Humans. I don't get humans*....
I can't believe i got suckered in by pretty words again.
I'm such a fool.

 

[S like suicide]

Someone who is as desperate as I am and who is 100% sure he/she want to die. No regrets! And without steping back at the last minute.It is hard enough that way. Then you add the thought that you are witnessing and killing someone else, even if by mutual agreement so it's very important that this person is 100% sure.

 

[Ameya]

I'd prefer a Partner my age and in my area, which is impossible to find. Plus getting a partner is too high of a risk for me

 

[nightnightnitrite]

Someone I got to know a tad bit beforehand and is similar in age. If they didn't talk about actually CTB in person, ignorant and blissful conversations only. Sort of like two spirits who know it's their time but rather enjoy the last of their time on earth peacefully until the end.

 

[Jblack]

It would have to be someone I have gotten to know a little bit and who I am sure is on the same page as myself. They would really want to use the same method that I am and not just going along. Age is not important just a shared spirit. The thought of exiting with someone next to me in the early sunlight is a comforting thought.