Discussion What would a life that would remove your need to CTB be like?

[Ardesevent]

I'd like to imagine a life where I kept pursuing my hobbies, got a job or socially well-adjusted in high school, and never stooped to becoming a Neet. Knowing me, that life would be impossible to achieve even if things had happened differently, but it's still nice to dream about. I think I could even live with myself now if my hot mess of a brain didn't keep making me make bad decisions.

 

[succor]

I would be physically healthly/able bodied. Still able to work and socialize. That's it. I could muddle through and figure everything else out, but the option/opportunity was taken from me when my health and body took a nosedive.

 

[Meditation guide]

I would be physically healthly/able bodied. Still able to work and socialize.

Same here.

 

[Deleted member 23586]

Whew Chile... I have a list haha.

Capitalism wasn't a thing
Anti Blackness wasn't a thing
Lgtbphobia wasn't a thing
Free Helath care
Fully transitioned
Living closer to my brother
Had a place of my own
A bf that was absolutely amazing
Friends I could interact with irl
My mental health/disabilities werent a thing
Stability
Security
And finally community that made me feel loved and cared for.

So in other words.... I'm screwed haha.

 

[lost guy]

Mine is relatively superficial, but for her to give me a chance.

 

[Meditation guide]

for her to give me a chance.

I could ask what this phrase means, it's always confusing when I hear it but I won't go off topic.

 

[Arthaniel]

I'd like to imagine a life where I kept pursuing my hobbies, got a job or socially well-adjusted in high school, and never stooped to becoming a Neet. Knowing me, that life would be impossible to achieve even if things had happened differently, but it's still nice to dream about. I think I could even live with myself now if my hot mess of a brain didn't keep making me make bad decisions.

I've been thinking about it for a decade ... if I had finished school then instead of drinking, if I had been smarter in my youth, if I had parents who could teach me something in life, convey some values to me. But unfortunately it all turned out this way that I am here now. There is no point in tearing such wounds open

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

If by some miracle I could get a girlfriend and a job doing something that protects people (firefighter, soldier, cop, etc) I'd be more than happy to go on living.

 

[PointlessStruggle]

If by some miracle I could get a girlfriend and a job doing something that protects people (firefighter, soldier, cop, etc) I'd be more than happy to go on living.

ditto. a respectable job and someone who loves me

 

[lost guy]

I could ask what this phrase means, it's always confusing when I hear it but I won't go off topic.

It's possible I may have misunderstood the OP's question. But, if my ex would give me a chance, then it would end my desire to ctb.

Sorry for being vague, I hope this brings some clarity.

 

[everbuzzingone]

For my incredibly severe tinnitus to go away. Started eight months ago out of nowhere, is completely unmaskable and doesn't stop even for a moment.

If that were to go away I think I'd have a renewed outlook on life and not take anything for granted.

 

[MegurineLuka]

Just be able to talk to people and have someone willing to listen. My social skills and anxiety are too bad for that too happen and no one around me really cares. If there ever were they don't anymore

 

[HelloHell]

I have no idea

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Reality/fate/God/whatever would have to cut the bullshit and just bring someone almost exactly like her or miraculously even better into my life, probably right now.

 

[dropdeadfred]

Lack of: Chronic fatigue, overthinking, anxiety, intense empathy, need to eat, consistent exercise, desire for romance... I can relate to a lot of the above.

 

[papermoon]

It'd be a life in which I was a totally different person, and I don't know if I'm okay with that. I spent most of my childhood, adolescence, and what I've had of a young adulthood wishing that things were better, but it's the fight to survive daily that I would not cease to become weary of and yet defines me for who I am as a person.

 

[Arvinneedstodie]

A complete restart of my life without all the health, mental, and other life crushing problems. That's it. Then i can finally try and live to my full potential.

 

[endless_knot]

I've thought endlessly about this subject for years and honestly nothing.

 

[TheEndisNear121200]

A life in which I hadn't been taken advantage of as a child by evil people

 

[OminousVaL]

I would love to rule the world but I will settle for a friend.

 

[Time to fly]

I would love to rule the world but I will settle for a friend.

Can be a virtual friend

 

[sourpink]

a lobotomy/brain transplant, a new body, being born into entirely different circumstances. ive been doomed since day 1, and i didn't ask for this life. add in a lifetime of trauma and my own individual reactions and ways of coping - im just done and there's no fixing any of it, not even possible. im going to be doing myself a kindness as much as others might not see that, that's not what matters. ive tried too much too long and im tired, i want to go home to rest.

 

[sadworld]

I would need to restart my life and even then I would probably fuck everything up because I'm such a unlovable person.

 

[Time to fly]

I would like a chance to go back to being 14 and correct all the wrong decisions..pretty sure I would still end up the same...

I would need to restart my life and even then I would probably fuck everything up because I'm such a unlovable person.

Pretty much the same as my answer...

 

[Lostandlooking]

This might sound weird. Since most people seem to wish to socialize/have friends/spouses etc. But my fantasy is a world without people. Absolutely no-one. No more pressures from society and other people. That would remove my desire to ctb.

 

[botanormal]

If I was able to get rid of my anxiety. I think a lot of my problems stem from it. Ideally, I'd also want to have some social skills, because right now in my life I have trouble just speaking to others, but I think if I didn't have anxiety I'd be able to figure that out eventually.

 

[Aurora]

Be a complete new person with no health issues or crappy DNA. A totally different family and a life of freedom and endless possibilities. Lots of travelling and a decent boyfriend. No history of being abused and bullied.

Sadly, this life is screwed and full of endless regrets.

 

[Lupgevif]

This constant need to prove yourself to literally everyone just so you can keep surviving and living normally.

 

[Weary Soul]

At this very moment? (It changes because of my head injuries.)

A house on a cliff overlooking the ocean (the ocean always brings me peace) where I could start a dog rescue, and have enough money to help those in need to get back on their feet (with the help of others who understand).

Acceptance from my family members, doctors, and society in general that TBI has caused me significant incapacity, even though I have some "normal" days and look normal. (I've often thought that it would have been easier to loose a leg - at least then they could SEE the problem. When it is my brain, they cannot see it.)

So I suppose it boils down to acceptance and help to survive.

Shrugs.. it has never happened in my life so here I am. It will not be long now.

<3

 

[Symbiote]

Maybe if I had parents that actually cared about my wellbeing and not use my body as a vessel of profit for sleazy pedophiles, that would've been great! Maybe if I had a normal childhood I would've came out better in life and not have a lifelong PTSD and trauma that affected my adult life.