Giraffey
Your Orange Crush
- Mar 7, 2020
- 439
I've spoken a lot recently about the main reason I haven't CTB being that it would destroy my family for me to leave them behind. I know that there are arguments about how none of that will matter after you die because you aren't 'alive' to feel the guilt, but my personal philosophy is that I have a duty to them in life (and death) not to do anything to hurt them.
With that in mind, I've been thinking a lot about what would be acceptable to them. For example, if I had to die and pick a way to do it that didn't necessarily have to be suicide - what could they cope with? Dying of cancer, or in an accident don't carry the same kind of stigma and guilt as suicide. Then, the idea came to me.
Those of you who have been bored to death by some of my venting posts will know that my current situation has some political elements that I'm fighting against, so I figure that I could eschew suicide in favour of a hunger strike. On the face of it, it's a perfect solution for me. Having researched suicide and 'trained', I am mentally prepared for death, therefore I possess the necessary determination to see my protest through to a terminal conclusion if my demands aren't met, but if my demands are met then I'll have a reason to live; I'll have some hope.
Such a death is not typically thought of as suicide, and in the UK at least, is not recorded on a death certificate as suicide. My family will have a cause to rally around and raise awareness for; my death, should it come, will have purpose and meaning. I'm well educated on the process and the physical suffering during the various phases, but with appropriate preparation, I believe that most of this can be managed.
This obviously isn't a solution for everybody, hence the lack of a 'method' tag, but I genuinely believe this is the right option for me. I understand that it may not be the most peaceful death, or the most dignified; it definitely isn't quick; but as I've come to terms with my feelings over the previous months, I've realised that I don't truly want to die, I just don't see a future for myself unless something major changes, and this allows me to pressure for that change whilst granting a stoic and dignified exit that will also be acceptable to my family and friends, should my life goals become unattainable.
With that in mind, I've been thinking a lot about what would be acceptable to them. For example, if I had to die and pick a way to do it that didn't necessarily have to be suicide - what could they cope with? Dying of cancer, or in an accident don't carry the same kind of stigma and guilt as suicide. Then, the idea came to me.
Those of you who have been bored to death by some of my venting posts will know that my current situation has some political elements that I'm fighting against, so I figure that I could eschew suicide in favour of a hunger strike. On the face of it, it's a perfect solution for me. Having researched suicide and 'trained', I am mentally prepared for death, therefore I possess the necessary determination to see my protest through to a terminal conclusion if my demands aren't met, but if my demands are met then I'll have a reason to live; I'll have some hope.
Such a death is not typically thought of as suicide, and in the UK at least, is not recorded on a death certificate as suicide. My family will have a cause to rally around and raise awareness for; my death, should it come, will have purpose and meaning. I'm well educated on the process and the physical suffering during the various phases, but with appropriate preparation, I believe that most of this can be managed.
This obviously isn't a solution for everybody, hence the lack of a 'method' tag, but I genuinely believe this is the right option for me. I understand that it may not be the most peaceful death, or the most dignified; it definitely isn't quick; but as I've come to terms with my feelings over the previous months, I've realised that I don't truly want to die, I just don't see a future for myself unless something major changes, and this allows me to pressure for that change whilst granting a stoic and dignified exit that will also be acceptable to my family and friends, should my life goals become unattainable.