Takes from you which aged poorly

[noname223]

Normally we only can read them on social media. But we have to rely on our honesty to share some stances which aged poorly.

I always had a good stance on assisted suicide. Though when I was younger I was a conservative. I think I was an asshole on some issues. I come from a conservative family where we only read horrible yellow press. So my family influenced me very badly also on politics.

I think I thought people who get welfare are to be blamed themselves for it. My mom always said my dad was just lazy. He had depression though. This is why I had not much empathy for mentally ill people. I could not imagine how it feels not being able to stand up from bed. It is reallly an insane experience. I had some really weird takes on suicide. I was really ambivalent. I was in a lot of pain and I was suicidal since the age of 15. I had no idea that I already was mentally ill to that time. I just tried to suppress all my emotions. I had no idea how to cope with it I just hoped someone would do the job so that I don't have to do it myself.

I can't call more bad takes currently. Maybe you can tell some bad takes you had.

I tried to be edgy. Wahtched gore as a teenager. I regret that a lot. But I have made at least 2 very long threads where I describe that I feel sorry for it. So my former stance on gore has also changed.

 

[DynamicDepression]

This is a very interesting question.

Around the age of 14, I used to think pedophilia was okay if the child consented. This stemmed from myself being groomed and sexually assaulted by much older men throughout my teenage years. I figure I made this whole "it's okay because I consent" idea up to cope with it.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

This is a very interesting question.

Around the age of 14, I used to think pedophilia was okay if the child consented. This stemmed from myself being groomed and sexually assaulted by much older men throughout my teenage years. I figure I made this whole "it's okay because I consent" idea up to cope with it.

I also used to feel that it should be okay for children/adolescents who want to have sex with adults to do so but that was just because I was a child who wanted to have sex with adults and now I've long since aged past this take as well. I wasn't groomed at all for it though. Sorry that you ended up experiencing this to figure it out as well.

 

[motel rooms]

When I was in college, I didn't have much compassion for men who could afford to waste money on paying me to fuck them up the ass on a weekly basis. I suppose I psychologically abused many of them. Don't talk to me, don't touch me, don't look at me, just bend over & don't make too much noise, I want more money again, etc. I was disgusted with myself for having to stick my dick in people I wasn't attracted to. I never smacked them around or anything.

 

[Cathy Ames]

I used to believe (or try to believe) that that the vast majority of people were essentially good and doing their best given their past experiences and etc.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

I used to believe (or try to believe) that that the vast majority of people were essentially good and doing their best given their past experiences and etc.

Same. I was so naive.

 

[Nolan96]

Former takes of mine which have aged horribly:

Religion is nothing but superstitious bullshit

Borders are just arbitrary social constructs created by xenophobes and racists

Gender is a social construct designed to oppress women and the sexually non-conforming

True socialism is a fundamentally good idea which just hasn't been implemented right yet




I regret that I ever believed any of this, although in certain dark moments it is some solace to know that I used to believe these morally questionable to downright reprehensible things because it makes my suffering seem at least slightly more deserved.

 

[DynamicDepression]

Former takes of mine which have aged horribly:

Religion is nothing but superstitious bullshit

Borders are just arbitrary social constructs created by xenophobes and racists

Gender is a social construct designed to oppress women and the sexually non-conforming

True socialism is a fundamentally good idea which just hasn't been implemented right yet

These are interesting takes. May I ask why you agreed with them before and now disagree with them?

 

[Ashu]

True socialism is a fundamentally good idea which just hasn't been implemented right yet

Sure it has.

 

[waitingforrest]

I used to think that horrible people can still have some good in them and if you help others, others will help you. Turns out that there are just some people that are downright evil.

 

[Smart No More]

When I was in college, I didn't have much compassion for men who could afford to waste money on paying me to fuck them up the ass on a weekly basis. I suppose I psychologically abused many of them. Don't talk to me, don't touch me, don't look at me, just bend over & don't make too much noise, I want more money again, etc. I was disgusted with myself for having to stick my dick in people I wasn't attracted to. I never smacked them around or anything.

So now you give them cuddles?

I used to think that horrible people can still have some good in them and if you help others, others will help you. Turns out that there are just some people that are downright evil.

That's true but I don't think you should let your sentiment on attempting to find and pull out the good in people. It's a hard balance to maintain though as it can backfire for sure and it's you that pays the price. Things aren't black and white, cut and shut so it really takes some wffort to judge things on individual merit but that's the only way. It's made wven more challenging by the the fact that the people you find decency are far outnumbered by those you don't.

I think, on the OP's topic we all go through a series of misunderstanding and incorrect notions. It's part of aging and life in general. We're products of our environments and are informed by our oftwn limited and scewed circumstances. It displays itself in us and it takes time to come to an actual real understanding of the world around us. I find myself hitting a point every so often where it feels like I've reached a pinnacle of my ability to understand the world only to then find myself once again reassessing things and looking back at the things I actually onky saw a small part of the picture of. At this point I've learned my lesson and am entirely open to being wrong on the regular. It's a pretty liberating place to be but it's weird because those that are instinctively defensive about their views and the accuracy of them naturally assume you/I will be too and it creates a certain inability to communicate and find common ground because we twnd to judge others by what we know of ourselves. If I'm someone with severe hang ups about a physical feature of mine (for the sake of example) then you assume others see that too and have the same views of themselves. It applies in many aspects and as a rule everyone thinks everyone is as bitter or hung up as they are. It applise visa versa too. As @waitingforrest touched on. Which takes me full circle. :)

 

[motel rooms]

So now you give them cuddles?

No, they prefer spankings.

 

[Smart No More]

No, they prefer spankings.

Well you're accommodating. I suppose that surmounts to compassion of sorts. Progress.

 

[jamie_]

whenever ive told someone about what i am going to do in the future that has anyrhing other to do than killing myself