I would rather someone be honest or show me the truth.
This is the motto I live by:
"If any person is able to convince me and show me that I do not think or act rightly, I will gladly change; for I seek the truth, by which no person was ever injured. But they are injured who abide in their error and ignorance." - Marcus Aurelius
I don't like abiding in error and ignorance, it just compounds things and causes harm. In my way of thinking, the truth may hurt, but it never harms.
As far as how the truth is presented...I was reading a self-defense book for using firearms by someone who seems rather abusive, especially toward young women. He made a pretty mean comment about how if someone is wallowing in and whining about PTSD, then the method is not for them. At first I was really offended about how his comment was re-victimizing and dismissive, but I was surprised that it uncovered hidden strength in me, and I in fact became less of a victim. So while I don't value how he said it, and I still don't like or respect him, I found value in his words, and I found a truth that served me. I was made stronger by what was revealed, not by the abusiveness with which it was presented. I didn't throw out the baby with the dirty bathwater.