What is a good parent from your perspective?

[3AM]

What is a good parent from your perspective?

 

[Pluto]

 

[pyx]

one who plans out how they are to raise their child, equipping them with the ability to not only perform semi-normatively, but excel within whatever capacity the parent deems fit. raise the child to be well above average in terms of intellect through careful deliberation of a child's desires and curricular habits preceding formal education, take care so that they grow up to be healthy, well-versed in all forms of social conduct and productive habits, etc., all contribute to a child's adaptability later in life. if the child chooses to work as a blue-collar worker, that is their choice. but they should be raised so as to afford equal opportunity to become physicists as well

 

[ayla]

one that really listens & communicates properly, doesn't take everything their child says as some sort of shot to their parenting, open to trying, cares to learn about their childs disorder(s) & monitors their childs internet activity c:

 

[davidtorez]

One who adopts rather than procreates

 

[vampire2002]

hell if i know, i've never had one.
okay seriously, someone encouraging, understanding, doesn't treat their child like they're not a real person until they're an adult, willing to compromise, and not abusive. but yeah, i wouldn't really know. mine are messed up, i have no interest in becoming one either.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

One that doesn't give birth to a child in the first place

 

[radar311]

What is a good parent from your perspective?

The one who LISTENS.
Also understands and believes what you say. And who spends time with you.
I wish i had those..

 

[youwantitdarker]

A good parent is a rock - a person you can absolutely rely on, through thick and thin. A good parent is calm, patient, listens, observes and gives you good advice, without judging you. A good parent is someone who understands what you're going through and can help you deal with it. A good parent is a good caretaker and provider, a role model of what you can be when you grow up, an inspiration. A good parent is gentle and kind, but not coddling. Balance is key

 

[star.trip]

Fortunately,I'm not a parent and I've no intention of becoming one. Being a good parent must be difficult because sometimes parents have in their minds an image of their child that doesn't correspond to reality, that is, they think their child is one way and in reality he/she has another personality. Listening is always difficult because it requires not only listening to words but also knowing how to interpret emotions.

 

[Remna's]

Someone who doesn't dump their own trauma on their kids

 

[sancta-simplicitas]

First of all, someone who got kids for the right reason. Not as an accessory or an Instagram model. Not as a way of curing loneliness, lack of meaning or self worth. Not as a projection surface for their own narcissism, to follow societal norms or "just because". Rather for believing in raising a child, believing that you could foster them into good, secure people.

Then, I am not really sure. I've spent a lot of time thinking about this because there is this idea that you should internalize your own ideal parent if you didn't have healthy, real life counterparts. It's a work in progress. But I'd like to think that first and foremost they should be aware that the child is their own human. They have their own personalities, talents, fears, dreams and insecurities and those shouldn't be minimzed in favour of what the parent wants to see. Which is often themselves. Then I think a certain amount of childishness is crucial. They need to be able to empathize with the child, to see the world from the child's own perspective, and able and willing to actively play. I do think that most adults would benefit from that. Then ofc sensible, nurturing, patient, flexible, genuine (to a degree, please do not be too honest with your children) and with firm but loving boundaries.

 

[Houraisan_Kaguya]

Can I say 'not mentally ill'? Or will that get me hunted down by an angry mob?

I'm sorry, but if you're not capable of properly taking care of yourself, you're not capable of properly taking care of a child. I was born into this situation and have absolutely zero desire to let anyone else grow up in the same environment.