june

june

Experienced
May 25, 2020
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I wondered how other people let go and why I couldn't just let go and live happily ever after.

People often say, "Just let it go. Let the past stay in the past," but this is misleading. Letting go isn't as easy as turning off a switch or erasing words off a whiteboard
 
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GoBack

GoBack

Paragon
Apr 25, 2020
997
I can't let go, I think you need a very safe environment to do that, whatever that means to each person. Anytime I found a safe place that I could've let go it was taken away from me somehow. I don't think I could let go now
 
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_Minsk

_Minsk

death: the cure for life
Dec 9, 2019
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I wondered how other people let go and why I couldn't just let go and live happily ever after.

People often say, "Just let it go. Let the past stay in the past," but this is misleading. Letting go isn't as easy as turning off a switch or erasing words off a whiteboard
true, back in the days i used to believe that stuff tho, it felt good to believe life is magic and all things heal on their own.. its easy to throw this stuff around especially if you dont have deal with any of this.. its foolish to say let go, imagine telling this victims of rape, but everyone has their own mindset, living in a different world
 
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Inner_dialogue

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May 19, 2020
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In order to let go, I feel that you have to be able to talk about it and try understand it. Letting go doesn't erase the past. I wish I could, but it's not easy, and those that say it is have never had something to complex happen to them
 
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june

june

Experienced
May 25, 2020
207
Does time only dilute the pain? Dilute it, as in, it allows the potential of good experiences to happen later on?

I try to live for the next day, in hopes that a good nights sleep can put some distance between me and the hopelessness.

It's been 2 years. Nothing healed. Not even a feather moved during that time.

I think this works for most because most can look towards the future. But my health, I think I get hopeless knowing that I'll only get weaker and more in pain.
 
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The Dark Chaos

The Dark Chaos

Craving chaos..
Apr 17, 2020
215
Time doesn't heal wounds at all. And perhaps that is the biggest lie of them all. Instead what happens is that each wound penetrates the body deeper and deeper until one day you find that the sheer body of you has collapsed under the weight of your griefs.
 
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Pryras

Pryras

Last hope
Feb 11, 2020
524
For myself, time doesn't change much and the pain can feel just as fresh years later.

What usually "helps" in my case is when it's replaced by something [worse] I stop thinking about the older trauma and start obsessing over the current one.

I can't say positive experiences have the same effect on me though. Something amazing could happen and I'm stuck in the past the next day. When something worse happens, it hits hard and I start putting all my energy into that.
 
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braketimez

braketimez

Specialist
Mar 15, 2020
340
I can let go of things...the problem is that they are attached to me by a string, so I am pulled down with them .
 
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Bct

Bct

Disqualified from Being Human
Apr 20, 2020
419
Nope. Time won't heal all wounds. Even if we forget them, they can take our subconscious .
 
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Brink

Brink

Exhausted. RadHomo.
Feb 11, 2020
625
People often say, "Just let it go. Let the past stay in the past."
The temptation to respond with, "you're right, I've never thought about that" in a sarcastic tone is real. But I never do or have because it would be weird and most people already see me as odd.

Time eases some wounds, heals others and worsens others still. It's relative, subjective and personal. I think many people say it with the best intentions, but it just doesn't quite cut it does it?!
 
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SerialFailer

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May 1, 2020
46
If anything, most of my wounds only got infected with time.
Only the lightest scrapes healed at all. Anything worse just made me lose a piece of myself or grew worse.
 
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