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I've fallen down a rabbit hole of watching/listening to videos/podcasts of mental health professionals discussing the rationality of suicide. Obviously, the main categories of rationales they give is suffering, pain and impulsivity. But I have noticed something quite interesting.

None of them address the boredom of existence as a reason for suicide.

While I understand CTBing because you were bored on Friday night seems a to fall under "impulsivity", this is not the kind I am talking about. I am talking about carefully considered reason to live because a person may think that life is just not terribly interesting.

For example, I've never found life terribly interesting - I've been forced into education, shuffled through it in a daze, got into university, shuffled through it and now I am employed which requires demands my attention for 39+ hours of my week. None of the events that happened were really of my choosing, I just did it to have something to do. But now that I am "an employed adult", I realize that this is even more tedious and boring. I don't get fullfiled by hobbies or relatioships, everything feels as if I'm just pretending to be in a play.
 
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I have a valid reason for CTB to give to those lousy no-good shrinks and it is this: I can't live the rest of my life like this. That aught to be good enough.
 
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I've listened to some podcasts about suicide and I've noticed the same theme as well with the mental health professionals: suicide is always irrational and bad.

If we think of life as a game, most players seem to generally enjoy the game enough to keep playing. Maybe they'll go on to do different tasks but they're still in the game. Most people complain about the bugs and difficulty sometimes but don't ever consider quitting the game. We are in the minority - the people who don't enjoy the game and want to quit. Most players can not fathom/understand this and so they label us as irrational, but the truth is that not everybody is going to enjoy the game.
 
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If we think of life as a game, most players seem to generally enjoy the game enough to keep playing. Maybe they'll go on to do different tasks but they're still in the game. Most people complain about the bugs and difficulty sometimes but don't ever consider quitting the game. We are in the minority - the people who don't enjoy the game and want to quit. Most players can not fathom/understand this and so they label us as irrational, but the truth is that not everybody is going to enjoy the game.
well put.

It really is such a bad thing when those who are deemed suicide experts don't recognise that there are things worse than death or that it is deeply personal what is worse than death. Then they don't recognise just how beyond awful it is to become suicidal and stay suicidal. Then the mental health suicide experts do so many abuses to suicidal individuals.

it is always rational and natural to feel suicidal. One reason for this assertion is the capacity to feel comes with a limit to what can be endured. Another is that conscious beings have a wide diversity of mental needs and when these are not fulfilled then suicidal thoughts and feelings happen.

It's like feeling suicidal because you keep on feeling hungry and starving and that's not irrational to feel when your physical needs are not met. Doctors would deal out drugs for this reason to die but the physical needs would not be met so the individual keeps on feeling suicidal. This is what is psychiatric and mental healthcare.

(I'm not saying don't use drugs to help you. There are some good and some great drugs. What is a good or a great drug for you is as deeply individual as the reasons that would make you want to die.)
 
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who is it that gets to decide what a "valid" reason for ctb? isn't "validity" a subjective thing? no matter what reasons a person has for ctb, they're always painted as irrational. nobody ever stops to think about another perspective different from theirs.
 
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If your not happy is a suffficent reason to ctb
 
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Any reason can be a reason to CTB if you have that feeling. Trying to get help is ideal but that isn't possible for everyone.
I've listened to some podcasts about suicide and I've noticed the same theme as well with the mental health professionals: suicide is always irrational and bad.

If we think of life as a game, most players seem to generally enjoy the game enough to keep playing. Maybe they'll go on to do different tasks but they're still in the game. Most people complain about the bugs and difficulty sometimes but don't ever consider quitting the game. We are in the minority - the people who don't enjoy the game and want to quit. Most players can not fathom/understand this and so they label us as irrational, but the truth is that not everybody is going to enjoy the game.
That is such a perfect analogy for this.
 
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I think your reasons are valid for you and doesn't need others' approval or permission to be viewed as valid. I agree with @VIBRITANNIA that validity is subjective, meaning that it is up to the said person to make the ultimate decision on whether his/her reasons are enough for CTB'ing and if (to themselves) it is enough, then that's all that matters.
 
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I've fallen down a rabbit hole of watching/listening to videos/podcasts of mental health professionals discussing the rationality of suicide. Obviously, the main categories of rationales they give is suffering, pain and impulsivity. But I have noticed something quite interesting.

None of them address the boredom of existence as a reason for suicide.

While I understand CTBing because you were bored on Friday night seems a to fall under "impulsivity", this is not the kind I am talking about. I am talking about carefully considered reason to live because a person may think that life is just not terribly interesting.

For example, I've never found life terribly interesting - I've been forced into education, shuffled through it in a daze, got into university, shuffled through it and now I am employed which requires demands my attention for 39+ hours of my week. None of the events that happened were really of my choosing, I just did it to have something to do. But now that I am "an employed adult", I realize that this is even more tedious and boring. I don't get fullfiled by hobbies or relatioships, everything feels as if I'm just pretending to be in a play.
Perhaps the operative phrase is "none of these were if my choosing ".

you could change thst. Hard work but doable.
 
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I have found this common line of thinking among professionals interesting as well. It's almost as if the general consensus is that all people want to live no matter what, and if they don't, then something is horribly wrong with them and they need to be rescued from themselves
 
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I don't think anyone needs a reason to do something like that. It's their own life. I think arguing it sorta defeats the purpose of a pro-choice environment. So I'll likely automatically ignore anyone trying to label anything as a "valid" reason for ctb.

Shame on the medical professionals that do it.
 
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I don't think any reason is more "valid" than another. The decision to end one's life is extremely personal, and only the person making the decision can decide whether it is justified or not.

That said, I can relate to the boredom theme. It is not my reason for CTB but it dissuades me from pouring any more energy into trying to preserve my life. Even if I could fix the objective problems in my life, the best I can hope for is tepid mediocrity for the rest of my days. That kind of existence is not something I am willing to fight for.
 
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bornfree

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i am a strong believer in education. But clearly the medical profession and other mental health professionals do not get the right education so they come up with reasons to invalidate many if not all reasons to die. They don't get taught the truth so those who are deemed to be suicide experts they have utterly failed their duty of expertise and have created a tyranny over suicidal individuals and other victims of psychiatry. But these are the same experts the government relies on so the blind lead the blind. They lack the basic knowledge and they have always lacked a heart to give them empathy for suicidal individuals.

it is the concept of harm related to suicidal individuals they've always gotten wrong. But perhaps as bad as not recognising the harms in deny suicidal individuals access to assisted suicide (or the right to die how and when one chooses) it's this element of tyranny. It's just so much worse to be suicidal in this generation of the monsters who call themselves the human race.

i know why i am better off having never been born.
 
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As far as I'm concerned no other species are willing to take their own lives due to suffering or any other reason. But also, no other species have therapists to tell them why they must live, no matter what.
 
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bornfree

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As far as I'm concerned no other species are willing to take their own lives due to suffering or any other reason. But also, no other species have therapists to tell them why they must live, no matter what.
i can't comment on this with aforethought but animal models are used to prove the lie of the biomedical model of mental illness is a real thing.

i assume animals have the capacity to feel so they have the capacity to feel suicidal.
 
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I've fallen down a rabbit hole of watching/listening to videos/podcasts of mental health professionals discussing the rationality of suicide. Obviously, the main categories of rationales they give is suffering, pain and impulsivity. But I have noticed something quite interesting.

None of them address the boredom of existence as a reason for suicide.

While I understand CTBing because you were bored on Friday night seems a to fall under "impulsivity", this is not the kind I am talking about. I am talking about carefully considered reason to live because a person may think that life is just not terribly interesting.

For example, I've never found life terribly interesting - I've been forced into education, shuffled through it in a daze, got into university, shuffled through it and now I am employed which requires demands my attention for 39+ hours of my week. None of the events that happened were really of my choosing, I just did it to have something to do. But now that I am "an employed adult", I realize that this is even more tedious and boring. I don't get fullfiled by hobbies or relatioships, everything feels as if I'm just pretending to be in a play.

They seriously thought there were any good reasons for CTBing? I find that to be a surprise.

Anyway, I think any reason to CTB is a good reason to CTB.
 
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As far as I'm concerned no other species are willing to take their own lives due to suffering or any other reason. But also, no other species have therapists to tell them why they must live, no matter what.
There are mice and rats that intentionally try to get eaten by cats, but that's only because they've been invaded by a brain parasite that can only reproduce in the digestive systems of cats. Who knows, maybe most of us are also hosts to some insidious microbe that benefits from us seeking our own deaths! :pfff:

(I'm mostly kidding and it's pretty unlikely but still...)
 
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bornfree

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i am working on a concept and words to describe the pure evil in the act of deliberately forcing someone to live to keep on making them want to die. It is pure evil. But it is not legislated against. This is such a tragedy that really is only possible in a civilisation of monsters. Because the monsters who call themselves the human race are so unaffected by how suicidal individuals feel there is no protection against such pure evil. Not even assisted suicide.

I am being as kind as i can be when i talk about the lack of a truthful education. I am being as kind as i can when i say the blind lead the blind. To not recognise the harms and abuses done to suicidal individuals are to be legislated against...the law makers do not care about suicidal individuals.
 
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i am working on a concept and words to describe the pure evil in the act of deliberately forcing someone to live to keep on making them want to die. It is pure evil. But it is not legislated against. This is such a tragedy that really is only possible in a civilisation of monsters. Because the monsters who call themselves the human race are so unaffected by how suicidal individuals feel there is no protection against such pure evil. Not even assisted suicide.

I am being as kind as i can be when i talk about the lack of a truthful education. I am being as kind as i can when i say the blind lead the blind. To not recognise the harms and abuses done to suicidal individuals are to be legislated against...the law makers do not care about suicidal individuals.

I got all kinds of criticism on here for relating this to rape a few days ago. Forcing people to live against their will.
i can't comment on this with aforethought but animal models are used to prove the lie of the biomedical model of mental illness is a real thing.

i assume animals have the capacity to feel so they have the capacity to feel suicidal.


I'm not sure that animals understand the concept of death. Therefore, they probably can't be suicidal.

Even if they do have a concept of death, they pretty much always go by their instincts. Which of course say to live no matter what. It's hard enough for people on here to go against their SI, and it's probably impossible for animals to.
 
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I got all kinds of criticism on here for relating this to rape a few days ago. Forcing people to live against their will.
i agree with your comparison. One is well established through millennia of slow progress to be recognised as cruelty and evil. I think it's going to be the same slow progress to recognise the cruelty and evil in the acts of being forced to live. It is not worth expecting meaningful change in a lifetime. The act of suicide was only decriminalised in the last century but the monsters who call themselves the human race still keep on using the method of punishment on suicidal individuals. Imprisonment is a deliberate attempt to ruin quality of life but the suicide experts really do not care about suicidal individuals. They are just cruel and barbaric as monsters can be to suicidal individuals. They don't have a heart to stop them.
 
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What if I mistakenly believe I have a terminal illness that will cause me a lot of suffering, when in fact I'm healthy and perfectly capable of living the life I want to live? Would that be an invalid reason for suicide?
 
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I've fallen down a rabbit hole of watching/listening to videos/podcasts of mental health professionals discussing the rationality of suicide. Obviously, the main categories of rationales they give is suffering, pain and impulsivity. But I have noticed something quite interesting.

None of them address the boredom of existence as a reason for suicide.

While I understand CTBing because you were bored on Friday night seems a to fall under "impulsivity", this is not the kind I am talking about. I am talking about carefully considered reason to live because a person may think that life is just not terribly interesting.

For example, I've never found life terribly interesting - I've been forced into education, shuffled through it in a daze, got into university, shuffled through it and now I am employed which requires demands my attention for 39+ hours of my week. None of the events that happened were really of my choosing, I just did it to have something to do. But now that I am "an employed adult", I realize that this is even more tedious and boring. I don't get fullfiled by hobbies or relatioships, everything feels as if I'm just pretending to be in a play.
Chronic boredom can be just another symptom of depression on some scale.
 
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bornfree

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I got all kinds of criticism on here for relating this to rape a few days ago. Forcing people to live against their will.



I'm not sure that animals understand the concept of death. Therefore, they probably can't be suicidal.

Even if they do have a concept of death, they pretty much always go by their instincts. Which of course say to live no matter what. It's hard enough for people on here to go against their SI, and it's probably impossible for animals to.
is it the instincts of animals to avoid death though? Two lions fighting for dominance they do it for instincts other than self preservation.

I wonder if animals make a choice to avoid death that is a sort of proof of having a concept of death? Like a lion who won't fight other lions. Does such diversity of the animal mind exist i wonder,

It is the same sort of instinct or rational thought that can make it hard for a suicidal individual to succeed in killing themselves. I recognise my cowardice is one reason i need assisted suicide but equally it could be a part of my psyche that fears death while the vast majority of the parts of my psyche knows i can't live in safety.

i am obviously guessing that animals can feel suicidal because i think with the capacity to feel comes a limit to what can be endured beyond which a consciousness wants to cessate conscious existence. When an animal faces this need i wonder if they don't feel suicidal then what do they feel when they are beyond the limit to what they can endure like a suicidal individual is?

sorry. lots of hard to answer questions.
What if I mistakenly believe I have a terminal illness that will cause me a lot of suffering, when in fact I'm healthy and perfectly capable of living the life I want to live? Would that be an invalid reason for suicide?
For the feelings that terminally ill suicidal individuals feel yes it is a valid form of extreme personal suffering and torment which is a valid reason to die. The validity of the reason to die is universal. It is universally worth dying for when it feels so bad.

There is a separate concept to the validity of the choice to die and that's whether the suicidality can be ended quickly and humanely and by consent/free will. I am fighting for the rewards of assisted suicide to be recognised as they should be. Of course there are risks involved with the decision to die.

in the scenario you present it is the expectation of unbearable suffering and quality of life in the future not in the present which you have described. The individual is suicidal or not i am unsure of in this scenario.

The value of assisted suicide is that terminally ill individuals won't kill themselves before things get too bad. They can wait until their suffering and quality of life gets unbearable. In your scenario a mistaken diagnosis and associated prognosis would obviously cause extreme personal suffering and pain. The fear of a slow and painful death would (i assume commonly) drive the terminally ill to choose to die. The pain and effect on quality of life of treatment as well as of the disease is something terminally ill individuals might choose to die than go through, But when assisted suicide is there then they have the choice to see how bad it gets and at the point when they decide they can't take anymore then they can have their right to die how and when they want to. If the diagnosis is wrong then they won't face the things that make them suicidal.

I assume your scenario is about a doctor estimating the prognosis of terminal illness. I'm sort of side stepping this by considering the importance of how a suicidal individual feels as the mark of the validity of the decision to die and by the provision of assisted suicide the individual can wait to see what happens than rely on a doctor's judgement.

I am reminded of the suicide of a young woman who started menstruating then killed herself because she thought there was something wrong with her. Her case inspired a Christian clergyman to start the Samaritans. She would be better saved by 1) being educated about suicide issues as part of growing up and 2) the provision of assisted suicide produces voluntary engagement with care. The pain she suffered makes her decision to die valid and the lack of competency to care only makes it worse. A care system that relies on 100% voluntary engagement by suicidal individuals is going to save so many more lives than the medical tranny ever could. Not least because it puts what is important to suicidal individuals high on the agenda of care.

You understand i am focused on empowerment of suicidal individuals to be masters of our destiny. The scenario you have posed is a useful teaching tool to understand that things can get better or aren't as hopeless as they seem however this is a separate concept from the awfulness of feeling suicidal.

The end result of your scenario is either to come up with certain precautions for access to assisted suicide and i do believe in these precautions but at the moment the status quo is all about control and cruelty as the precautions and not empowerment or liberty or human rights. Alternatively it's the end result that is one justification the government here used to continue the criminalisation of assisted dying (assisted suicide solely for the terminally ill) because a doctor might get the life expectancy wrong.

Equally a doctor can get the diagnosis and prognosis wrong so an individual faces rapid deterioration of quality of life and rapid onset of unbearable suffering. What happens then if there isn't the right to die when and how one chooses?

i have not fully explained my position because there are lots of thoughts i have come up with through years of reasoning while the monsters who call themselves the human race force me to live to keep on making me want to die. That's for over a decade they do this so you understand why i call them the monsters who call themselves the human race.

i am not here promoting my blog but i thought you might want to consider this if you can't comprehend what i have always faced is mostly control and cruelty.

I wish someone here wants me to die but...
 
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bornfree

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you can't read what i have said why is it you can't bear the truth? is it too painful?
 
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curiouskitty

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i am working on a concept and words to describe the pure evil in the act of deliberately forcing someone to live to keep on making them want to die.

I mean, imho, birth is the ultimate slight against a being. If one is not born, there is nobody to subject the horror that is existence.

But that is just my opinion. What do I know?
 
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BPD Barbie

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Validity is what you make it and not for someone else to decide. Everyone has their reasons and it's not for anyone to judge if it's valid or not. It's your life, your suffering and your pain.
 
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bornfree

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to want to save someone from even more of the worst feelings and thoughts. To want to make a suicidal individuals further and worsened suicidal thoughts and feelings end - that's the crime of assisted suicide. To torture a suicidal individual is not a crime. Definitely better off having never been born than live to risk facing this.
 

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