In reality though, there will just be a whole lot of screaming, finger pointing and bitterness all over.
If it helps, that shit comes up no matter the cause of death.
Not speaking to you now, but speaking about what I think about in regards to this -- what I've witnessed and experienced. So please don't feel this is an attack, it's not at all! I'm just on a soapbox and venting some of my frustrated rationality that toxicity hates, and I've been hated. I've been scapegoated by toxic family members and was scapegoated for another's suicide, and in both cases I was cast out into the wilderness. And I'm strong in spite of and even because of it. So this comment is about me and reflects me, not you or your comment. You're comment shed light on it for me, and this space of this thread created a platform that I'm taking advantage of.
Toxicity comes to the surface when someone dies. I've seen it in both suicides and natural death. The order that kept all the toxic structures in place gets disturbed when an element of the structure is no longer there to support it. Those who are ready to grow out if it and stop supporting it get benefit while the rest are spewing and losing their shit and re-jockeying for position. Yes, suicide can provide more opportunities for finger pointing, screaming, and blaming, but damn, that shit needs to come up anyway; death puts pressure on the structures and because appropriate release valves were not allowed, things blow. Suicide specifically reveals there was toxic shit, and folks are going to either fight to reveal and disempower it (and to personally detox and grow out of and away from it), or fight to keep it in power. No matter the cause of death, it seems most people want to hold on to their support, even if it's utterly corrosive. They have power, and they
want power, so they go against wills, they steal property, they knock down other family members who they think will somehow gain power, and their pettiness, greed, and delusions rise to the surface in full glory. The death of others reveals so much.
This thread allowed a healthy and safe pressure release valve for me. Thanks,
@FadingAway, and thanks,
@KibblesNBits for participating in a way that inspired me to let some of this shit go.