What should I do

[Canon1]

Hi!

Since my gf has left me, i don't know how to survive anymore. Feel totally lost and have no connection to anyone. It's been 5 months now i haven't seen her and the pain doesn't go away. I can't deal with this situation anymore and thinking all the time of ctb. I have a good job and i am not ugly but she was everything for me and now i am alone and that makes me extremely sad.
Thinking of buying sn but i am not sure if my death will change anything.

 

[autumnal]

Hi!

Since my gf has left me, i don't know how to survive anymore. Feel totally lost and have no connection to anyone. It's been 5 months now i haven't seen her and the pain doesn't go away. I can't deal with this situation anymore and thinking all the time of ctb. I have a good job and i am not ugly but she was everything for me and now i am alone and that makes me extremely sad.
Thinking of buying sn but i am not sure if my death will change anything.

It sounds like you might benefit from some therapy and/or medication to help you see beyond your current situation, and perhaps allow you to consider options other than suicide. Relationship breakdowns always seem catastrophic and like the worst kind of pain imaginable, but we all have them and most of us find we can heal and continue our lives.

Not trying to be clichéd here, and you can certainly keep suicide up your sleeve as an option for down the track if your relationship turns out to be one of the few from which the loss is truly unrecoverable.

 

[Searchinghope]

Hi!

Since my gf has left me, i don't know how to survive anymore. Feel totally lost and have no connection to anyone. It's been 5 months now i haven't seen her and the pain doesn't go away. I can't deal with this situation anymore and thinking all the time of ctb. I have a good job and i am not ugly but she was everything for me and now i am alone and that makes me extremely sad.
Thinking of buying sn but i am not sure if my death will change anything.

Buddy I can understand I am guessing you are really young we all have been in that situation..its so strange that we meet someone in our life that we have not know before and than we can't imagine our life without them.. It will pain you..but 5 month is not long.. The pain will move away just give it some more time .. Go to therapy or talk about it here.. Eventually it gets better telling you this from personal experience...

 

[Canon1]

I am 33 years old and i can't imagine being with her. I feel so lonely and empty that words can't describe it.

 

[theguineapigking]

Hey man. I'm really sorry to hear about the breakup. Most people get better with time. Especially after 5 months. You must REALLY care about her if you still feel this way. I can truly understand that.

What do you mean by you don't know if your death would change anything? It could surely hurt family and your ex. It would change your life, whether or not there's something after death.

Have you ever felt this way before the breakup? Any depression or suicidal thoughts, even if it was before you guys were together?

Have you considered therapy? Do you have friends you can confess to about your depression? It can help a lot to have someone in person that truly cares and can empathize with you. You should really consider that. I cannot say life is really worth living, as that's for each person do decide I guess. But please rethink this, especially if the breakup is the sole reason for you feeling this way.


I haven't been in a true relationship ever(I was in a few cute relationships when I was young). But I can definitely empathize. If you need someone to talk with in the meantime,I'm here for you. But please consider the above advice. Ultimately it's up to you if you feel life is worth living or not.


Best wishes in the meantime.

 

[terry_a_davis]

I have a good job and i am not ugly

You have these things going for you and over time it should get better and chances are you might meet someone else.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

i am not sure if my death will change anything.

I'm confused by this statement. Would you care to elaborate?

 

[Canon1]

Well, what would change if I was death except my pain would've gone. But she would be in grief at first and then back to normal life and get happy with her new bf.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Well, what would change if I was death except my pain would've gone. But she would be in grief at first and then back to normal life and get happy with her new bf.

It seems to me your ctb is more directed at changing her than it is about you. I had a suspicion that something like this was up, that's why I asked.

Ctb is about self-determination, not other-determination.

You asked what you should do. No one can answer that for you, but I will give advice based on my own experience.

Accept the truth. The truth sometimes hurts but it never harms. What causes harm is to not accept the truth. Had I understood this, it would have significantly reduced the six years it took me to recover from a breakup. The truth was, I loved him and wanted to be together forever, he did not want to be together forever, and he moved on and took my favorite thing with him: him. He had the right to do that.

 

[highlyvolatile]

I know how you feel all too well, but please try talking to people here, counseling or also try just thinking about things more before you take action and do anything. I know losing her hurts. You said its been only 5 months, its been 3 for me. I dont want to give you any advice i myself arent following. I know you may have wanted things to last, I did too. But people will ultimately do whats best for themselves in the end. You loving her will continue to hurt, but you'll have to try to do whats best for you. Im not saying you'll be past things in a day or whatever. Or you may not at all some people dont ever quite recover from some heartbreak. I just ask you try to do things that make you feel like things are ok/good for a little while. For me its eating comfort and snack foods, watching cartoons/anime, and talking to nice people. I know you're hurting and heartbroken but please consider giving yourself a bit more time to think about things. ♡ Feel free to PM or chat me if you'd like to talk. We can vent about our exes together. ((Lol if thats healthy???))

 

[lanitoasmr]

My bf left me because of my ctb situation and I couldn't have any reaction about it. Sometimes I feel that I'm not a empathic person