Trying to prove you are a good person

[dandred@]

I think it's horrible that anyone would ever try to take advantage of anyone on this forum. I understand that it is difficult to trust other users without knowing who they really are. I just wish I didn't have to try to convince others that I am a genuine person.
My story: I have been suffering with some medical issues for nearly one year. I am just looking for a peaceful exit and hoping to find some companionship along the way.

 

[FuneralCry]

I hope that you find what you search for, best of luck.

 

[Redacted24]

It may be difficult for people who've been traumatized to accept kindness. They've been conditioned otherwise. It's unfair but their reality.
I tend to be too trusting and that's probably not good, probably contributes to depression and why I'm even in this community.
So I keep my privacy and am on guard like everyone else, but it would sure be nice to be hugged once in a while.
It's such a hard thing to go it alone, don't you think?
Sorry that you're here too!

 

[dandred@]

It may be difficult for people who've been traumatized to accept kindness. They've been conditioned otherwise. It's unfair but their reality.
I tend to be too trusting and that's probably not good, probably contributes to depression and why I'm even in this community.
So I keep my privacy and am on guard like everyone else, but it would sure be nice to be hugged once in a while.
It's such a hard thing to go it alone, don't you think?
Sorry that you're here too!

Yes it's understandable. Just sad. Thanks for replying.
Also, I'm desperate for a partner to CTB. Truly hoping someone can help.

 

[Redacted24]

One thing is that I've found the folks on this site to be kind, supporting and generally caring. I see their posts encouraging others, and they're dealing with seriously heavy things with compassion and understanding.
I'm glad you're here, and hope you can feel that too. We're all in this mess together!

 

[Tears in Rain]

I think it's horrible that anyone would ever try to take advantage of anyone on this forum. I understand that it is difficult to trust other users without knowing who they really are. I just wish I didn't have to try to convince others that I am a genuine person.
My story: I have been suffering with some medical issues for nearly one year. I am just looking for a peaceful exit and hoping to find some companionship along the way.

Yes it's understandable. Just sad. Thanks for replying.
Also, I'm desperate for a partner to CTB. Truly hoping someone can help.

Is that a difficulty on the partners megathread, trying to prove to people that you are a good person?

 

[dandred@]

Is that a difficulty on the partners megathread, trying to prove to people that you are a good person?

Yes! Trying to prove that I'm not out to scam anyone.

 

[Tears in Rain]

Yes! Trying to prove that I'm not out to scam anyone.

How would someone potentially scam a ctb partner?

Is it because you you're fairly new on this site that people are wary of you?
Without getting into specifics, what kind of broad questions do people ask you to ascertain whether you're a good person or not?

 

[dandred@]

How would someone potentially scam a ctb partner?

Is it because you you're fairly new on this site that people are wary of you?
Without getting into specifics, what kind of broad questions do people ask you to ascertain whether you're a good person or not?

I think people are just guarded in general, which I understand. There are some people that have horrible intentions. I would just like the opportunity to prove that I'm authentic.

 

[Tears in Rain]

Sure, I get it. I guess people also have to be wary of the potential for violent predators to be here on SaSu.
I'm sure as you post more on this site, people will get to potentially trust you more

I guess that you're always limited in finding a partner to ctb with, given the small pool of people on the partners megathread. As well as having to find someone in your own region, and agreeing on the methods involved.

What's your main driver of not wanting to ctb alone?

 

[dandred@]

Fair enough.
Fear of not succeeding and fear of being alone.

 

[sad4dayz]

I think it's horrible that anyone would ever try to take advantage of anyone on this forum. I understand that it is difficult to trust other users without knowing who they really are. I just wish I didn't have to try to convince others that I am a genuine person.
My story: I have been suffering with some medical issues for nearly one year. I am just looking for a peaceful exit and hoping to find some companionship along the way.

I think everyone is inherently good. We make bad decisions sometimes but doesnt mean your a bad person.

 

[Argo]

I think you have to consider the desperation and therefore potential paranoia of a suicidal person. I posted on the partners thread too, I also would consider going with someone(but also relate to any concerns about it, I'm kind of on the fence here.)

Most people *want* something from you. It's very much the same with human interaction. In human relations, platonic and romantic, there needs to be some kind of transaction. Some kind of win-win that makes it a good enough deal for both people. When one person feels like they get a crappy deal, then they don't feel good. That's the selfishness of human nature, and it has to be carefully understood.
We're all just dumb monkeys who are programmed to try to be "big winners", even in death. It's why our world is a moral hellscape.

 

[F@#$]

I'm not a good person.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I can understand the want not to be alone and I think partnerships have worked in the past. It is so risky though and I don't know how you'd go about mitigating those risks. Some people do lie about their intentions. Women have been sexually assaulted and even murdered. What if you turned up and they looked to be a minor? What if one of you backs out at the last minute or the attempt fails for one of you? It's just such a complicated thing. I'm not really surprised people have trust issues. None the less, I wish you and any potential partner all the best.

 

[ropearoundatree]

I have been taken advantage of multiple times by women on another forum, so it can happen the other way around, too... (it's just that - nobody, I guess suspects it! which provides "excellent-cover," for them to manipulate; to deceive & etc.).

 

[dandred@]

I can understand the want not to be alone and I think partnerships have worked in the past. It is so risky though and I don't know how you'd go about mitigating those risks. Some people do lie about their intentions. Women have been sexually assaulted and even murdered. What if you turned up and they looked to be a minor? What if one of you backs out at the last minute or the attempt fails for one of you? It's just such a complicated thing. I'm not really surprised people have trust issues. None the less, I wish you and any potential partner all the best.

Oh yes, I understand all that. I'm just frustrated that anybody would have ill-intent. They make it difficult for the rest of us.

I can understand the want not to be alone and I think partnerships have worked in the past. It is so risky though and I don't know how you'd go about mitigating those risks. Some people do lie about their intentions. Women have been sexually assaulted and even murdered. What if you turned up and they looked to be a minor? What if one of you backs out at the last minute or the attempt fails for one of you? It's just such a complicated thing. I'm not really surprised people have trust issues. None the less, I wish you and any potential partner all the best. I understand all that. I'm just frustrated that anybody would have ill-intent. They make it difficult for the rest of us.

I have been taken advantage of multiple times by women on another forum, so it can happen the other way around, too... (it's just that - nobody, I guess suspects it! which provides "excellent-cover," for them to manipulate; to deceive & etc.).

That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that. I hate that anybody would take advantage of anyone.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Oh yes, I understand all that. I'm just frustrated that anybody would have ill-intent. They make it difficult for the rest of us.



That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that. I hate that anybody would take advantage of anyone.

Yes- absolutely. It's so sad in life generally that the minority spoil it for the majority. I'm sorry. I hope you find someone you can build a mutual trust in.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

A certain wariness is always warranted but if you're genuinely sincere then people will pick up on that.