
Kimlett
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- Jan 7, 2024
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Do you have any experience with this kind of therapy? Do you think it can be helpful? I might start going to psychoanalysis therapy and I would like to know your opinions about it, positive or negative.
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I hope you have a great experience with this! This has been super helpful for me in the past, while no therapy has cured me of SI digging into what my underlying motivations are, how and why I make choices, and having guidance has been extremely useful for me to help prevent self sabotage and hurting the people I love with my irrational behaviorsDo you have any experience with this kind of therapy? Do you think it can be helpful? I might start going to psychoanalysis therapy and I would like to know your opinions about it, positive or negative.
Is it similar to the Castaneda warrior's way of self-stalking? That's kind of my question though - does noticing patterns necessarily free one from them? Is there an actual freedom? You can't simply will yourself to stop being hungry. You can ignore it, sure, but up to a point. If you're tired, you will fall asleep at some point.It looks at the past not to find someone to blame, but to find the reasons why we feel, act, and relate to ourselves and others in the way we do. Those unconscious relational and affective patterns drive us without us noticing, and cause us to suffer. Through analysis, we gain insight into those unconscious dynamics, and once you understand what's behind this feeling or that relational pattern, you are no longer bound by it — you have the freedom to choose to act differently. That's the whole point of analysis.
my EXACT thoughts and more ^_^ was really good to read this especially as i am also interested in psychoanalysis and doing psych in uni :>To get my bias out of the way, I am currently studying psychology at uni, with a psychoanalytic focus. Most courses are taught by practising analysts, from a psychoanalytic viewpoint.
Been in analysis for almost three years at this point. I like it, and I've found it incredibly helpful.
I may or may not have talked about this here before, but one of my big issues was career-related — after bouncing from career to career for almost half my life, I found myself doing work that I found completely meaningless. I started my analysis essentially by chance — I looked for a therapist without really knowing much of anything about psychotherapy, and ended up with a psychoanalyst. My knowledge of the discipline at that point was limited to the usual misconceptions of "Freud was all about sex", "all your problems are because you're in love with your mum", and so on, so I was somewhat hesitant, but I was kind of exhausted and ready to start gathering everything I needed to kill myself and be done with it, so I thought "fuck it, let's give it a go since I'm already here". After about a year my life was so different, and I felt so different, that I began to think it might be worth it to go back to uni, get another degree, and get psychoanalytic training to do this kind of work myself. The way I've described it to people is something like: "if I can help one person like my analyst has helped me, then I've done something worthwhile with my life."
There are many misconceptions about psychoanalysis. There are excellent analysts and shit ones, like in every other field. Modern psychoanalysis has moved on from the "you want to marry your mum" cliché, which is in itself a total misunderstanding of the Oedipus complex. Freud remains the cornerstone of psychoanalysis, but there's been loads of other authors that have advanced the field in the past century. Yes, psychoanalysis is not scientific, but a therapeutic modality being "scientific" doesn't really mean anything when it comes to its efficacy. Being "scientific" or "evidence-based" has become a buzzword. Psychoanalysis cannot be scientific, because it deals with the subjective experience of individuals, and you cannot measure or accurately describe and reproduce someone's subjective experience. Analysis is entirely individual, there is no manual or handbook to follow — the process is tailored to every individual patient. Every session is unique.
Also, psychoanalysis is not about dwelling on the past, or re-living bad memories over and over. The reason why it looks to the person's past is because past experiences shape how we act and see the world, others, and ourselves, in the present. It does look at the person's early life history, because our childhood relationships and experiences influence the present in all sorts of ways. It looks at the past not to find someone to blame, but to find the reasons why we feel, act, and relate to ourselves and others in the way we do. Those unconscious relational and affective patterns drive us without us noticing, and cause us to suffer. Through analysis, we gain insight into those unconscious dynamics, and once you understand what's behind this feeling or that relational pattern, you are no longer bound by it — you have the freedom to choose to act differently. That's the whole point of analysis.
That being said, it is not an easy modality to engage with. A good analyst will not give you advice, will not tell you why you do this or that, why people in your life act the way they do. Because the analyst cannot know any of that. The analyst is there not to cure you (psychoanalysis does not believe in "cures", because the human experience and the human mind are way more complex than a broken bone you can mend), or to give you the answers. The analyst is there to be a sort of guide and companion. They will listen to you deeply, and point you towards things that might be worth exploring, or remark on inconsistencies, conflicts, or patterns in what you say, not as a "gotcha", but as an invitation to explore what those might mean. The analyst is not going to diagnose your ex, or your family with a disorder. The analytic relationship is not a friendship, or a mentorship, or any other kind of relationship people are familiar with. It's a relationship between two individuals, safeguarded by secrecy, free from judgment, where the analysand can say anything the want to say, however they want to say it. The goals are set by the analysand, the analyst is there to assist them.
There are times where you go into a session feeling a bit down, and you come out feeling like absolute shit. That is expected, and entirely normal. Analysis is about confronting the crap that we've been ignoring for years, decades, or our entire lives, that we carry with us all the time and make us suffer. It requires commitment, and emotionally-draining work. The analyst has no magic words to say that will make you feel better. And it's entirely possible that you will feel worse before you feel better, because you'll be dealing with painful things that have been neglected and buried in the unconscious. Those things don't go away, though. They keep coming back, like herpes.
So, yeah. I do like psychoanalysis. There are aspects of it I don't fully agree with, but I like it nonetheless.
If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask.