Discussion Trying too hard to tie up loose ends?

[*KNAZ*]

I've been thinking about tying up loose ends to try and have minimal impact on others when it's time to CTB. Things like sorting through papers and shredding what isn't necessary, boxing up clothes and books, converting my savings account into a cashiers check so I can mail to a beneficiary on final day. I'm renting a room so after I CTB someone is going to have to come and collect my things. That's why I have been starting to sort things and box them up discretely without drawing attention to myself by suddenly giving things away.

Also thought about prepping the hotel room or wherever I decide to CTB by leaving a bag of my RX on table, a simple note with description of my method, contact info for significant people, and whatever else.

Little things like this can add up to worrying about every little detail. I accept responsibility that this is going to have an effect on others as far as them having to dispose of stuff during what will be a difficult time, but how much trying to tie up every little detail to spare others is too much?

 

[Stan]

I think it is absolutely admirable what you are doing. Do as much as you feasibly can for exactly the reason you are doing it for. I have/am putting somethings into a storage locker and posting the key to a certain person. Doing this incase the landlord decides to take and keep stuff for themselves.

 

[*KNAZ*]

I think it is absolutely admirable what you are doing. Do as much as you feasibly can for exactly the reason you are doing it for. I have/am putting somethings into a storage locker and posting the key to a certain person. Doing this incase the landlord decides to take and keep stuff for themselves.

Thanks, Stan! Never thought of a storage locker and leaving key for designated person. Great idea!

 

[Stan]

Thanks, Stan! Never thought of a storage locker and leaving key for designated person. Great idea!

I am sending the key with my goodbye note to a certain someone, I believe the police may take the originals and give copies to those closest to you. So if there is something really personal you want to hand over, then the solution I came up with is the best one I could think of without raising suspicion.

 

[MeltingHeart]

I've been thinking about tying up loose ends to try and have minimal impact on others when it's time to CTB. Things like sorting through papers and shredding what isn't necessary, boxing up clothes and books, converting my savings account into a cashiers check so I can mail to a beneficiary on final day. I'm renting a room so after I CTB someone is going to have to come and collect my things. That's why I have been starting to sort things and box them up discretely without drawing attention to myself by suddenly giving things away.

Also thought about prepping the hotel room or wherever I decide to CTB by leaving a bag of my RX on table, a simple note with description of my method, contact info for significant people, and whatever else.

Little things like this can add up to worrying about every little detail. I accept responsibility that this is going to have an effect on others as far as them having to dispose of stuff during what will be a difficult time, but how much trying to tie up every little detail to spare others is too much?

what is RX?

 

[Shakespear's Brother]

but how much trying to tie up every little detail to spare others is too much?

I'm struggling with this, too. It's difficult for sure and I am already prone to obsessive behavior.

 

[*KNAZ*]

what is RX?

RX is medical abbreviation for prescription(s) or medications you take.

 

[MeltingHeart]

RX is medical abbreviation for prescription(s) or medications you take.

may I ask how come you wanna leave a description of yr method? - if u dont mind me asking - on a side note-i've prob written over 100 pages about why I want to ctb- the longest suicide note ever perhaps?! ha - I'm sure it will never be read-prob just put straight in the trash. Kind of always wanted to be a writer but my formal education was pretty messed up, so I never felt I had the academic acumen let alone confidence to try or succeed in that pursuit...now i'm letting all my creative frustrations out in writing suicide letters, great!

 

[fightingsioux]

I've been thinking about tying up loose ends to try and have minimal impact on others when it's time to CTB. Things like sorting through papers and shredding what isn't necessary, boxing up clothes and books, converting my savings account into a cashiers check so I can mail to a beneficiary on final day. I'm renting a room so after I CTB someone is going to have to come and collect my things. That's why I have been starting to sort things and box them up discretely without drawing attention to myself by suddenly giving things away.

Also thought about prepping the hotel room or wherever I decide to CTB by leaving a bag of my RX on table, a simple note with description of my method, contact info for significant people, and whatever else.

Little things like this can add up to worrying about every little detail. I accept responsibility that this is going to have an effect on others as far as them having to dispose of stuff during what will be a difficult time, but how much trying to tie up every little detail to spare others is too much?

It's a real concern and problem for many people, myself included, so I totally understand your problem. For others, and this is just my opinion, they don't give it a moment's thought. Perhaps they even want someone else to have to clean up, sort out, dispose of, in general go through all the time-consuming minutiae of wrapping things up. That's not me.

I've been downsizing for a year. Sold my house and moved into a small one-bedroom apartment. Been thinking about it as if I was on a tiny sailboat crossing the Pacific . For various reasons my goal date is February or March of 2020, so I feel I have time to carefully plan, gradually move towards zero possessions other than the clothes I'm wearing and whatever materials I need for my ctb method. Actually, just donated a bit of clothing today, a pot, a coffee grinder (switched to tea!), some more books (one of my problem areas!), a painting. A few days before ctb I'm going to arrange for a charity organization in my city to come by and take all my furniture, they have a warehouse and disperse stuff to those in need.

Going to get things down to 2 or 3 medium-sized boxes of mementos, books, old family photos. Maybe 2 fairly valuable paintings I've had all my life, given to me by my parents. Want these few things to go to my niece in another state, who I'm going to tell I've decided to do some traveling, would like her to have this stuff just in case something happens to her eccentric old uncle . Will then either give it to a reliable friend here in town who has a big basement, no problem storing it, and tell him the same traveling story. He has my niece's contact info. Or, will rent a small closet-sized unit--they're cheap--pay in advance for a year, and give my friend the key.

Eventually, as time goes by, sooner or later--no rush, no hurry, who cares--they'll figure things out and do what they need to do.

 

[*KNAZ*]

may I ask how come you wanna leave a description of yr method? - if u dont mind me asking - on a side note-i've prob written over 100 pages about why I want to ctb- the longest suicide note ever perhaps?! ha - I'm sure it will never be read-prob just put straight in the trash. Kind of always wanted to be a writer but my formal education was pretty messed up, so I never felt I had the academic acumen let alone confidence to try or succeed in that pursuit...now i'm letting all my creative frustrations out in writing suicide letters, great!

That's a good question. I guess by leaving info about my method, I was hoping the medical examiner would leave my poor old body alone. For pity sake no need for an autopsy when I tell you how I did it. Coroners creep me out. Guess from watching those awful CSI reality tv shows. I don't think they show proper respect for the dead. Weird I know.
Got some good news today as well. My life insurance covers me regardless of cause of death or location. I can rest easier knowing the person I designated as my beneficiary will be provided for.

 

[MeltingHeart]

That's a good question. I guess by leaving info about my method, I was hoping the medical examiner would leave my poor old body alone. For pity sake no need for an autopsy when I tell you how I did it. Coroners creep me out. Guess from watching those awful CSI reality tv shows. I don't think they show proper respect for the dead. Weird I know.
Got some good news today as well. My life insurance covers me regardless of cause of death or location. I can rest easier knowing the person I designated as my beneficiary will be provided for.

ahh i see ok, well that makes sense I guess. Im kind of like - i dont really care what happens to me well i'd like to donate organs- so i'd have to be cut anyway-not sure if a hand written, dated & signed note is enough to donate or if I need an official card, hope not.

 

[*KNAZ*]

ahh i see ok, well that makes sense I guess. Im kind of like - i dont really care what happens to me well i'd like to donate organs- so i'd have to be cut anyway-not sure if a hand written, dated & signed note is enough to donate or if I need an official card, hope not.

CTB May disqualify you for donation?

 

[fightingsioux]

CTB May disqualify you for donation?

Absolutely not. As long as it's designated as your choice on your driver's license, or you've registered with your state's donor registry--which takes 5 minutes, no questions asked. There is a tremendous, tremendous need for organ donors.

 

[MeltingHeart]

CTB May disqualify you for donation?

Seriously? I wonder why. I mean if the organs are still usable - if not going by poisoning...?

Absolutely not. As long as it's designated as your choice on your driver's license, or you've registered with your state's donor registry--which takes 5 minutes, no questions asked. There is a tremendous, tremendous need for organ donors.

I don't have a drivers license, I"ll have to register then. Thks

 

[*KNAZ*]

Seriously? I wonder why. I mean if the organs are still usable - if not going by poisoning...?

Maybe google "suicide organ donations"

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

We are in the same boat. Yes, I want to get all.the affairs in order, sell stuff, make sure all finance stuff is in order so no one is left with a financial liability. For me it is about making things as less complicated as possible. If I knew I was leaving a burden other than my death, it actually would inhibit my ctb. I need to have peace knowing that I have done all I could, that I have resolved all possible issues and all.I have left to do is say Goodbye.

 

[*KNAZ*]

Absolutely not. As long as it's designated as your choice on your driver's license, or you've registered with your state's donor registry--which takes 5 minutes, no questions asked. There is a tremendous, tremendous need for organ donors.

Would someone be limited in what they could donate? I know solid organ donations are usually done on patients in hospitals who are brain dead and family consents. Not sure what kind of condition someone would be in if they CTB. Depends on method?

I admire your generosity and thinking of how you can CTB and benefit others.

 

[fightingsioux]

Would someone be limited in what they could donate? I know solid organ donations are usually done on patients in hospitals who are brain dead and family consents. Not sure what kind of condition someone would be in if they CTB. Depends on method?

It does not so much depend on the method as the condition of the organs. Usually this means that the organs have to be harvested from the body rather soon after death. Many CTB's are not found until it is too late for organ donation. (By the way, just as a note, the skin is the largest organ in the body and used in a great variety of medical procedures.)

 

[*KNAZ*]

We are in the same boat. Yes, I want to get all.the affairs in order, sell stuff, make sure all finance stuff is in order so no one is left with a financial liability. For me it is about making things as less complicated as possible. If I knew I was leaving a burden other than my death, it actually would inhibit my ctb. I need to have peace knowing that I have done all I could, that I have resolved all possible issues and all.I have left to do is say Goodbye.

I'm glad to see others out there who are thinking about the same things.

 

[khw777]

It's a real concern and problem for many people, myself included, so I totally understand your problem. For others, and this is just my opinion, they don't give it a moment's thought. Perhaps they even want someone else to have to clean up, sort out, dispose of, in general go through all the time-consuming minutiae of wrapping things up. That's not me.

I've been downsizing for a year. Sold my house and moved into a small one-bedroom apartment. Been thinking about it as if I was on a tiny sailboat crossing the Pacific . For various reasons my goal date is February or March of 2020, so I feel I have time to carefully plan, gradually move towards zero possessions other than the clothes I'm wearing and whatever materials I need for my ctb method. Actually, just donated a bit of clothing today, a pot, a coffee grinder (switched to tea!), some more books (one of my problem areas!), a painting. A few days before ctb I'm going to arrange for a charity organization in my city to come by and take all my furniture, they have a warehouse and disperse stuff to those in need.

Going to get things down to 2 or 3 medium-sized boxes of mementos, books, old family photos. Maybe 2 fairly valuable paintings I've had all my life, given to me by my parents. Want these few things to go to my niece in another state, who I'm going to tell I've decided to do some traveling, would like her to have this stuff just in case something happens to her eccentric old uncle . Will then either give it to a reliable friend here in town who has a big basement, no problem storing it, and tell him the same traveling story. He has my niece's contact info. Or, will rent a small closet-sized unit--they're cheap--pay in advance for a year, and give my friend the key.

Eventually, as time goes by, sooner or later--no rush, no hurry, who cares--they'll figure things out and do what they need to do.

Why do you want to ctb just curious

 

[fightingsioux]

Why do you want to ctb just curious

71 years old, two serious health issues, both most likely will lead to a debilitated, almost crippled situation. I want to do something while I still have the physical and mental ability to do it! Also alone, no one dependent on me, will not really be missed. Target is February or March of 2020, doing my research now as to method.