The main reason I’m suicidal is because I have no friends

[dime4everr]

Is this a little excuse for me resorting to suicide? I feel like I've been through this cycle since high school, and now it's taking over in college. Now I want to kill myself because my social life is so shitty.

 

[GASLIGHTER7000]

no it's really not and im honestly the same. there are a lot of other factors contributing to me being suicidal but loneliness is one of them. many people have ctb'd cuz they were lonely. now a days it's impossible to meet ppl irl as an adult, or have a real conversation with anyone. i've only recently started college but have genuinely not had a singular conversation with another student yet. it's dumb af how, when you talk about loneliness people will often be like "well just go walk up to people" or "just go outside and sit in public". i can count on my fingers how many time's i've been approached in public

 

[whyidon'tknow]

I feel the same way, imo opinion social connection is all that matters in life. Could be as rich as a king or poor as a pauper, doesnt matter if you dont have connections


Sending you some love and kindness

 

[BradGuy123]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Loneliness is surprisingly common. I read an article saying that 12% of adults don't have friends. I don't know if posting links is allowed here. Search for
The Friendship Recession: The Lost Art of Connecting

You mentioned you were in college. I don't know how big your college is. Mine was huge. There are probably clubs for all kinds of interests. Sci-fi clubs, political clubs, religious groups, clubs about your major, etc. People often form friendships based on common bonds.

I wish you the best of luck and hope things get better for you.

 

[Spite]

Me too. I'd say having no IRL friends is my main reason I want to kill myself. We are social creatures, we *need* contact and social bonds with other people. When we are deprived of that long-term, that's a core pillar of the human experience removed from our lives, and it has dire consequences.

I've seen studies that suggest being friendless and chronically lonely is as unhealthy as smoking a packet of cigarettes daily. It literally kills you, albeit very slowly, and I have wondered if my natural lifespan will be cut short - if I will naturally die earlier than I'm supposed to - because I've practically lived my entire life as a friendless outcast, largely void of any meaningful connections.

I think going through life without friends is one of the most hellish torments a human being can ever experience. You miss out on *so much*, and it hurts like a knife through the heart. You lose the will to live, your life lacks meaning, and you are unable to build upon your character and gain core memories that make life worth it. After being friendless and alone for so long, you don't even feel alive... and that's how I have felt for quite a while now.

 

[scary]

I don't think there is ever a true valid reasoning for wanting to ctb. If you feel suicidal then you feel suicidal, no matter what reasonings you have for it, please don't feel as though you're not suffering enough to "deserve" feeling the urge to ctb.

I don't have any friends either and that's one of the many reasons I want to ctb. Humans crave connection and touch starvation is very much a real thing, whether it be platonic or romantic.

 

[nails]

i have no friends online or irl and it's become the main reason why i am going to ctb. i lost everyone in early 2025 and life has been unbearable since then. this kind of isolation feels like torture and not that many people seem to understand. even the most mundane and joyful things become either painfully boring or completely devastating.
and i don't think there's such thing as a valid or invalid reason to ctb, the way you're being affected is all that matters in this case.

 

[ThePainKiller]

Is this a little excuse for me resorting to suicide? I feel like I've been through this cycle since high school, and now it's taking over in college. Now I want to kill myself because my social life is so shitty.

Its reasonable, we get pulled down by the weight of thoughts about how much better we could had it and that stings, that just leaves me thinking about the paradise that the bus will bring me to.

 

[tellingthetruth]

I think it's perfectly valid to CTB because of social isolation.

BUT(!!!) I'm going to do that old person thing and tell you to give life a chance to unfold a bit further before giving up on it.

There are two scenarios for how your life proceeds:
1) you could stay lonely forever.
2) you find your people, even if it is just one person, and that fills that void you're feeling in the absence of social contact.

It is unfair, but some of us are not socially gifted, and find it a real struggle to make and keep friends. I really understand how difficult that feeling is, especially when you're at college where all around you it feels like everyone is coming together and bonding. However, what you can't see are the other people who are also struggling socially. Like you probably do, they hide this fact from the world and self-isolate. But I promise you they are there.

You owe it to yourself to try, even though it's hard, to figure out how you can connect with people. Maybe it won't look how you expected it to look (we all have expectations for how popular or successful we are going to be, and usually reality is different) but it will be something.

Just try. Make a deal with yourself to come back to this question if whether to CTB in a few years and just try.