"this feeling is temporary"

[livelaughlove]

when I was doing a lot worse, people said that it's "temporary". ok. now it's somewhat passed, sure. I guess they were right in some way. but couldn't you say the same about being in a good state? Like who knows how long I'm going to stay "better" for. feeling good is also temporary. So why encourage people to continue because "it's only temporary" when happiness is also temporary? Might as well ctb while I'm somewhat happy before things go bad again.

 

[EmberFlake]

Being told it's "temporary" is so triggering for me. My mother used to say that about my hurt feelings while actively fucking with them. And these days people use it like a shortcut to getting me to not make a scene anymore. Another patronising platitude at best, another gaslighting tactic at worst. How the fuck is the pain "temporary" when it's ALWAYS there? I can't tell you what to do but know that I relate to what you're talking about

 

[letmegetout]

when I was doing a lot worse, people said that it's "temporary". ok. now it's somewhat passed, sure. I guess they were right in some way. but couldn't you say the same about being in a good state? Like who knows how long I'm going to stay "better" for. feeling good is also temporary. So why encourage people to continue because "it's only temporary" when happiness is also temporary? Might as well ctb while I'm somewhat happy before things go bad again.

1million % agree with you.
I know that these feelings get more and less intense at times and I can enjoy things at times but it's like waiting for it to come crashing down again. Why would I want that

 

[jodes2]

I suppose we need to live for the positive times

 

[LaVieEnRose]

It's okay, just live in the moment. Too bad this moment is followed by many other such moments.

 

[VioletNight]

Like yeah of course, all feelings in any situation are temporary, but that doesn't prevent them from constantly rising again and again. Jodes is right that if you want to make it you have to live for the good times but damn if it isn't hard making it through the bad sometimes.

 

[Grayfield]

Life is arbitrary and loves to somehow alternate sort of eerily quiet phases with moments of desperation and suffering. It becomes a sick cursed cycle.
This reminded me of this words by Cioran. "…suffering is to live suspended above the abyss. All suffering is an abyss."

 

[FuneralCry]

The reality is that there are many people in this world who don't wish to accept that wanting suicide can be a perfectly rational decision and that existence isn't always worth enduring, so they invalidate all suffering by labelling it as "temporary". These types of people are blinded by their delusions, and the way that they see things doesn't matter as they cannot experience life the same way as other people after all. No matter what continuing to exist could never be an obligation and it's very much understandable wishing to leave before things just get worse.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

I'm still hoping someone will hit me with one of those platitudes again just so I can be a smartass to them. All of our problems are temporary if we die obviously. Forced lifers probably won't like hearing that I'm sure.

 

[alivefornow]

With me, it shifts from "horrible" to "bad but bearable" times. It's never really good times.

 

[Forever Sleep]

My 'temporary' has lasted 33 years... (Varying degrees of ideation of course...)

But yeah- ABSOLUTELY. happiness tends to be more 'temporary' than many other emotions in my experience. In a lot of people's experiences I imagine- VERY good point!

 

[SuicidalSheep]

Nothing about my condition is temporary, do these people even think about wtf they're saying? The best I've ever felt is "tolerable".

 

[exhaustedanonymous]

exactly, exactly, exactly. sure, maybe i'll feel better, but what good is doing better when in reality the bad moments are just creeping up on you all over again? life is temporary. death is eternity. as a last act of selfishness, im going to give myself eternity. by now, i probably deserve it.

 

[ForeverLonely82]

Lies. I feel this "feeling" everyday. Empty, morose, defeated. The only time this feeling numbs is when I drink while retro gaming. Exercise, music and youtube vids bring only minutes of relief, while drinking brings hours of it. Unhealthy as hell, but when you have no life or friends as myself. Your choices are limited to tame the inner demons that constantly eat away at your soul.

 

[NHLTradeRumor]

It's only temporary for some people, while it's not for others. I've wanted to CTB for damn near half of my short life, so it's certainly not temporary for me, but everyone still has the audacity to say "it's temporary". They don't know my life, they don't know what it's like to be trans, and that I'll never be the same as someone who was born a woman. Everyone always assumes that it's temporary, even if it's not, and it's infuriating.