Venting Went a little bit overboard with the self harm

[ZardozOmega]

Just had a horrible fight with my mom. Grabbed a scissor, started cutting my leg, but i went a bit too far with it, i'm dripping blood all over the place. The cut was pretty deep. doesnt hurt a lot, i think i'll take sn today.

 

[aneurysm]

best way to prevent self-harm is to remember that nobody cares. That's what made me stop.

 

[ZardozOmega]

best way to prevent self-harm is to remember that nobody cares. That's what made me stop.

i do it for me, not anyone else.

 

[aneurysm]

i do it for me, not anyone else.

I think it's a cry for help.

 

[ZardozOmega]

I think it's a cry for help.

I cut my thighs, specifically because I don't want anyone to see them.

 

[aneurysm]

I cut my thighs, specifically because I don't want anyone to see them.

so you do cut them for others.

you know what? Stop that. If you get an infection, it'd be gory (I saw gory videos of cutters infections, wouldn't wish it on even my mom).

 

[Symbiote]

Sorry you're feeling shitty, and bloody too. Should patch yourself up because if mom sees it you'll end up in the looney bin probably.

 

[ZardozOmega]

so you do cut them for others.

you know what? Stop that. If you get an infection, it'd be gory (I saw gory videos of cutters infections, wouldn't wish it on even my mom).

Cutting myself in places people can't see isn't cutting for others. I know I shouldn't do it, I was fuming with anger, stabbing my leg helped.

 

[aneurysm]

Cutting myself in places people can't see isn't cutting for others. I know I shouldn't do it, I was fuming with anger, stabbing my leg helped.

Something really evil I used to do when I was angry at my mom, was to break/hide stuff she cares about (expensive make up, TV cables, glasses etc).

it's shady af but it's still better than harming yourself. (Since your body has infinitely more value than objects). You need to have a zero tolerance policy for self-harm the same way you wouldn't allow someone else to hurt you like that. Don't be self-indulgent on this matter.

Depressed people tend to be overly self-indulgent.

 

[painoflife]

I dont think the comments about why/where and whether you should self harm are useful when it sounds like you are in a crisis, everybody has different ways to cope.
If it is deep or bleeding a lot please consider seeking medical help, I know its not always possible so apply pressure to slow bleeding and try and close the wound (make sure its clean) as best you can. You can use cut up plasters or strips of medical tape.
It sounds like you want to hide what happened so preventing an infection is very important, otherwise it will only escalate.
Do you feel any better now you have released that anger?

 

[ZardozOmega]

Something really evil I used to do when I was angry at my mom, was to break/hide stuff she cares about (expensive make up, TV cables, glasses etc).

it's shady af but it's still better than harming yourself. (Since your body has infinitely more value than objects). You need to have a zero tolerance policy for self-harm the same way you wouldn't allow someone else to hurt you like that. Don't be self-indulgent on this matter.

Depressed people tend to be overly self-indulgent.

If I break her stuff she's going to screaming at me, which is the exact thing that lead me to stab my thigh in the first play. I almost beat her. A hit the wall and almost jumped at her. She dared me to hit her, but when I denied, she called me a coward. There is no course of action for me. Nothing besides cutting. I'm gonna take sn in a few minutes anyway, so who cares

 

[aneurysm]

I dont think the comments about why/where and whether you should self harm are useful when it sounds like you are in a crisis,

Can you see that over-indulgence is a form of abuse? Sometimes, people need to hear what they don't want to hear,when they don't want to hear it.

A parent who does what's best for his child, regardless of wether the child likes him or not is the definition of compassion and selflessness to me. Although, it requires looking a little deeper to see it.

I'm gonna take sn in a few minutes anyway, so who cares

If you want me to, I can liaise you with a family support worker and ask them to mediate between you and your mom. It sounds like you're young... not assuming anything.

Or you can also take SN, up to you.

 

[ZardozOmega]

Can you see that over-indulgence is a form of abuse? Sometimes, people need to hear what they don't want to hear,when they don't want to hear it.

A parent who does what's best for his child, regardless of wether the child likes him or not is the definition of compassion and selflessness to me. Although, it requires looking a little deeper to see it.

If you want me to, I can liaise you with a family support worker and ask them to mediate between you and your mom. It sounds like you're young... not assuming anything.

Or you can also take SN, up to you.

Dude, you're in a suicide forum. Come on.

 

[aneurysm]

so who cares

I care.

Dude, you're in a suicide forum. Come on.

which is why I said that SN was up to you. You sounded like a teen, which is why I proposed help.

 

[Symbiote]

Zardoz is 25 years of age, not a teenager. Adults still self-harm, in many ways other than just cutting. We drink to forget, bang our heads to stress relieve, and have addictions to cope.

 

[aneurysm]

We drink to forget, bang our heads to stress relieve, and have addictions to cope.

yeah, I know a thing or two about it.

 

[painoflife]

A parent who does what's best for his child, regardless of wether the child likes him or not is the definition of compassion and selflessness to me. Although, it requires looking a little deeper to see it.

If the parent further aggravated a situation when the child was already at breaking point I would say they actually aren't all that great in their response actually. Everyone has different perspectives on situations so I respect you see it differently.
Also, telling a family member or close friend something is different to a stranger online. You dont know how they will react, especially when they are struggling already, so I generally find being supportive and helpful is more effective than tough love.

 

[Symbiote]

I used to cut too, but couldn't hide the scars from others. I definitely didn't want people to see them, didn't want anyone to put me in a hospital so that whole "cry for help" bullshit is just bullshit to shame people in not doing it. Not a cry for help because Mom told him differently, may be a cascade of different things and so hard to hold it all in without lashing out at something or someone. But, I personally wouldn't want to harm others or my mom because I still have love for that person, so I think it's my fault in some way. Ashamed that I let someone cross my boundaries and didn't stick up for myself. Let them get to me, is a failure on my part so I take it out on me.

Just a perspective on that self-harm isn't always a "cry for help"

 

[BandAddict]

If you don't decide to take it, please to tend to your wounds. An infection would be horrible, and if it looks bad enough, I would maybe try to find someone to help you patch it up properly, whether that be at a hospital or otherwise.

If you do take it, I'm sorry you're feeling so bad and are pushed to this point. Just really think about it and don't be too rash. Wish I could help more.

I used to cut too, but couldn't hide the scars from others. I definitely didn't want people to see them, didn't want anyone to put me in a hospital so that whole "cry for help" bullshit is just bullshit to shame people in not doing it. Not a cry for help because Mom told him differently, may be a cascade of different things and so hard to hold it all in without lashing out at something or someone. But, I personally wouldn't want to harm others or my mom because I still have love for that person, so I think it's my fault in some way. Ashamed that I let someone cross my boundaries and didn't stick up for myself. Let them get to me, is a failure on my part so I take it out on me.

Just a perspective on that self-harm isn't always a "cry for help"

Exactly this. It's very personal and sometimes it just feels like the safest thing to do to avoid hurting others and so on.

 

[oversizedsweaters]

I also cut myself sometimes and I know what you mean; I never did it to get attention or something like that and I hide it because I don't want anyone to see it. I think self harming can be for various reasons. So it can be a cry for help, but I also believe that it can sometimes help to relieve stress or to get distraction from your thoughts (that's how it works for me). This absolutely doesn't mean that it's good to self harm, it's always good to quit. But from personal experience I also know that it can be very hard to quit when you feel like you need it as a coping mechanism.
I'm worried about you and I feel like you would take SN impulsively if you would take it because of this situation. Please think carefully about wether you really want to take it right now. You can always PM me if you want to talk about it, and I hope you feel better soon

 

[aneurysm]

You dont know how they will react, especially when they are struggling already, so I generally find being supportive and helpful is more effective than tough love.

OP, if you'd prefer me to leave you alone, like this comment and I'll.

 

[WornOutLife]

best way to prevent self-harm is to remember that nobody cares. That's what made me stop.

This is great advice!
For this reason, I'm not into self-harm.
Nobody cares and you only fuck up your body.