To the Aussie girl who ghosted me when I lived in Brisbane in 2017

[Busticket]

Hi, everyone.
Yes, I have started my improvement plan.
I just wanted to get this off my chest.
She will never read it of course but I want to get it off my chest:

You know, I used to regret my actions with you and losing you.
But you know what?

You can go f yourself.
I am proud of my self.
I behaved like the absolute gentleman that I am.
That's why I didn't touch or initiated sex with you on those 2 dates we had.
And you probably think I envy your boyfriend.
Haha , that's a good one.
He can make love to you everynight for the next 100 years, I don't care.
I would still rather be born a dog than be born him.

You were not worthy of a kind, moral, considerate and absolute gentleman like me anyways.
Goodbye.

 

[hahabye]

Hi, everyone.
Yes, I have started my improvement plan.
I just wanted to get this off my chest.
She will never read it of course but I want to get it off my chest:

You know, I used to regret my actions with you and losing you.
But you know what?

You can go f yourself.
I am proud of my self.
I behaved like the absolute gentleman that I am.
That's why I didn't touch or initiated sex with you on those 2 dates we had.
And you probably think I envy your boyfriend.
Haha , that's a good one.
He can make love to you everynight for the next 100 years, I don't care.
I would still rather be born a dog than be born him.

You were not worthy of a kind, moral, considerate and absolute gentleman like me anyways.
Goodbye.

Truly kind post.

But venting is good and here's a perfect way to do it. Way better than her PMs.

Don't let this bring you down!

 

[logan]

That's no good ...

Let it go and wish her a good life inside - that's the only way you'll find peace with the situation.

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

Hi, everyone.
Yes, I have started my improvement plan.
I just wanted to get this off my chest.
She will never read it of course but I want to get it off my chest:

You know, I used to regret my actions with you and losing you.
But you know what?

You can go f yourself.
I am proud of my self.
I behaved like the absolute gentleman that I am.
That's why I didn't touch or initiated sex with you on those 2 dates we had.
And you probably think I envy your boyfriend.
Haha , that's a good one.
He can make love to you everynight for the next 100 years, I don't care.
I would still rather be born a dog than be born him.

You were not worthy of a kind, moral, considerate and absolute gentleman like me anyways.
Goodbye.

oh wow you really are still going on with this... you obviously do care a lot but its definitely crossing the line into creepy as hell...also you sound like one of those woman hating self rightious "incels" if you ever want female attention you need to find some way to cut it out.

 

[LastLoveLetter]

Some of the comments you have written about this woman and about women in general are far from gentlemanly, to be honest.

You went on two dates four years ago. Whilst I'm not condoning how she abruptly ceased contact without letting you know that she was no longer interested, you sound incredibly bitter towards this person you hardly knew and only saw very fleetingly.

Not only that, but you contacted her after requesting feedback on whether or not your message was creepy - to which most people here answered "yes" - and you did this knowing that she is in a relationship. I am not sure why you would expect a response to such a message, especially when she has evidently moved forward with her life. It seems you were hoping for a receptive reaction and were annoyed when you didn't receive it.

Concluding that she doesn't deserve someone kind, that she can "go f herself" and that she is unworthy of your affections anyway - all because you did not get what you wanted - is reminiscent of typical "nice guy" rhetoric. It reeks of entitlement and resentment.

I understand that rejection is devastating. I understand that she upset you. I understand the lack of closure that comes with being cut off. But this isn't a healthy way of navigating those feelings. I hope you have left this lady alone now.

Curtailing your obsession with women and sex is not simply about abstaining from masturbation and porn. Perhaps this - and your improvement plan - could also be about re-evaluating your attitude towards sex, relationships and women. Perhaps it could involve a little more honesty, introspection and insight. Perhaps it could include asking yourself some uncomfortable questions and facing your own equally uncomfortable answers.

 

[Celerity]

Some of the comments you have written about this woman and about women in general are far from gentlemanly, to be honest.

You went on two dates four years ago. Whilst I'm not condoning how she abruptly ceased contact without letting you know that she was no longer interested, you sound incredibly bitter towards this person you hardly knew and only saw very fleetingly.

Not only that, but you contacted her after requesting feedback on whether or not your message was creepy - to which most people here answered "yes" - and you did this knowing that she is in a relationship. I am not sure why you would expect a response to such a message, especially when she has evidently moved forward with her life. It seems you were hoping for a receptive reaction and were annoyed when you didn't receive it.

Concluding that she doesn't deserve someone kind, that she can "go f herself" and that she is unworthy of your affections anyway - all because you did not get what you wanted - is reminiscent of typical "nice guy" rhetoric. It reeks of entitlement and resentment.

I understand that rejection is devastating. I understand that she upset you. I understand the lack of closure that comes with being cut off. But this isn't a healthy way of navigating those feelings. I hope you have left this lady alone now.

Curtailing your obsession with women and sex is not simply about abstaining from masturbation and porn. Perhaps this - and your improvement plan - could also be about re-evaluating your attitude towards sex, relationships and women. Perhaps it could involve a little more honesty, introspection and insight. Perhaps it could include asking yourself some uncomfortable questions and facing your own equally uncomfortable answers.

Honestly, I agree, but all of the things you listed for him to do are much, much, much harder than catching the bus. It's why we're all here. If I could turn myself into a person people liked, I wouldn't be here. It's going to be a 45 for me. Less frustration for everyone involved. Efficient. Even considerate for those people who genuinely can't stand me or actively hate me.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Hi, everyone.
Yes, I have started my improvement plan.
I just wanted to get this off my chest.
She will never read it of course but I want to get it off my chest:

You know, I used to regret my actions with you and losing you.
But you know what?

You can go f yourself.
I am proud of my self.
I behaved like the absolute gentleman that I am.
That's why I didn't touch or initiated sex with you on those 2 dates we had.
And you probably think I envy your boyfriend.
Haha , that's a good one.
He can make love to you everynight for the next 100 years, I don't care.
I would still rather be born a dog than be born him.

You were not worthy of a kind, moral, considerate and absolute gentleman like me anyways.
Goodbye.

Why must You insult DOG'S???

 

[Fragile]

I'll be honest, you can move past this, but there are some unresolved issues that are manifesting towards this person.

It's definitely not about her, you really need to change your views on relationships if you truly wish to recover. But if you think that she owes you something, and you can't get out of your mind a small interaction that happened in 2017, then you'll live suffering for something that just didn't happened.

A better alternative would be to learn from this memory instead of getting filled with hate when thinking about it, maybe understand that men are expected to make a move, and a "gentleman" is seen as passive and uninterested by some woman. And don't define the value of a person on the fact that they didn't gave you what you wanted.

Just don't go full supreme gentleman, that last paragraph really game me Elliot Rodger vibes.

 

[motel rooms]

OMFG, will this story never end?

 

[Symbiote]

If you have to tell others that you're a gentleman, then you're most likely not a gentleman. The above letter is that niceguy bullshit that most people (men and women) avoid like the plague.

Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy". It helps.

 

[Celerity]

Guys, let's let this go. No need to dog-pile this guy anymore. If you check his other thread, he got the message. 4-5 replies was enough.

@Busticket, I'd recommend messaging the mods and requesting to close your threads. Otherwise, you're likely to get replies on into 2023 at this rate.

 

[motel rooms]

If you check his other thread, he got the message.

Wait for his next thread, "I will always love/hate her, she's an angel from heaven/bitch from hell"

 

[Celerity]

Wait for his next thread, "I will always love/hate her, she's an angel from heaven/bitch from hell"

Oh god. This whole thread has me thinking of the song "Creep" by Radiohead. Not trying to be mean, OP, but seriously. Lots of overlap in the feelings here.

 

[Busdriver]

I like your letter @Busticket !

I wish you so much good luck on your recovery plan.

 

[ClairyFairy]

Did she reply to the 1st message?? She might not get any of them if you're not friends on fb.