What will other people say?

[Aliaiactaest]

One of the worries I have is what will other people say? What will other people think? Does anyone else feel that way?

I'm older (58). Things are tight financially now, but I used to be quite well to do. I went to the best schools. I'm introverted and have tried to stay away from those with overly high expectations of social status, but still, I'm not immune from the sting of what other people will say and think, and how that will impact my daughters and my legacy. (Not that much of a legacy, but still. I care about what people think of me.)

Then again, I stare at the sky and realize what a small and insignificant part of the universe we are. There will be shock and dismay and sadness. But life goes on. In a year, most people will have forgotten. In 30 years, all my friends will be old and infirm, if not dead. In 100 years, it is nothing.

 

[Pointlessabyss]

One of the worries I have is what will other people say? What will other people think? Does anyone else feel that way?

I'm older (58). Things are tight financially now, but I used to be quite well to do. I went to the best schools. I'm introverted and have tried to stay away from those with overly high expectations of social status, but still, I'm not immune from the sting of what other people will say and think, and how that will impact my daughters and my legacy. (Not that much of a legacy, but still. I care about what people think of me.)

Then again, I stare at the sky and realize what a small and insignificant part of the universe we are. There will be shock and dismay and sadness. But life goes on. In a year, most people will have forgotten. In 30 years, all my friends will be old and infirm, if not dead. In 100 years, it is nothing.

Very well written and in a way answering your own question. I'm not necessarily worrying about what people will say but more of the impact it will have on those close to me.

As you said in 100 years we will all be forgotten anyway.

 

[soda_pressed]

It all depends on what you believe might happen after you pass.
For me, it won't matter what people will say, as I'll be dead.

 

[Final Escape]

Nobody will notice that I'm gone because I have such weak connections with most people. I mainly talk to one friend who is aware that I plan to ctb. He totally understands and has been supportive. I wish I could have him help me or be there when I do it but I realize that could get him in trouble so I have to ctb by myself.

 

[H2H2]

I have always been the odd one. My suicide is going to make their prejudices right and I feel upset about it.

 

[Bulletwbttrflywings]

One of the worries I have is what will other people say? What will other people think? Does anyone else feel that way?

I'm older (58). Things are tight financially now, but I used to be quite well to do. I went to the best schools. I'm introverted and have tried to stay away from those with overly high expectations of social status, but still, I'm not immune from the sting of what other people will say and think, and how that will impact my daughters and my legacy. (Not that much of a legacy, but still. I care about what people think of me.)

Then again, I stare at the sky and realize what a small and insignificant part of the universe we are. There will be shock and dismay and sadness. But life goes on. In a year, most people will have forgotten. In 30 years, all my friends will be old and infirm, if not dead. In 100 years, it is nothing.

Honestly, what does it matter what people say or think? Peace has happened and their views aren't meaningful anymore...

 

[Ln42]

One of the worries I have is what will other people say? What will other people think? Does anyone else feel that way?

I'm older (58). Things are tight financially now, but I used to be quite well to do. I went to the best schools. I'm introverted and have tried to stay away from those with overly high expectations of social status, but still, I'm not immune from the sting of what other people will say and think, and how that will impact my daughters and my legacy. (Not that much of a legacy, but still. I care about what people think of me.)

Then again, I stare at the sky and realize what a small and insignificant part of the universe we are. There will be shock and dismay and sadness. But life goes on. In a year, most people will have forgotten. In 30 years, all my friends will be old and infirm, if not dead. In 100 years, it is nothing.

I can really relate to this and I try and tell myself it doesn't matter as I'll be dead but I do worry. It's silly, I even worry what my colleagues will think and what they will say about me. I feel pathetic as i'll be dead so why do I care so much!?!

 

[SHThrowAway213]

My immediate family and partner know about my mental health difficulties.
I think my IF would be shocked and upset, but they would know why .
My other family members would be extremely shocked and would have no clue.
I have no friends... The people at work would be very confused... I'm a bit worried about that as they know my partner.
My parter would be extremely upset and angry, but he would understand why, but at the same time be hurt.

 

[Soul]

I believe most people who know me will respond: "What?! Really!? I thought Soul died years ago!"

 

[Mart]

One of the worries I have is what will other people say? What will other people think? Does anyone else feel that way?

I'm older (58). Things are tight financially now, but I used to be quite well to do. I went to the best schools. I'm introverted and have tried to stay away from those with overly high expectations of social status, but still, I'm not immune from the sting of what other people will say and think, and how that will impact my daughters and my legacy. (Not that much of a legacy, but still. I care about what people think of me.)

Then again, I stare at the sky and realize what a small and insignificant part of the universe we are. There will be shock and dismay and sadness. But life goes on. In a year, most people will have forgotten. In 30 years, all my friends will be old and infirm, if not dead. In 100 years, it is nothing.

I personally don't care at all about my legacy. Granted I've built nothing for it. I understand how that might change in your situation. It'd be a gossip point for the neighborhood I grew up in, and then the talk will stop and they'll forget. I never enjoyed any of their company anyways, so I don't much care about that. Have a very small group of friends that I don't talk to anymore, don't think it'll make them happy but I know it won't be difficult for them to get over it. Have two people I genuinely don't want to leave, I'm gonna just bring up my mother though. She already doesn't think highly of me, so I don't worry about it in that sense, just that she'll be angry with me or just sad in general. Other than that though, I'm already out of the mind of everyone, perhaps I'd have a small reentry in their mind when I die, but only for a brief moment. I've made no dent in this world, nothing will change.

 

[Bärchen]

Not much, i dont know many people. A day later i would be forgotten.

 

[Roger]

"His wife was lovely. "

 

[HappyEnding]

I don't care since I'll be dead. But if I had to imagine it...
My mother probably wouldn't understand why I did it or blame it on anxiety when I've told her I haven't had anxiety for years now (she blames every negative emotion I feel on anxiety, which is extremely disrespectful to me), my brother would blame everything on her because he still can't let go of a grudge from my parents' separation; and if he's not hating my dad, he is hating my mom. I think this time, he'll target mom. I dunno how my dad will act. I lived with my mom so I don't know how he'd grieve if he would. He didn't have much of a reaction when he realized I self-harm and never asks about it. But he seemed very excited to spend time with me when I visited him last month. So for him, I'm clueless.

I don't think my friends would ever know. They've never met my family and we only ever chat on social media since we're too busy with work to meet each other. They'd just wonder why I don't post and text them anymore and eventually forget about me.

Meh.

 

[GeorgeJL]

Honestly I don't give a fuck what my friends and family think and I especially don't care what society thinks.

Besides I've already told my friends and family that I am going to die before I get too old. They are passive supportive. Meaning they haven't told me that I shouldn't do that. When I die they will probably say "I knew he was going to take his life one day on his own terms, but I had no idea that he had a euthanasia drug this whole time, apparently on the forums they call it N." LOL

 

[Soul]

"His wife was lovely. "

You left out part of it, @Roger:
"His wife was lovely, and they loved each other deeply and beautifully."

 

[Roger]

You left out part of it, @Roger:
"His wife was lovely, and they loved each other deeply and beautifully."

Thank you.

 

[andy69]

Even though I shouldn't, I worry about what my ex-partner would say or think. He left me by a phone call after two weeks of ghosting me. He probably thinks I am nothing but worthless garbage. He might joke with friends and family and his new boyfriend that I died engaged in autoerotic asphyxiation.

 

[Jolene40]

I care greatly what is left behind for my little one. I wish desperately to die naturally from all this crap I have but I fear it will just continue to torture me to the point of cabbagedom- I'm already there. I'd of course rather be well and healthy again but it isn't happening I know that.
Everyone else can go swivel tbh

 

[Thorn]

It all depends on what you believe might happen after you pass.
For me, it won't matter what people will say, as I'll be dead.

 

[inconsequential]

The ones who don't understand, don't matter. The ones who do understand, will be sad for themselves, but happy that I'm no longer in pain. They've expected it for a few years— still hanging on.

 

[mathieu]

I think personally my family will understand because I've struggled with my mental health and had multiple suicide attempts since I was 15. Even extended family know I'm not well. I haven't been able to work or study in nearly a decade. I hope they will be happy in a way, that I'm not suffering anymore.

 

[Juggernaut]

I wonder what some people will say. The only one I feel bad for is my mom, she will be devastated but she is well aware of what drove me to my depression. My depression since Dec has been having an emotional and physical toll on me. I resigned my job last week ( having lost my partner of the last 6.5 years during a shift in Dec). I was rushed back to work after taking less than two weeks off and was immediately paired with a new partner which made things much much harder. Some people can escape the pain by throwing themselves into their work, how do you do that when your job is a constant reminder of the best friend you lost?

I don't care whatsoever, what society thinks. It's shocking the number of people choosing to end their lives, children as young as 6 and adults as old as 70, the numbers are climbing every year, and people say the same things every time so I don't think it will be any different with me

 

[Jean Améry]

For you personally everything will cease to be upon your passing. For your daughter it'll be another matter of course: the news might impact her socially.

Personally I don't care about my 'legacy': in the end nothing truly matters, everything will cease to be and at one point nobody will know a race of foolish semi-intelligent monkeys lived on this planet they called earth.