Told my dad I was having suicidal thoughts. He told me I'd burn in hell.

[SentimentalTrip]

After years of dealing with depression, 2023 was the year I realized this life is not tenable and I cannot keep living. I've been dropping hints to my family about my suicidal thoughts this year. I haven't told them outright. I have an awful relationship with them, but I didn't want them to be caught off-guard when it happens.

A few days ago I was as direct as I've ever been with my parents that I have had serious suicidal thoughts.

My dad told me I'd burn in hell.

It angered me hearing him say something so callous. It angered me more because he is completely irreligious. He doesn't pray. He doesn't read the Bible. In my entire life, I have seen him go church once. He doesn't even say grace before eating. And yet he feels like can judge someone else's actions and whether or not they'll land them in heaven or hell?

After hearing I felt so incredibly stupid. Stupid for the fact that I even bothered telling him about my suicidal thoughts.

 

[FuneralCry]

To me the only hell is this hellish world we already exist in, I wouldn't pay any attention to anyone saying things like that.

 

[tiger b]

Sounds like he just can't engage with them on any level. Maybe he feels some guilt in hearing that from his child...maybe not. The phrase itself is nonsensical, there's nowhere even in the Bible (if you're interested in, which I am not really) that says those that commit suicide will burn, all one has to do is believe in God and Jesus.

You learned something valuable, definitely.

 

[user56765567]

That's horrible that you have had to go through something like this as well as my very religious family has been like this to me while oozing out hypocrisy as well.

 

[Deleted member 65988]

And this is why a lot of people cannot share their thoughts openly because you will condemned especially if you have religious parents who only see life from that perspective and no other.

 

[Ominira]

This is exactly why many people just keep their feelings to themselves and end up suffering even more. I'm sorry he said that to you. I think most of us here can agree that it really cannot get more hellish than the world we are inhabiting. A permanent sleep sounds like paradise in comparison.

 

[StaticCryBabye]

This happened to me too. I told my mom one time that I'm dealing with several suicidal thoughts, and at first i thought she genuinely understand, she comforted me and talked to me about it. But the next day, she told my very religious aunt about it. And i felt really betrayed by it and Instead of helping me cope with it, my aunt told me about how bad of a sin it is and that I should be thankful that I'm alive. It made me so angry; I had to listen to her rant about God and stuff for 20 minutes. After that, I swore never to tell anyone in my family about my feelings ever again.

 

[tinyghost]

its sad to hear how this has happened to other people as well. my family has said i was going to hell for my anxiety and had me exorcised for cutting at a teen. your dad deserves a good fist to the jaw. what a piece of shit. im so sorry op

 

[TheLastGreySky]

After years of dealing with depression, 2023 was the year I realized this life is not tenable and I cannot keep living. I've been dropping hints to my family about my suicidal thoughts this year. I haven't told them outright. I have an awful relationship with them, but I didn't want them to be caught off-guard when it happens.

A few days ago I was as direct as I've ever been with my parents that I have had serious suicidal thoughts.

My dad told me I'd burn in hell.

It angered me hearing him say something so callous. It angered me more because he is completely irreligious. He doesn't pray. He doesn't read the Bible. In my entire life, I have seen him go church once. He doesn't even say grace before eating. And yet he feels like can judge someone else's actions and whether or not they'll land them in heaven or hell?

After hearing I felt so incredibly stupid. Stupid for the fact that I even bothered telling him about my suicidal thoughts.

So, I've studied the Bible for several years and I want to correct something. NOWHERE does it say suicide is a sin. Thou shall not kill - is misleading because what it means is unethnical murder is a sin. Obviously the people of Moses went out and conquered the surrounding lands. Also thanks to King James the words Sheol, Gehenna, Hades and Hell all are used interchangeably when they had different meanings. Gehenna was an actual place outside of the Israelite camp that was used to burn the dead and anything with mold. Gehenna, Sheol, Hades and Hell all mean the underworld. Jesus spoke of the underworld being filled with people who rejected the truth as weeping and gnashing their teeth, he never mentioned them burning in hell. Also, when he mentions the fig tree being burned and destroyed he was referring to those who do not bear fruit (false Christians) will be destroyed like burning tumbleweeds, as in disposed of.
Because of Roman influence a lot of the new Testament has pagan ideas implemented into them. You got to understand that the Bible was compiled and translated from Hebrew to Greek and to Latin and English long before people had the resource of talking with native speakers. The sea of reeds is STILL mistranslated to the red sea in most modern Bibles. So, bare in mind that several religious authorities have profited off the fear of a Burning Hell for so long that correcting the misinformation would subtract from their power over people, and hence cut their income. I personally feel that a God who burns his children for eternity is NOT a God that deserves worship.
If you're still worried about being punished for choosing to exit this life, then talk to God and Jesus and ask for forgiveness. If you chose to leave or if you chose to stay, I do not think God would punish someone for choosing not to suffer.

 

[Kit1]

That is an awful comment to make by the person who was responsible for your birth and wrll being. That is just abusive and nasty and plain out of order and fit father will say that. I am so sorry that he abused you in this way and it is abuse. It is not up to you to prepare them for your death and if this is what he is like. If you were hoping that by reaching out, he might try and support you - well clearly he is totally incapable of that and is not a safe person and you might want to look elsewhere for support. I am just sorry that you have such a nasty parent. Take care.

 

[hi-okbye]

that's so horrible i'm really sorry you had to go through that :(
wising you the best <3