CrazyJason
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- Dec 31, 2019
- 11
I wrote this essay when I was really going through it earlier this month. It details how problems in life seems to invite more problems and create a downward spiral that's really hard to get out of. Still considering suicide... But honestly, I don't want to die. I just want things to get better. Enjoy my essay:
I have to agree that life is, in fact, getting shittier.
My parents talked about how they got a simple job when they turned 18 and were able to rent their own apartment just by having that job (a job that didn't require schooling, certificates, etc...).
Now I'm turning 30 this month and I have to say, it's hard to even find an affordable ROOM to rent. It seems like employers want to squeeze every last drop of labor out of you as if they were squeezing a lemon for juice. But when it comes to pay, it's hard to find wages that enable you to even GET BY.
Because the cost of living has gone up, the cost of living for people who own businesses has also gone up. One person today is expected to produce the same output at work as 2 people would have been 20 or so years ago because small business owners can't really afford the payroll... Or so they say. Corporations? That's a whole other story.
And if you really want to change yourself for the better and get that degree, you need to sacrifice sleep time to get these classes done. Factor in the time it takes to attend the class, the amount of hours needed to study to pass the exams, the time in takes to go to and from class as the traffic keeps getting worse each year... And add a full time job to all this if you're lucky enough to have full time work. If you're like many people, you have 2 part time jobs just to get by... And one job often interferes with the other job in some way. Losing both these jobs is a major concern because of this factor. So what do you need to do? Save up your money for when that day might come. By the time you've saved up enough money, and it has taken an unreasonable amount of time to accumulate, some problem comes along. And of course the problem requires money to fix. Your car breaks down, it's the holiday season and someone bought you a gift so you have to buy one back, you get a speeding ticket for going 10 over because the cop singled you out from all the other drivers because he didn't like how shitty your car looked in comparison to the other drivers who were going 15 over, etc... And of course, the cost to fix these problems go up each year... Making it an almost impossible task to actually save up (and keep) any substantial amount of money needed to bring you to the next level.
Perhaps stresses from all these factors has you pissed off with life. Aggression comes out in ways that surprise you and you end up being the lucky recipient of a brand new criminal record. Those expensive problems before- remember those? Now your problem is you need a lawyer. How much to go to trial? $20,000 he says... And that's just the initial cost. Sadly, legal defense is not an option for you. Guess you'll have to stick with the public defender which means that even if you should be found not guilty, you probably will be.
That record makes getting a shitty job difficult, let alone a good one. Now when employers hire you they expect even more from you because you have that record and they know that you know they were "nice enough to hire you." Now you feel like a bitch. And because you just got out of jail, you know that being a "bitch" is the worst thing you could ever be. There goes your self esteem along with your dreams. But the rest of the world still expects you to pull your weight. All the while not making conditions any easier for anyone. Start your own business now as a last resort? Would be great... Except for the start up money needed and the fact that getting a professional license is virtually impossible with that record. Licenses needed to become a lock smith, real estate agent, hazmat endorsed truck driver, etc...? NOPE. Guess you should wait the required 7 years it takes to even be eligible to APPLY for your certificate of rehabilitation; the document that restores your civil liberties and make you eligible for your professional licenses again. Only problem with that is that the courts rarely grant these. Even if you really have been living a good, honest life since your legal troubles. Guess it's time to bust your ass for 7 more years and live paycheck to paycheck just for a shot at rolling the dice.
And then factor in more problems coming some how, some way, in addition to all that... Because they always seem to. And because your so used to having all these problems, your subconscious mind has latched on to the idea of always having more problems. So that's what you get via the law of attraction.
In your desperation you decide to study the writings of the self help gurus, who always say that success is only about how you think about things... "Just think positive." Just read the book reviews, these books all have 20,000 5 star ratings from customers who have changed their life by just "thinking positive." But it's hard for you because you're not used to having things go your way, so how could you possibly adapt that winning mindset when you're so used to losing? Now you're in that 10% of people who that "think positive" crap didn't work for. And you begin to feel that this problem is unique to you and only you... Because everyone else seems to be winning all the time. Now you're struggling your ass off to even live AND this feeling of helpless loneliness begins to drown you out. But even if everyone shared this problem, "would it even matter?" you think to yourself... You'd still be struggling just the same even if everyone else was going through it.
At this point maybe you just wait for the next biggest problem to come your way. Hoping that it will be big enough to destroy you completely... because honestly, at this point you want to be destroyed. You want something to give you enough motivation to finally end it all because you're too scared to do something like that yet because things somehow haven't quite gotten THAT bad yet. So you hang on to that tiny sliver of hope that you're gonna "make it someday." But your not lucky enough to get problems big enough to push you to the point of suicide, you get just enough problems to bring you right up to the breaking point but not quite there yet.
And life goes on. Another day, another week, another month, another year.
I have to agree that life is, in fact, getting shittier.
My parents talked about how they got a simple job when they turned 18 and were able to rent their own apartment just by having that job (a job that didn't require schooling, certificates, etc...).
Now I'm turning 30 this month and I have to say, it's hard to even find an affordable ROOM to rent. It seems like employers want to squeeze every last drop of labor out of you as if they were squeezing a lemon for juice. But when it comes to pay, it's hard to find wages that enable you to even GET BY.
Because the cost of living has gone up, the cost of living for people who own businesses has also gone up. One person today is expected to produce the same output at work as 2 people would have been 20 or so years ago because small business owners can't really afford the payroll... Or so they say. Corporations? That's a whole other story.
And if you really want to change yourself for the better and get that degree, you need to sacrifice sleep time to get these classes done. Factor in the time it takes to attend the class, the amount of hours needed to study to pass the exams, the time in takes to go to and from class as the traffic keeps getting worse each year... And add a full time job to all this if you're lucky enough to have full time work. If you're like many people, you have 2 part time jobs just to get by... And one job often interferes with the other job in some way. Losing both these jobs is a major concern because of this factor. So what do you need to do? Save up your money for when that day might come. By the time you've saved up enough money, and it has taken an unreasonable amount of time to accumulate, some problem comes along. And of course the problem requires money to fix. Your car breaks down, it's the holiday season and someone bought you a gift so you have to buy one back, you get a speeding ticket for going 10 over because the cop singled you out from all the other drivers because he didn't like how shitty your car looked in comparison to the other drivers who were going 15 over, etc... And of course, the cost to fix these problems go up each year... Making it an almost impossible task to actually save up (and keep) any substantial amount of money needed to bring you to the next level.
Perhaps stresses from all these factors has you pissed off with life. Aggression comes out in ways that surprise you and you end up being the lucky recipient of a brand new criminal record. Those expensive problems before- remember those? Now your problem is you need a lawyer. How much to go to trial? $20,000 he says... And that's just the initial cost. Sadly, legal defense is not an option for you. Guess you'll have to stick with the public defender which means that even if you should be found not guilty, you probably will be.
That record makes getting a shitty job difficult, let alone a good one. Now when employers hire you they expect even more from you because you have that record and they know that you know they were "nice enough to hire you." Now you feel like a bitch. And because you just got out of jail, you know that being a "bitch" is the worst thing you could ever be. There goes your self esteem along with your dreams. But the rest of the world still expects you to pull your weight. All the while not making conditions any easier for anyone. Start your own business now as a last resort? Would be great... Except for the start up money needed and the fact that getting a professional license is virtually impossible with that record. Licenses needed to become a lock smith, real estate agent, hazmat endorsed truck driver, etc...? NOPE. Guess you should wait the required 7 years it takes to even be eligible to APPLY for your certificate of rehabilitation; the document that restores your civil liberties and make you eligible for your professional licenses again. Only problem with that is that the courts rarely grant these. Even if you really have been living a good, honest life since your legal troubles. Guess it's time to bust your ass for 7 more years and live paycheck to paycheck just for a shot at rolling the dice.
And then factor in more problems coming some how, some way, in addition to all that... Because they always seem to. And because your so used to having all these problems, your subconscious mind has latched on to the idea of always having more problems. So that's what you get via the law of attraction.
In your desperation you decide to study the writings of the self help gurus, who always say that success is only about how you think about things... "Just think positive." Just read the book reviews, these books all have 20,000 5 star ratings from customers who have changed their life by just "thinking positive." But it's hard for you because you're not used to having things go your way, so how could you possibly adapt that winning mindset when you're so used to losing? Now you're in that 10% of people who that "think positive" crap didn't work for. And you begin to feel that this problem is unique to you and only you... Because everyone else seems to be winning all the time. Now you're struggling your ass off to even live AND this feeling of helpless loneliness begins to drown you out. But even if everyone shared this problem, "would it even matter?" you think to yourself... You'd still be struggling just the same even if everyone else was going through it.
At this point maybe you just wait for the next biggest problem to come your way. Hoping that it will be big enough to destroy you completely... because honestly, at this point you want to be destroyed. You want something to give you enough motivation to finally end it all because you're too scared to do something like that yet because things somehow haven't quite gotten THAT bad yet. So you hang on to that tiny sliver of hope that you're gonna "make it someday." But your not lucky enough to get problems big enough to push you to the point of suicide, you get just enough problems to bring you right up to the breaking point but not quite there yet.
And life goes on. Another day, another week, another month, another year.