Unemployed people, how do you cope?

[lawlietsph]

What is the reason for you being unemployed?
Are you trying to find a job or did you gave up already?
How do you cope with the pressure of society?
How are you able to afford living?

Please share everything you'd like, I want to feel less alone

 

[swankysoup]

I lived on welfare for some time, and now i'm in school again. But being dysfunctional and broken, i doubt i can keep up with this for very long. Well at least i tried, i can only do so much.

 

[divinemistress36]

Cause I'm disabled I get by financially living at my parents. Not being able to work makes me feel like a loser and gives me to much time to think about how pointless life is

 

[Lostandfound82]

I struggle with agoraphobia so it's almost impossible for me to leave the house. If I didn't have this irrational fear of the outside world I would be working right now. I'm able to hold a job when I'm not depressed but when I am I can't function at all. I don't cope well with the pressure of society I basically hide from it and pretend it's not there. Any time i go through this I always end up moving back in with my mom. I wish I was able to support myself and it feels shameful being 23 having to rely on someone else when most of the people I grew up with are starting families and working a fulfilling job. I'm very behind in life and idek where to start. I'm sorry you are struggling. You are not alone hope it gets better for you.

 

[saii]

Cause I'm disabled I get by financially living at my parents. Not being able to work makes me feel like a loser and gives me to much time to think about how pointless life is

In the same boat, have been living off the support for the disabled in my country while living with my mother who hates me. Sadly after years even if my medical state hasn't changed a month ago the government decided that I no longer qualify for the governmental support even if my doctor submitted a document showcasing that my health state has not changed in any way, and I am barely able to walk. So now I have no income, the last couple of dollars for food and I am super fucked. The only lucky thing was that since I had a lot of time on my hands I learned to use a couple of pieces of software by pirating online courses so that's the only way I might be able to find employment but if I can't in a couple of weeks, I will either ctb or die of starvation and I really don't want to do the ladder. It used to be that I wanted to CTB out of depression but nowadays it's the only answer to my problem.

 

[UglyInk]

NEET here, I cope with drugs, youtube, reading, writing. I pirate all media I want; I'm basically a parasite, offline and online. The gov should just give me access to assisted suicide tbh.

 

[Dark Moon]

I'm unemployed because I'm autistic/asperger and other conditions. I did try applying for jobs but I didn't get a response, I'm close to giving it up. Also, society is unaccepting of people like myself.

 

[vampire2002]

i'm unemployed due to severe and debilitating OCD, among other things. makes it nearly impossible to function in a normal work environment. i have been trying to find an online work from home job, but that is both difficult and my motivation to do so comes and goes.
coping is difficult as i'm made to feel quite useless and like a total burden for this condition i didn't choose to have. distracting myself is all i can do. i am financially reliant on my family, have been told to apply for disability but have also been told it's probably hopeless. i feel pretty unoptimistic about my future.

 

[KillingPain267]

What is the reason for you being unemployed?

At first it was lack of experience, but now I'm unemployed due to depression and severe social anxiety.

Are you trying to find a job or did you gave up already?

I gave up

How do you cope with the pressure of society?

I don't care about society

How are you able to afford living?

I'm on welfare, and it's enough for my lifestyle

 

[AtLast]

I try to work a couple weeks to months at a time. I have had over 80 jobs I figure in the past 10-15 years. I have trouble getting close to other employees and after a short while, I have to move on. I live in my car, which I have set up with a cooler for ice, milk bread, peanut butter and that's about it. I shower at a gym which I pay 10 a month or I bath with wipes from Walmart. It's the cheapest way to live I can think of. I also give plasma that a get paid over $500 a month. It's not easy and I don't tell anyone where I live. No one would ever think I was homeless if they met me and I want to keep it that way. I run/exercise and fish a lot to take up time but I don't have any friends in my life to occupy the rest of my time. My best friend passed a couple years ago and it was hard to deal with. I spent time in Florida on the beach which was nice but came back to NJ to help my mom who is in her late 70s. I def prefer the summer and being on the beach but have to make it through this depressing winter. Wish me luck!! Happy Day

 

[Namelesa]

I am unemployed cus I don't think I would be able to handle the responsibility and stress of a work environment and the mental effort I would had to put in would be too painful. I couldn't handle school and its long hours at all so I probably won't be able to work. I have autism but i don't really know how that effects me. I never tried finding a job.

I don't really care about the pressure of society cus I don't interact with much people outside the people that i live with and talk to online and that i don't feel obligated to work cus i didn't ask to live. I am only able to afford living cus i live with my parents and have disability money.

 

[greebo6]

Too ugly and stupid to be employed. And probably too old now as well. Live on benefits and only just scrape by most of the time. Its stressful and miserable.

 

[AnderDethsky]

In short, in no way (by my own efforts, not by my parents)

At the moment I am studying in college, by the end of the second year I finally decided that I would not be able to work in my specialty — the niche of my specialty is overheated, and roughly speaking, not only hardskills are already important for hiring, but also soft skills, communication skills, look in the end, all this is worse for me than for others and I can't control all this.

I thought that I could just work somewhere outside of my specialty, but my social disability consumed me — I remember everything that my peers did to me at school and college, I suddenly realized that bullying would be everywhere, because people are absolutely everywhere, these are primates without hair living by pack instincts in an animal hierarchy where everyone needs to assert themselves. And asserting yourself at the expense of the weak, ugly ones is the easiest thing, because you know that no one loves him and there is no one to stand up for him.

I have 1.5 years left in college. My parents are already hinting to me that I will have to work, otherwise I will not live on their pension in the future, and they just don't want to hear that I simply can't do it, it hurts me. But I have SN in stock and I would probably rather die than feel the whole inside of adulthood.

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

I don't. I just wait.

I don't have the humility to accept a small life. Growing up I thought I was going to do the best and highest thing. I just had to figure out what it was. I had a pride totally disproportionate to my talents. I never made a realistic plan.

I have nothing to prove it but I still feel myself to be a "big person." But the best life I can pull off is as a "little person."

I simply cannot accept aging for decades doing menial work. Selling my time for $15/hr while men make billions in a day when a stock goes up.

So it's death. I just need a method without pain and terror. Exit bag sounds best.

 

[TragedyBornCrimson]

In short, in no way (by my own efforts, not by my parents)

At the moment I am studying in college, by the end of the second year I finally decided that I would not be able to work in my specialty — the niche of my specialty is overheated, and roughly speaking, not only hardskills are already important for hiring, but also soft skills, communication skills, look in the end, all this is worse for me than for others and I can't control all this.

I thought that I could just work somewhere outside of my specialty, but my social disability consumed me — I remember everything that my peers did to me at school and college, I suddenly realized that bullying would be everywhere, because people are absolutely everywhere, these are primates without hair living by pack instincts in an animal hierarchy where everyone needs to assert themselves. And asserting yourself at the expense of the weak, ugly ones is the easiest thing, because you know that no one loves him and there is no one to stand up for him.

I have 1.5 years left in college. My parents are already hinting to me that I will have to work, otherwise I will not live on their pension in the future, and they just don't want to hear that I simply can't do it, it hurts me. But I have SN in stock and I would probably rather die than feel the whole inside of adulthood.

You have no idea how much I relate to everything you say. As a second year college student, I likely won't make it past 2025

I don't. I just wait.

I don't have the humility to accept a small life. Growing up I thought I was going to do the best and highest thing. I just had to figure out what it was. I had a pride totally disproportionate to my talents. I never made a realistic plan.

I have nothing to prove it but I still feel myself to be a "big person." But the best life I can pull off is as a "little person."

I simply cannot accept aging for decades doing menial work. Selling my time for $15/hr while men make billions in a day when a stock goes up.

So it's death. I just need a method without pain and terror. Exit bag sounds best.

Are you the same as me?

 

[d.loner]

I always work for a while, but after some time, I get tired of it. Due to my disability, I can't do physical jobs and have to work in an office. The main problem is that I don't have any significant qualifications, only a high school diploma and no further studies, so the job market mainly offers me call center positions, which I hate.

Currently, I live with my parents, so money isn't a big issue. However, I often feel a kind of pressure that this won't last forever and that I should finally stand on my own two feet. Sometimes, I feel like it's already too late and that I'm far behind in life.

 

[lnlybnny]

I mentally torture myself every day but can't do anything about it. I've been applying for over ten years to no answer lol maybe it's my fault and i don't want it enough. I'm neet since left high school and I'm almost 30 now. I don't have energy or motivation for anything. I just feel very inhumane and humiliated all the time. I truly feel I don't belong. I live like a parasite depending on parents.

I don't. I just wait.

I don't have the humility to accept a small life. Growing up I thought I was going to do the best and highest thing. I just had to figure out what it was. I had a pride totally disproportionate to my talents. I never made a realistic plan.

I have nothing to prove it but I still feel myself to be a "big person." But the best life I can pull off is as a "little person."

I simply cannot accept aging for decades doing menial work. Selling my time for $15/hr while men make billions in a day when a stock goes up.

So it's death. I just need a method without pain and terror. Exit bag sounds best.

Same. I could've written this myself

 

[avalokitesvara]

What is the reason for you being unemployed?
I'm in a holding pattern waiting for bureaucratic approval to emigrate do I can become a monk (permanently unemployed). I don't know how long the process will take and hate working so I am unemplyed while I wait.

Are you trying to find a job or did you gave up already?
See above.

How do you cope with the pressure of society?
I have no debts to society. I have never believed in emplypoyment, success or wealth as defining someone's worth. Basically idgaf.

How are you able to afford living?
Savings from previous employment, living at my parents' house so I have minimal outgoings (for now), living off savings til they run out and then being supported by the sangha if I make it to the monastery.

 

[coolgal82]

What is the reason for you being unemployed?
Are you trying to find a job or did you gave up already?
How do you cope with the pressure of society?
How are you able to afford living?

Please share everything you'd like, I want to feel less alone

unemployed because tbh im not fit to be in work, but also i dont want a job because then i cant spend as much time with my besties/not as consistently
not trying to find one and i wont unless i absoloutely have to then it'#ll be the minimum
idk about this one i dont really feel pressure idk
im on unemployment (and live with parents but they still charge rent)

 

[cowboypants]

Due to mh issues I've been unemployed. I never had the drive I'm not motivated outside of my hobbies.

I find it difficult interacting with people it just triggers me often.

I depend on my parents financially since there's no govt support for this stuff here.

My family and relatives are giving me pressure to join work rn. Barely holding it together

 

[areyousafe??]

I cope with the savings I have, which is about to run out. After that I probably won't cope, hence the reason I joined this forum.

 

[attheend13]

Not unemployed but under employed and I don't cope. I cry everyday all day fill out endless applications. Go to my part time job. Drink and take THC gummies until I can't feel anything then take 3-4 sleep pills and black out. Get up and repeat. My life is an embarrassment and a joke. There's no coping with being worthless.

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

It's all so fucked and has been for so long. I'm scared to die but what the hell else is there.

 

[areyousafe??]

What is the reason for you being unemployed?

Too emotionally fucked to function in a workplace, unfortunately.

Are you trying to find a job or did you gave up already?

I've recently given up. I'm sure financial pressures will soon make me "give in" and look for a job.

How do you cope with the pressure of society?
How are you able to afford living?

Being cheap and using the savings I currently have, which is starting to run out. My mortgage is on hold for 3 months.

 

[lawlietsph]

Just an update, I got another rejection e-mail today and it made me so fucking suicidal, I'm not sure anymore what to do.
It was a loooong interview on the phone, then a 2 hours long zoom interview. I am autistic, it drained the hell out of me. And I still didn't get the job.
I am so sorry guys, all of this is miserable and a huge fucking pain. I feel all of you. Every damn molecule in my body is against traditional work. But ffs, I was so hungry last time when I completely run out of money... So fucking hungry, I am terrified that I'll experience it again.
I barely have anything. I only have another rejection e-mail. Life is fucking great. I want to die so bad, I am so tired, just let me out of this prison please.

 

[AtLast]

Not unemployed but under employed and I don't cope. I cry everyday all day fill out endless applications. Go to my part time job. Drink and take THC gummies until I can't feel anything then take 3-4 sleep pills and black out. Get up and repeat. My life is an embarrassment and a joke. There's no coping with being worthless.

I was way worse a few years ago than I am now. I would just sleep all day and night. Keep food with me so I didn't have to see or talk to anyone. I still go through 10 jobs a year it seems. Don't like to interact with people. It's too depressing and after a while, they begin to think that I think I'm too good for them or something because I stay to myself. Hang in there!