Discussion What is the thing that normies do that you absolutely hate?

[StaticCryBabye]

Making their depression the core of their identity, they act as though they've endured something incredibly traumatic, even though it's not as severe and could easily be resolved, such as a small fight within their family or a minor misunderstanding. They exaggerate their parents' reactions, making it seem like their parents go crazy and get absolutely furious about their annoying and repulsive behavior. They may even resort to cutting their arm, going to great lengths to make it super obvious and even showing it in your face, hoping you'll notice and become concerned. However, the cuts they make are only superficial. It's disheartening to encounter so many individuals like this, who romanticize and glamorize depression as if it's something trendy and cool. What's even more astonishing is that many of them come from privileged family backgrounds. I've even formed a friendship with one of them, and it's utterly revolting to witness their pretense of being depressed over trivial matters, such as their parents reprimanding them for their rebellious behavior.

 

[imissmykitten]

when people act like all you need is to be positive etc. the other day, i read a comment someone left on a video about turning your life around or something, where he explained he was depressed for a few weeks after his girlfriend broke up with him, but that thinking positive and going to the gym helped and said basically all you need is a good mindset. good for him, but i don't find the "hit the gym think positive" very helpful, to people who actually suffer from depression or any bigger life problems

 

[The anhedonic one]

They are alive.
That's what I hate about normies.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I hate it that they just WON'T accept our right to choose. They'll go on and on with their platitudes and advice. You'll say you've tried some- or, all of their 'solutions' and they haven't worked- you don't even think the end result will be worth it- so you've CHOSEN not to put the effort in anymore. But somehow that won't be enough- they'll just keep on prodding and prodding.

I think the ABSOLUTE worst encounter I've had was with the Crisis line people. I didn't choose to call them. It was a follow up call after those SN police welfare checks. Anyway- I made it clear from the start that I wasn't in immediate 'danger' of using it- it was for future use- if I come down with some debhilitating illness. I made it clear I would call them if I felt like I wanted their help. But they wouldn't let it go- 'So- why did you buy it?' I mean- Why do they think I bought it? I'd already been honest! Then- they went straight to guilt tripping: 'Think of what it would do to your family.' (I'm waiting for my one remaining close family member to go first before I consider it.) Then- even more worrying- they said something about mental capacity- and that REALLY worried me because I expect they do have the power to have you commited. That I suppose is what I hate the most. That the 'normies' with power will use the 'mental illness' card to just do whatever it takes to stop you from becoming a problematic statistic for them.

 

[Not.Flugel]

Making their depression the core of their identity, they act as though they've endured something incredibly traumatic, even though it's not as severe and could easily be resolved, such as a small fight within their family or a minor misunderstanding. They exaggerate their parents' reactions, making it seem like their parents go crazy and get absolutely furious about their annoying and repulsive behavior. They may even resort to cutting their arm, going to great lengths to make it super obvious and even showing it in your face, hoping you'll notice and become concerned. However, the cuts they make are only superficial. It's disheartening to encounter so many individuals like this, who romanticize and glamorize depression as if it's something trendy and cool. What's even more astonishing is that many of them come from privileged family backgrounds. I've even formed a friendship with one of them, and it's utterly revolting to witness their pretense of being depressed over trivial matters, such as their parents reprimanding them for their rebellious behavior.

Well I agree but with most of this but two things, cat scratches doesn't make your struggles invalid and frankly neither does cutting your arm. I get that it can be annoying af but I have yet to notice anyone giving a shit about the state of my arms.

That said glamouring depression or suicidal behaviour like some sort of bad romance novel makes me gag. Yes teenagers are often annoying af to deal with.

 

[FuneralCry]

I cannot stand pro-life people who push toxic positivity and anti-suicide views, anything like that repulses me especially when they push the idea of restricting suicide methods and try to interfere in the attempts to die of other people. Like if they love something so dreadful, tedious and pointless as existence then that's fine for them, they will just suffer more eventually once existing gets worse for them but the fact is that not everyone is as delusional as them to want to exist in such a harmful world and they should just mind their own business.

I personally could never understand what's supposedly so great about existing in order to want to make it into a prison where no one can free themselves from despite the fact that suicide is perfectly logical in this world. Some people just don't want to exist here and that's the reality, it's so disgusting when they say "life is so beautiful" and act like hating existence is the illness. Worshipping and glorifying life is the true illness instead, those people are insane to me, wanting to force other people to suffer against their wishes is inhumane.

 

[leavingsoon99]

I hate when people invalidate my feelings. I hate the 'life-warrior' approach to suicide. That all I need is a little encouragement. As if I'm looking at life all wrong, and everything hasn't turned into utter shit for me. That all I need to do is have a 'positive, mental attitude' and things will turn around. That all I need to do is 'try one more time. "THIS MIGHT BE THE TIME YOU WIN!!!" As if I didn't give everything I had to trying to make life work for me. As if my unmotivation to continue is just some failure within me, and not the combination of circumstances outside of me beyond my control added to things I was never taught about. I hate when people want to paint life and humans as this ball of sour and sweet that we must be willing to experience, regardless of how much it hurts me. I hate when people want to try to make me look at life as some extreme competition that I HAVE TO win!!! Win what? I have no clue. But WIN I must. That all my trauma and pain are irrelevant because "tomorrow's a new day, and you gotta get out there, sack up, and be a BEAST... because LIFE DON'T OWE YOU SHIT!!!" Yet, when I decide to end it, life becomes this little precious moment that I must cherish.

I hate life-warriors.

 

[Source Energy]

Tell you to "move on", not understand, belittle and invalidate your pain. Lack of empathy.

 

[Ferret77]

Well..... There's so many things I absolutely hate about 'normies,' that I would need an entire presentation to sum up everything :⁠-⁠P
But I'm just gonna say this. I hate how everytime I tell someone my trauma and the self destructive thoughts and things I've done to cope with everything, they're just like...."aw but well, look at you now, you're such a strong person..."
I mean....Yeah, no shit. Because I had to, otherwise I wouldn't even live this long. But like....Did I need to be "strong" when I was a kid or in my teens? Bro, I just wanted to be able to be a kid and not deal with abuse, bullying, self harm and stuff.....
Sometimes suffering is just suffering. It doesn't make you stronger, it doesn't build character.....It just fucking hurts.

 

[Source Energy]

Well..... There's so many things I absolutely hate about 'normies,' that I would need an entire presentation to sum up everything :⁠-⁠P
But I'm just gonna say this. I hate how everytime I tell someone my trauma and the self destructive thoughts and things I've done to cope with everything, they're just like...."aw but well, look at you now, you're such a strong person..."
I mean....Yeah, no shit. Because I had to, otherwise I wouldn't even live this long. But like....Did I need to be "strong" when I was a kid or in my teens? Bro, I just wanted to be able to be a kid and not deal with abuse, bullying, self harm and stuff.....
Sometimes suffering is just suffering. It doesn't make you stronger, it doesn't build character.....It just fucking hurts.

Oh, don't get me started on the "strong"...based on how many times I heard that, one would think I'm made of iron.
.so basically if you didn't collapse and drop dead from all the shit you go thru, you're "strong"...well, I want to be weak and not be in pain, how about that, normies...be weak and cry, be comforted, or allowed to ctb

 

[MusicGuy]

The approach they take at suicide, all they say is "Things get better" no they don't, they can get less worse, but they never get actually better, it just takes 1 step ahead just to take 2 back. They act like they are saving your life, like if you didn't know what your own life was like, they believe life is the same for everyone

 

[skin6skin]

when they joke about ctb in front of you or say you are searching for attention when they know what you have gone through

 

[oneeyed]

One of my favorites is when they tell someone suffering from depression (and clearly don't understand) to "cheer up". Well fuck, why didn't I think of that?!

 

[Ferret77]

Oh, don't get me started on the "strong"...based on how many times I heard that, one would think I'm made of iron.
.so basically if you didn't collapse and drop dead from all the shit you go thru, you're "strong"...well, I want to be weak and not be in pain, how about that, normies...be weak and cry, be comforted, or allowed to ctb

Exactly! I'm not bulletproof...O⁠_⁠o
It's also sort of invalidating to your feelings...Like I just told you all of that, and that's everything you're going to say to me?
Why can't I be weak sometimes? Oh, because that's undesirable in society, I get it....

 

[AliceTheGoon]

Not sure I'd call them normies but people who share my degenerative condition and spew platitudes to new sufferers. I swear every time someone says "hang in there" and "you got this" I want to fucking puke. Nobody is obligated to hang in there and what the fuck does 'you got this' even mean. You're not reeling in a fish, your body is wasting away and shutting down completely out of your control. When I first became afflicted all I wanted was the honest truth and last thing I needed was false hope and words that served no fucking purpose. And because of idiots like that I can't have an honest discussion on our forum lest I get dumped on for negativity.

 

[The anhedonic one]

I hate it that they just WON'T accept our right to choose. They'll go on and on with their platitudes and advice. You'll say you've tried some- or, all of their 'solutions' and they haven't worked- you don't even think the end result will be worth it- so you've CHOSEN not to put the effort in anymore. But somehow that won't be enough- they'll just keep on prodding and prodding.

I think the ABSOLUTE worst encounter I've had was with the Crisis line people. I didn't choose to call them. It was a follow up call after those SN police welfare checks. Anyway- I made it clear from the start that I wasn't in immediate 'danger' of using it- it was for future use- if I come down with some debhilitating illness. I made it clear I would call them if I felt like I wanted their help. But they wouldn't let it go- 'So- why did you buy it?' I mean- Why do they think I bought it? I'd already been honest! Then- they went straight to guilt tripping: 'Think of what it would do to your family.' (I'm waiting for my one remaining close family member to go first before I consider it.) Then- even more worrying- they said something about mental capacity- and that REALLY worried me because I expect they do have the power to have you commited. That I suppose is what I hate the most. That the 'normies' with power will use the 'mental illness' card to just do whatever it takes to stop you from becoming a problematic statistic for them.

These goody 2 shoes types are emotional bullies.
They never listen to us, and invalidate our suffering.
They actually make people feel worse.
Sorry you have had bad experiences with these do-gooders too.
They are beyond annoying.

 

[-TheSorrow-]

I hate that people make a mockery of mental illness.
Like OP said, but with MI instead.
They read the DSM 5 or a youtube video, and they change their entire personality to fit the 'symptoms'.
I've personally known people who've done this, so it's not just shit throwing.

People went from stereotypical hick and emos to omg I have BPD guys!!1 I'm going to larp DID!
When I've known these people for more than 5 years and visit on a near bi / weekly basis.
Borrowed one of their phones, ofc i see tiktok. Where this happens ad nauseam.

And these are people that have opened up to about personal matters multiple times, not once did any of these problems or symptoms emerge.
Now all of a sudden they're entirely different, manic even. Then they go back to being normal weeks to a month later, it honestly gets my blood boiling.

 

[justwantpeace520]

One of my biggest annoyances is when people talk about how they end up suffering when someone close to them decides that they've had enough....it's like bruh, how selfish are you that you want someone to suffer just so you don't. It's like two of my favorite sayings..."people be quick to bring flowers to your funeral, but not soup when your sick" and "a man died of hunger, and his funeral had plenty of food"

 

[imissmykitten]

Tell you to "move on", not understand, belittle and invalidate your pain. Lack of empathy.

right, often i feel like the only thing these people care about is giving advice but without actually caring

 

[Xta4Love]

Expecting me to carry on despite my constant crisis and mental health issues. Not being able to walk in my shoes for a bit.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Be normal...

 

[Twiceler]

Making their depression the core of their identity, they act as though they've endured something incredibly traumatic, even though it's not as severe and could easily be resolved, such as a small fight within their family or a minor misunderstanding. They exaggerate their parents' reactions, making it seem like their parents go crazy and get absolutely furious about their annoying and repulsive behavior. They may even resort to cutting their arm, going to great lengths to make it super obvious and even showing it in your face, hoping you'll notice and become concerned. However, the cuts they make are only superficial. It's disheartening to encounter so many individuals like this, who romanticize and glamorize depression as if it's something trendy and cool. What's even more astonishing is that many of them come from privileged family backgrounds. I've even formed a friendship with one of them, and it's utterly revolting to witness their pretense of being depressed over trivial matters, such as their parents reprimanding them for their rebellious behavior.

That doesn't matter how they act. The only important thing is how is their life going and do they have plans on ctb. Normies feel good in their life. They just play, knowing they're safe, that's why they might act like this. Normies are safe, that's conceptual.

So I think it's fine. I personally don't hate normies at all. Just let them do anything they want, if they get any profit of it. They know better.

 

[itsyourfault]

They judge. They will pretend compassion, only to stab you in the back the moment you turn around.

 

[poisontree]

joke at my expense because i self depricate sometimes. "i thought it was ok because you do it all the time" it is a cry for help help me help

 

[UnfeelingVoid]

when people act like all you need is to be positive etc. the other day, i read a comment someone left on a video about turning your life around or something, where he explained he was depressed for a few weeks after his girlfriend broke up with him, but that thinking positive and going to the gym helped and said basically all you need is a good mindset. good for him, but i don't find the "hit the gym think positive" very helpful, to people who actually suffer from depression or any bigger life problems

This 100%. I'm kind of on the younger side myself, but I see so many people my age who just pretend that all you need to do to get better is "stop being sad" and focus on the positives. It's really annoying…

Don't even get me started on faking mental illness like DID, Tourette's, or Depression.