Top reason I don’t want a relationship

[Deafsn0w]

It happened to my brother today... He broke up with his girlfriend cause she tried to control him. I feel really bad for him :( Thanksgiving is the worst day to break up with someone. He is moving to my dad's house now and his girlfriend doesn't know that he's moving and i'm currently on vacation with my mom so i won't come back till Dec 2nd. This is the biggest reason i don't want a relationship. I avoid relationships at all costs cause i know i will not be able to handle this situation.

 

[worldexploder]

I'm sorry to hear about your brother. I am done with relationships as well. 2 out of 4 I was with were sociopaths who fucked me up mentally. My ex wife is wonderful and we still love each other. Things just didn't work out. Plus my situation pretty much makes me "undatable" The sun is setting on my life. Trying to form an emotional bond with someone is too much of an emotional risk. Ain't worth it anymore.

 

[To match the colors]

i used to want a relationship (i still do at times) but after seeing the real world for sometime i am completely resigned to never do it, people suck too much and i cant trust anyone that much.

 

[MexicanTravels]

I have been in many situations of unrequited love and this quote sums up my feelings quite well. Once is enough though. After that and you're ready to CTB.

 

[jaemus12]

I live in a fantasy, disconnected with the real world. I don't think anyone can understand me. It's going to be a hard road for both parties.

I don't see myself being with anyone.

*Edit: Also controlling people are hard to deal with sometimes. Sorry that your brother has to go through that.

 

[Virgo]

Break ups make having a relationship pointless.

 

[Terminally drunk]

just tell him its all in his head. attachment to someone else can have the worst effects when in a bad state of mind. like u see ex partners killing each other. people killing themselves over someone else that has emotionally fucked with there head. jealously and lust can really ruin someone. a relationship is a feel good drug but with every dopamine hit. there is a comedown. nature has programmed us to feel this way to make more babys an bla bla. you don't want a relationship. it isn't worth it. Some people get a sick pleasure out of love bombing and messing with weak minds. always keep true and love yourself. That way, no one can hurt you.

 

[Help_Me]

My brother made it through divorce few years ago, still he suffers cause his ex tries to take away his daughter. One of my best friends also experienced the same thing. He is all alone now, but he likes it and I I'm glad he is ok. Btw his ex took away his daughter as well. And who guarantees I won't have to go through all of this as well ? I love my gf from the bottom of my heart, but we are constantly quarreling for years, and I know we won't make it further, I'll never be able to marry or live with her together. I know I should go to the bus station sooner or later and wait for my bus to 4th dimension. Half of the people here passed away cause of f*cked up relationships. I knew one forum user (at peace now) here, who just wanted to be closer to her bf, and he refused. I know that feeling as I am trying to do the same sh1t in my situation.

 

[TAW122]

Very understandable and this is one of my primary reasons for not wanting to be in a relationship with someone. While not being able to be in a relationship is one of my reasons for ctb'ing, I want to clarify that there is a difference between being in a relationship and having the ability to be capable of being in a relationship (dating material). My reason for ctb'ing isn't so much that I didn't have a relationship nor that I wasn't in one, but rather that I could not have a relationship if I ever chose to (not that I would).

 

[LiveSlowDieFast]

Very understandable and this is one of my primary reasons for not wanting to be in a relationship with someone. While not being able to be in a relationship is one of my reasons for ctb'ing, I want to clarify that there is a difference between being in a relationship and having the ability to be capable of being in a relationship (dating material). My reason for ctb'ing isn't so much that I couldn't have a relationship, but rather that I could not have a relationship if I ever chose to (not that I would).

I completely relate. At this point a relationship seems so utterly unobtainable that it might as well be as if I wished for magic powers. I stopped caring though

 

[Louise]

I'm rather bad at relationships. Was a typical unstable BPD type, either idealising or denigrating my partner. More than once it escalated to physical fights. Throw severe bipolar disorder into the mix and, well you get the picture. Now that I'm in my 50's guys are hardly queuing up to be with me. I do have an ldr though. Unsure if that counts.

 

[Karl]

I do not want to have to suddenly leave anyone's life in the shape of a suicide.
I do not want to have to deal with other people.

 

[sadak_the_wanderer]

I have not had a romantic relationship in many many years. This is probably for the best for anyone else. Despite being very lonely, I would be doing someone a disservice by dating them, even on the off chance that someone would be interested.

 

[Dor]

The amounts of times I almost impulsively committed suicide because of girls are too many to count

 

[Life sucks]

I don't want relationships as I don't interact with humans at all. And it will end someday even if without reasons, time alone will end it. Be it death or any other cause

 

[azucaramargo]

just tell him its all in his head. attachment to someone else can have the worst effects when in a bad state of mind. like u see ex partners killing each other. people killing themselves over someone else that has emotionally fucked with there head. jealously and lust can really ruin someone. a relationship is a feel good drug but with every dopamine hit. there is a comedown. nature has programmed us to feel this way to make more babys an bla bla. you don't want a relationship. it isn't worth it. Some people get a sick pleasure out of love bombing and messing with weak minds. always keep true and love yourself. That way, no one can hurt you.

What is love bombing?

 

[torturedbylife]

sometimes i still crave relationship because I'm human but I know I will never be in another one again cause that's the wise thing to do. All the past relationships I had were abusive and I just felt used. I feel relationships are shallow plus you never knoe what true intentions the other person has. or you see them changing into a violent person.

 

[Iamnotperminant92]

Top head says no relationship, heart and bottom head are yet to be convinced. I still have cravings but I try what I can do to bottle those cravings up and toss them in the sea. I don't have many good memories of past dating and I don't think anyone could be interested in me. I'm quite black pilled on online dating. But as far as marriage goes I'm terrified of the idea of losing custody of kids as being a father is a goal of mine but it's probably better off that goal dies with me. It would be irresponsible of me to bring kids into this world while I'm financially insecure, and having kids taken away in divorce - they would still be an obligation for me not to CTB especially if I make the same mistakes in choosing a partner that my mom did. There'd still be the specter of responsibility or potential responsibility. I would want to be around, in that case, for adult children. The only way to avoid worst case scenarios would be not to engage. Not that I could likely engage successfully...