Help what is it called when you can think logically but still make the wrong decisions

[jenny6391bubbles]

for additional context i have adhd and also potentially what appears to be cptsd.

today some former professor asked me out (would treat me out and all) and like at first i was, like, whoa. attention from an older man. but, i knew logically that what he was doing is wrong because he was a former professor paired with being a serial ex- student dater. if i did not ask enough close friends on what to do, i probably would've went through with it bc im an idiot when it comes to men in general and wasn't sure if my intuition that it was kinda iffy was right.

is there a term for like making shitty decisions even though u logically know what you're actually supposed to do? idk if it's some form of self-destruction or self-harm or just some form of impulsiveness.

 

[EternalLight]

I've never heard of a term that specifies that personally, a conscious disregard for the logical, but I think every decision we make has its own logic for us in its own way. Like sacrificing everything for a single human being, such a thing love can make you do. In some ways not doing so is logical, but love is usually much more powerful than material concerns, especially if they're speculative. Is it logical to follow your heart? In some ways I'd say it is, but it depends on how you perceive a situation.

 

[Hollowman]

It's called being human.

 

[OptingOutSmiling]

Don't know, depending on the situation maybe some degree of stubbornness, or naivety. Sometimes being too carefree and just living in the moment? From what you say, you knew it would be wrong but you didn't want to listen to yourself, only to your friends? Please don't think you are an idiot, you sound sensible. Maybe try to have more faith in yourself and trust your feelings

 

[CogitoMori]

Why does shit like this always happen to people that don't want it? Some positive attention from people I look up to would've done me a lot of good in life. I feel bad for the people that don't want it, but at the same time I'm jealous because I do want it and it never happens to me.

 

[SadRatQueen]

I have no idea, but I do it a lot due to my ocd and bpd. I'll think logically what I should or shouldn't be doing but I'll end up doing it anyways.
It's like a form of self harm, I guess?

 

[jenny6391bubbles]

I have no idea, but I do it a lot due to my ocd and bpd. I'll think logically what I should or shouldn't be doing but I'll end up doing it anyways.
It's like a form of self harm, I guess?

yeah, I also feel like it's like this. Like, I know hanging out with the ex-professor would be social suicide and I know I'll be a little suicidal after people telling me off and whatever, but there's a random urge or intrusive thought to do it. Right now, what's helping me is that I'm telling myself that the thoughts are intrusive thoughts and I don't have to act on them. Idk how long it'll work but hopefully it's successful in making me not do anything more stupid with that professor.

 

[SVEN]

Just being me, I fear.