What do you think about those that just linger over a high building or bridge?

[TheSadPlayer]

I understand the hesitation about ending your life, it's not easy, but I wouldn't go to a bridge or a high building or whatever to jump off unless I am absolutely sure I want to end my life. If you really wanted to die, you don't wait for the cops to show up, you just jump off and get it done. Why do you think some of these people put themselves into this situation? To wait there just for the cops to drag you away? :/

 

[112]

tbh as someone who is considering jumping as my chosen method, the fear of heights is real and sometimes you get up there and just can't do it. a lot of things have to align, and the nature of suicidal ideation in a lot of people is such that the moments where one can actually do it are fleeting. as opposed to poisoning or self-inflicted gunshot, hanging, etc., you're travelling perhaps a considerable distance and will have time to lose the impulse before you get down there sometimes. i've jumped a 120 foot bridge before and it took me a few walks to work up the courage. i doubt i'd have been able to jump onto solid ground if that were the way i was going; intellectually i know drowning is worse, but there's something instinctual (for me, at least) which makes solid landings undesirable.

otherwise, yeah, some people go up there hoping the fuzz will come out and grab them. it's common.

 

[jodes2]

I spent ages lingering on beachy head cliffs a number of times. I had a camera with me though so not to attract attention

 

[Pinkliquid12]

I imagine it's a cry for help - and a pretty effective one at that. If you show that you're serious about killing yourself then surely people will stop brushing you off. It was only then I was finally able to see a psychiatrist. Society is terrible at being proactive.
Staring down cliffs can be kind of theraputic too. You can picture yourself jumping until you're satisfied without actually doing it. It also gets you used to the idea.

 

[Hollowillow]

I understand the hesitation about ending your life, it's not easy, but I wouldn't go to a bridge or a high building or whatever to jump off unless I am absolutely sure I want to end my life. If you really wanted to die, you don't wait for the cops to show up, you just jump off and get it done. Why do you think some of these people put themselves into this situation? To wait there just for the cops to drag you away? :/

Nice view? Waltz with death? Waiting to suicide by cops?

 

[FuneralCry]

Of course I don't really know the answer, but maybe those people actually planned to go through with ctb but the SI prevented them from jumping straightaway so maybe they just stand there thinking, trying to give themselves the courage to finally go through with it. Jumping sounds like a terrifying method and of course suicide is difficult as we are all programmed to survive.

 

[Life_and_Death]

dreaming

 

[LaVieEnRose]

tbh as someone who is considering jumping as my chosen method, the fear of heights is real and sometimes you get up there and just can't do it. a lot of things have to align, and the nature of suicidal ideation in a lot of people is such that the moments where one can actually do it are fleeting. as opposed to poisoning or self-inflicted gunshot, hanging, etc., you're travelling perhaps a considerable distance and will have time to lose the impulse before you get down there sometimes. i've jumped a 120 foot bridge before and it took me a few walks to work up the courage. i doubt i'd have been able to jump onto solid ground if that were the way i was going; intellectually i know drowning is worse, but there's something instinctual (for me, at least) which makes solid landings undesirable.

otherwise, yeah, some people go up there hoping the fuzz will come out and grab them. it's common.

Can you share more about your jumping attempt? What kinds of injuries did you sustain? I imagine it was devastating to work up the courage for that and not succeed.

 

[MidnightDream]

I've been there. I went to the top of a high building, off my face, just to really consider things. I eventually decided to go through with it, but didn't want to be alone. The person I called called the police, and off I went off the bridge. There's so many reasons why someone might not jump.. Fear of heights, survival instinct, contemplation, etc. It shouldn't be judged.

 

[112]

Can you share more about your jumping attempt? What kinds of injuries did you sustain? I imagine it was devastating to work up the courage for that and not succeed.

I sustained nothing for injuries except a high level pain and a limp lasting for a few weeks. I was hypothermic when I arrived in hospital but it was not problematic and my temperature settled reasonably soon. The coast guard was nearby and picked me up after maybe 5-10 minutes. The currents were strong and difficult to negotiate. Someone came up to me paddling on a board and told me I wasn't allowed to swim there before the guard came around. It is surprising how quickly you fall--intense. I remember hitting the water and being submerged a decent length, and it was green until I came up. It took a few strokes to reach the surface, although I didn't quite hit the bottom of the water. In hospital they sent me to the trauma room immediately and had a lot of people in there. I was upset and didn't want to keep the neckbrace on that they had fitted to me, so they tied me down mfw. I wasn't co-operating with them on the x-rays either. They did an MRI (I think?) too but everything came back good. I was sent to psych and discharged like 5 hours after it happened. They had cut my pants off in the ambulance and I had to get a new pair; I requested the shrink let social work know I'd need some new trousers before I left, and she was like "oh, ye, they'll get you some real nice pants, 112." I received a pair of inpatient ones which left my genitals exposed and had to walk out showing everyone what I've got. (Someone I had as a contact at the time got upset at what happened and the shrink, who was head of the department at the time, was fired.)

 

[whatstheporpoise15]

Thinking of jumping and actually getting to the top of a building are completely different things, and I imagine many become paralyzed with fear. I was checking out the rooftop of a family member's apartment building (and they were with me). I had plans to jump off of it when I got the chance to be alone, but as soon as I looked down (bear in mind I was just "casually" checking it out with my relative), I had a panic attack and had to go back downstairs.