Richard O'Brien, the creator of 'The Rocky Horror Show' has said in interviews that he considers himself 70% man and 30% woman.
Obviously, I know we have a number of trans members in the community so, obviously ignore the thread if it's too triggering.
I'm curious though- how people view themselves. I have maybe a nuanced experience of it but then, I suppose all our experiences are individual and nuanced. But, I see biological gender and cultural gender as separate things.
I'm biologically female and straight. Biologically speaking, while I don't like my actual body for how fat and unfit I've let it become, plus, I f*cking hate periods, I have no deep hatred of the female form. I'd like to be male in order to find it easier to be stronger but, asides from appreciating the male form in a fanciable way, I have no great desire to have it personally. Especially not the sexual organs. I've never had penis envy. Lol. So- bare basics, I identify strongly as biologically female- maybe 95%.
In some ways, I also have certain character traits (probably genetically from my Mum) that are considered more feminine.
Stereotypically though- what is expected in terms of gender roles, clothing, interests, I'm far more male. I've always hated girly things. I then grew to resent the pressure to look sexy to attract men. I found most of the clothing, shoes, make up, undearwear hugely restrictive and uncomfortable. So, asides from a brief fling with it to try and attract a guy I was limerent on, I largely rejected all of that. I was as a child and continue to be, quite a tom boy. So, culturally speaking, I feel like I'm maybe more 50, 50% each gender when it comes to cultural gender.
How about you, how do you experience it? I wonder if there are people who feel they are all man or all woman through and through. I wonder if they are happier.
I suppose my slight gender blur has caused discomfort at times. People mistaking me for a guy or, the usual teasing at school. I'm grateful I was at least allowed to be my own self growing up though. I was allowed 'boys toys' for instance. Kind of surprising in a way, because in other ways, my upbringing was quite strict and restrictive. I was quite a disappointment to my family that I wasn't more girly but overall, they accepted it/ me.
What are your views? Do you suppose we are largely taught to be the cultural genders we are? Were you taught to like boys or girls things or, given the freedom to choose?
One thing I am grateful of is to at least be living now. Obviously, it's still not exactly great. People still don't have the complete freedom to be who they feel they are but, it's not as restrictive as it was I suppose. My Grandma told me that one of their neighbours caused a stir when they first moved in because she wore trousers instead of skirts. I think I would have got on well with her.
Obviously, I know we have a number of trans members in the community so, obviously ignore the thread if it's too triggering.
I'm curious though- how people view themselves. I have maybe a nuanced experience of it but then, I suppose all our experiences are individual and nuanced. But, I see biological gender and cultural gender as separate things.
I'm biologically female and straight. Biologically speaking, while I don't like my actual body for how fat and unfit I've let it become, plus, I f*cking hate periods, I have no deep hatred of the female form. I'd like to be male in order to find it easier to be stronger but, asides from appreciating the male form in a fanciable way, I have no great desire to have it personally. Especially not the sexual organs. I've never had penis envy. Lol. So- bare basics, I identify strongly as biologically female- maybe 95%.
In some ways, I also have certain character traits (probably genetically from my Mum) that are considered more feminine.
Stereotypically though- what is expected in terms of gender roles, clothing, interests, I'm far more male. I've always hated girly things. I then grew to resent the pressure to look sexy to attract men. I found most of the clothing, shoes, make up, undearwear hugely restrictive and uncomfortable. So, asides from a brief fling with it to try and attract a guy I was limerent on, I largely rejected all of that. I was as a child and continue to be, quite a tom boy. So, culturally speaking, I feel like I'm maybe more 50, 50% each gender when it comes to cultural gender.
How about you, how do you experience it? I wonder if there are people who feel they are all man or all woman through and through. I wonder if they are happier.
I suppose my slight gender blur has caused discomfort at times. People mistaking me for a guy or, the usual teasing at school. I'm grateful I was at least allowed to be my own self growing up though. I was allowed 'boys toys' for instance. Kind of surprising in a way, because in other ways, my upbringing was quite strict and restrictive. I was quite a disappointment to my family that I wasn't more girly but overall, they accepted it/ me.
What are your views? Do you suppose we are largely taught to be the cultural genders we are? Were you taught to like boys or girls things or, given the freedom to choose?
One thing I am grateful of is to at least be living now. Obviously, it's still not exactly great. People still don't have the complete freedom to be who they feel they are but, it's not as restrictive as it was I suppose. My Grandma told me that one of their neighbours caused a stir when they first moved in because she wore trousers instead of skirts. I think I would have got on well with her.
