I don't know much about this guy but, from this brief YouTube clip, it seems like he has a low opinion of women:
I'm assuming he's using 'gay' as a derogatory slang term as a synonym for someone who's being pathetic/ inferior/ needy. I'm not saying I agree with those descriptions but- I've heard people describe something as 'gay' as derogatory in those terms.
So- being a sensitive man who wants comfort from another being- male or female- is 'gay'? Is his take that the true heterosexuals out there only want to dominate then? Does he see himself as some alpha male?
But then- it's usually the complaint by incels that women go for the more assertive/ aggressive alphas. A lot of the time- they seem to complain that they aren't being accepted for not having those qualities.
Seems to me like he wants his cake and to eat it. You can't be rejected for not being an alpha and then claim to be an alpha because you have been rejected or because you can't achieve the things that alphas (supposedly) can. Maybe he isn't one for more sensitive love acts but- maybe that's also why he's being rejected!
To my mind, he's the typical worse kind of a mysogynistic heterosexual male. To that extent- I would agree with him- from the female perspective- a sensitive gay man who respected their rights and is fun to be around would be much more preferable to this guy. So sure- they may very well go for a guy with a more feminine side to this guy.
Where I might think he has a point is- in many relationships I've witnessed, the woman emasculates the man. And, the man seems happy to be under the thumb. That's not all men and women though. As for whether it could be considered 'gay' or- a feminizing of men- I'm not sure really.
I actually feel sorry for guys- that they are expected to be all things now. Both sensitive and strong. Receptive and dominant. It's got to be confusing. But, as for judging relationships in general- I think that's too broad strokes.
Of course, if he doesn't want to change himself or 'lower' himself in the hopes of pulling someone- that's entirely up to him. I tend to feel that way. I don't think I'd enjoy complying to what I imagine most men would want in a relationship. I don't consider myself better for doing that though. I'm just following the path that best suits me. I just think he's trying to reassure himself ultimately though. That he can't get laid but- that's a good thing. It proves he's a real man.
I sort of agree to an extent. I likely won't get laid because I won't shift on my values and morals and, I won't be who I'm not to try and attract someone. It's very nuanced though. It doesn't make people who do comply or change weak- it just means they wanted different things.
Regardless though- if I'm correct in my interpretation- I hate the use of 'gay' as a derogatory term anyway. Gay people have to be incredibly strong to survive in society. I also think he's lying to himself if he believes he enjoys living without comfort, sensitivity and support. I'm sure he'd actually love a cuddle from a lady. I'd pitty any woman who got entangled with him though. I imagine he'd be very unpleasant to be around.
