TAW122
Emissary of the right to die.
- Aug 30, 2018
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Note: I am not trying to discount what the survivors of loved ones who are devastated after their loss of someone they are close to or know IRL, but this is merely my two cents and my take on how I interpret their words and statements. I believe that anyone who has lost a loved one, whether through CTB, natural causes, or any other form of death is valid in their feelings and opinions. However, I do NOT agree with the projection of guilt and shame along with selfishness onto others who do not share the same opinion or perspective as they.
When the people who are left behind ('The bereaved' - for lack of a better noun) oftenly use this line, "What could I have done differently, what could I have said to change his/her mind?", "What could have done (taken action) to prevent this?", "Why didn't I see the signs?" etc., they are simply projecting their values and views onto the suicidal person rather than acknowledging the suicidal person's feelings and reasoning for wanting to CTB. While I cannot fault human nature for itself, I do fault people for refusing to make an effort to see the other side and always assuming irrationality, mental illness, mental incompetence, lacking decision making capacity, and anything but the suicidal's feelings, reasoning, and perspective. Sure, people don't have to agree, but they should respect that person's reasoning instead of writing off as insane, irrational, or shutting them down before they have a chance to explain themselves. Sometimes, there is no solution or anything that one can do to change it (the mindfully suicidal, the rational suicide), yet people refuse to accept it. They believe that all suicides are irrational and/or those who do it are oftenly in pain and if it wasn't for pain they wouldn't have been suicidal (paradoxical because it ignores the fact that there are rational suicides and philosophical suicides as well).
When the people who are left behind ('The bereaved' - for lack of a better noun) oftenly use this line, "What could I have done differently, what could I have said to change his/her mind?", "What could have done (taken action) to prevent this?", "Why didn't I see the signs?" etc., they are simply projecting their values and views onto the suicidal person rather than acknowledging the suicidal person's feelings and reasoning for wanting to CTB. While I cannot fault human nature for itself, I do fault people for refusing to make an effort to see the other side and always assuming irrationality, mental illness, mental incompetence, lacking decision making capacity, and anything but the suicidal's feelings, reasoning, and perspective. Sure, people don't have to agree, but they should respect that person's reasoning instead of writing off as insane, irrational, or shutting them down before they have a chance to explain themselves. Sometimes, there is no solution or anything that one can do to change it (the mindfully suicidal, the rational suicide), yet people refuse to accept it. They believe that all suicides are irrational and/or those who do it are oftenly in pain and if it wasn't for pain they wouldn't have been suicidal (paradoxical because it ignores the fact that there are rational suicides and philosophical suicides as well).