What makes you lose respect for someone?

[RileyTanaka]

Just curious to see people's answers. I struggle with my anger issues, but I've learned not to show it to others when I'm angry or disappointed in them unless I want to blow up the relationship. For me, I lose a lot of respect to people if they're not honest with me or if they lie. I can spot a lie rather easily through inconsistencies or how things are said and it quickly undermines my trust in them. It also shows me that they underestimate me in figuring it out. Sure, not all lies are equal - and people lie routinely about many things. But some lies are just beyond excuse. I might be civil with them moving forward, but I won't look at them the same way again.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Agree, being lied to. Being gas lighted.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

For loss of respect they have to really wrong me, and then still, I respect some part of them, because I know all of the ways I suck.

The obvious I guess, serious betrayal, hypocrisy.

 

[kyle]

The only one I've really experienced was being lied to. Besides the kiddos and teens I work with in the outpatient program because they're going through a lot.

 

[BPD Barbie]

Being lied to and being disrespected. Cannot stand either of those. Especially when someone lies and keeps on going to try and cover their tracks.

 

[Broken Chimera]

Being lied to and being looked down on. That's the easiest way to get on my bad side.

 

[enjolras]

If being a coward or a cheater having no values or worse, sitting on them regardlessly. There are persons who choose to be evil and don't care to admit it. It harms my idealistic sense of integrity and make me want to strangle them.
Some liars are pathologic and sick (mythomania) so I won't instantly blame them

 

[Emily_Numb]

I lose respect for someone who does not follow through with what they say they would do. When someone promises to do something but doesn't get round to it. Makes me feel absolute rage even typing it

 

[RileyTanaka]

I lose respect for someone who does not follow through with what they say they would do. When someone promises to do something but doesn't get round to it. Makes me feel absolute rage even typing it

I have this in common with you too, actually. I will respect someone so much more if they can prove themselves reliable and responsible.

 

[Huntfish34]

If they are all for 1..... Themselves with a EGO complex, if they are condescending, belittling, lies........ Just a few..

 

[Lorntroubles]

Lies, hypocrisy, toxic and manipulative, always taking and never giving, ungrateful and complaining, knowing about ethics and morals but they can't be bothered because of their selfish egos, two-faced people

 

[William Barker]

All you can eat rib night.

 

[Iamnotperminant92]

Cowardice when it comes to communication especially when it comes to passive aggressiveness involved. Someone unwilling to meet people halfway or try to make a situation better.

Those who show no integrity and run from their mistakes, or throw other people under the bus (no connection to CTB intended) for profit or image

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I lose respect for people who have a pattern of not owning their own shit and trying to dump it on me or others. I lose respect for lying, manipulating, controlling, physical abuse, intentional cruelty, and gaslighting. I lose respect for people who don't have the inner fortitude to face themselves and try to improve when they have toxic patterns that cause harm to others, even if it's not their fault they developed those patterns, only they can do the work to face them and change them. I lose respect for people who blame others for how shitty they treat them. I lose respect for others who just want to win, and don't give a fuck about the damage they do along the way.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

People who lie, cheat, look down upon others, backstabbers, not even try to understand or think they're holier then the pope, do not have to expect a lot from me, let alone get the tiniest bit of respect.

 

[Mr2005]

People who are slaves to their feelings. Petulant children who take their problems out on me. Constant bullshit and ass kissing just to be popular. A rejection of the truth or any opinion that doesn't validate they're right about everything. Having to go around sparing the feelings of idiots is a giant pain especially when they don't give a damn about mine or other people in general. They expect the world to change on their behalf because of some personal reason. Making their problems everyones. The sense of entitlement is beyond belief. The world revolves them and they don't have to do anything. Totally different standards for others than themselves.

 

[RileyTanaka]

People who are slaves to their feelings.

You and I would probably not get along in real life.
:)

 

[Mr2005]

I'm nice if you are :)

 

[Quarky00]

respect has to be gained before it is lost . And actions over time speak louder than words . In that case a betrayel of trust would make me lose respect .

I bypass several previous criteria i.e. "when someone promise but don't follow" -- I don't have respect for promises so I don't lose respect if not followed . I don't have respect for cheater as it is -- so I can't lose respect towards them ..

A classic example is a person that acts nicely (i.e. words are meaningless for me) but then somehow acts nasty. And well that' betrayal :)

 

[MyStateKilledMe]

In the light of recent news, I will instantly and permanently lose respect for anyone who listens to that piece of shit Fauci, that horseshit Birx, or the mainstream media. We have been brutally lied to by the liberal government and media, whose only agenda is to make Trump look bad for this year's election. Even Fox News is bowing to the liberals. I already kicked a few people out of my life, after they told me the believed in Corona and social distancing. After all, if I'm going to CTB, what difference does it make if they're still in my life or not.

In fact, Fauci's preaching that we have to permanently forego shaking hands, hugging, and other things that make us human is why I want to CTB.

 

[nitrogen]

I lose respect for people who lack respect for animals, children, the elderly, and the environment.

 

[Jengator]

People who judge you without knowing all the information or because of politics. Tired of both. It's like their own egos kick In and they lash out,

 

[Despondent]

Taking advantage of my kindness and belittling me or someone I love. There's no need for it, and it only makes them look like a total fool.

Even when someone's acting "big" to impress their friends (etc) by ganging up on another person. It disgusts me

 

[Sabriel]

Pathological liars, racists, bigots, homophobes, misogynists, sycophants, bullies, cowards, group-think, hate-mongering, the narrow-minded, the addle-brained cattle...

People who grab their pitchforks and gather in groups to go fight a much smaller or weaker opponent.

People who toss their trash everywhere.

People who talk about IQ constantly.

People who need to talk about their honesty or what a "good person" they are and can't back any of it up.

People who treat the homeless like they aren't also people.

People who say they're suffering yet have no problem with making others suffer.

People and their lack of humanity. I've lost a lot of respect for mankind in general and in how everyone treats one another.

 

[Pryras]

How someone treats someone that doesn't directly benefit them or serve them a purpose :)

 

[Jengator]

In the light of recent news, I will instantly and permanently lose respect for anyone who listens to that piece of shit Fauci, that horseshit Birx, or the mainstream media. We have been brutally lied to by the liberal government and media, whose only agenda is to make Trump look bad for this year's election. Even Fox News is bowing to the liberals. I already kicked a few people out of my life, after they told me the believed in Corona and social distancing. After all, if I'm going to CTB, what difference does it make if they're still in my life or not.

In fact, Fauci's preaching that we have to permanently forego shaking hands, hugging, and other things that make us human is why I want to CTB.

Pathological liars, racists, bigots, homophobes, misogynists, sycophants, bullies, cowards, group-think, hate-mongering, the narrow-minded, the addle-brained cattle...

People who grab their pitchforks and gather in groups to go fight a much smaller or weaker opponent.

People who toss their trash everywhere.

People who talk about IQ constantly.

People who need to talk about their honesty or what a "good person" they are and can't back any of it up.

People who treat the homeless like they aren't also people.

People who say they're suffering yet have no problem with making others suffer.

People and their lack of humanity. I've lost a lot of respect for mankind in general and in how everyone treats one another.

such a good list

 

[Arrow]

All you can eat rib night.

lol

 

[Lethe]

People who spew bullshit without knowing all the facts, or outright deny the facts.

 

[Remember to forget]

Just your avarage person I can spot it a mile away. I will just tell them that I don't believe them and to stop fibbing. No point beating around the bush and letting them carry on their behaviour.
When it comes to people I care about, people I have invested my emotions and a huge amount of time to I become a little more blind to such behaviour.

 

[Soul]

I lose respect for people when they don't adhere to their own principles, or when they're cruel to animals, weaker people, etc.

Lying doesn't bother me so much; my so-called boyfriend, for example, makes shit up all the time. When it's a poem or a song he gets praised for it, so why should he stop in everyday life? He just doesn't see much difference between so-called reality and made-up shit. I can appreciate that. (He's been diagnosed as schizophrenic, if that explains anything.)