Surgery recovery and no one to care for you

[TooConscious]

I had a face to face with surgeon and nurse to discuss the operation I'm about to have.
When told I needed to be picked up and monitored overnight, I asked the nurse... "Well if you can't get anyone to come and collect you what do you do?"
And she said they wouldnt be able to give me any anesthetic.

I find this awful as there's people like myself ostracized for mental or physics illness or malformity and they still have hope and an emotional connection to this sick place and it broke my heart that how they must suffer being looked at with eyes of absolute confusion because having nobody that cares about you is so alien.....?

Someone has to come in an sign that they will keep an eye on you overnight. It got me thinking how many loners must suffer this. Someone would have to spend money on fuel, parking, and above all TIME OFF.

Random. Question....
What percentage of people do you think are completely cut off by others, they either don't have the fuculties to seek a social worker, or the social workers don't want to work with them because they 'Appear beyond help, no hope'.
The less support someone gets, the Less help they get.
Like the benefits system in UK, the more you get the more you're entitled too, getting disability makes you entitled for free transport, cars at cheap, council tax deduction so all scumbags and go play the system get a life of Riley, while people who genuinely struggle to communicate are left to rot and made a laughing stock of for the people who get everything.

As if being alone isn't suffering enough we don't get given pain relief....
And people dare to say that human race doesn't feed off suffering essence?

 

[Makko]

Order a taxi. That's what I do when I need to be picked up.

The percentage of people who are 100% cut off is very small. I'd guess people don't even realise this is possible outside of novel stories about quirky hermits in the mountains.

 

[brainpain2]

Get a taxi or ask for overnight hospitalization if that's a option.

not many people have NOBODY, but more than you think. I'm in a line of work where aside of social supports (which many do not have the capacity to access themselves) they have no one

 

[TooConscious]

Order a taxi. That's what I do when I need to be picked up.

The percentage of people who are 100% cut off is very small. I'd guess people don't even realise this is possible outside of novel stories about quirky hermits in the mountains.

Get a taxi or ask for overnight hospitalization if that's a option.

not many people have NOBODY, but more than you think. I'm in a line of work where aside of social supports (which many do not have the capacity to access themselves) they have no one

Unfortunately someone is required to come into the building to sign you out, it's a joke.

I had an appointment date that they had pushed back, so I actually offered to pay an associate money to get a taxi to pick me up, so now he thinks I'm messing him around and won't do it, so they've just made the situation worse again for me.
Absolute scum run the UK.

Thanks for the answers people hope you're good.

 

[Mentalmick]

Have you tried the advocacy service? They can sometimes help with these things.

 

[TooConscious]

Have you tried the advocacy service? They can sometimes help with these things.

I'd not even heard of them.
Thanks for the suggestion.
Personally I won't ask for help when there's people who need it more. I can just load up on drugs before I go in. I just think it's a disgrace this stuff isn't considered and people judge people who don't have anyone as if it's their fault.

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

I have been in OP's same position. I needed a diagnostic procedure that required heavy sedation and they required someone to pick me up. I asked a neighbor to do so. I hated doing that but was desperate. A few weeks later when another procedure was required, I called a home health care agency and hired a nurse assistant to pick me up, take me there, wait, and take me back home. That worked quite well.

A few weeks after that, I was admitted to hospital for an extensive, serious surgery. There was nobody to help as the hospital was three hours' drive from my home. I had a small RV, made reservations at an RV park near the hospital, loaded it with easy to prepare foods, and everything I would need to take care of myself by myself. Took a taxi to the hospital, had the surgery, and four days later when I was discharged, there was no requirement for an escort. Walked by myself to the entrance of the hospital, called a taxi and sat there waiting for an hour for it to show up. By the time I arrived back at the RV, I was dizzy, weak, and could barely walk. I took care of myself for the time it took to recover, a couple of weeks, in that small RV with no shower. Had to walk to the public shower carrying everything I needed. I had arranged for the site I was in to be close to showers and laundry room. This was not easy because I had to take care of the RV, dump tanks, etc. I don't know how I did all of that. I doubt I could do it again.

I recommend you try to hire a home health aide, if you can afford it. Maybe in the UK your NHS will provide that (it sounds like that is where you are)?

 

[Littlepaws]

Most UK hospitals have a transportation system in place that are able to collect/drop patients who require assistance. It may be worth having a look into.

 

[TooConscious]

I have been in OP's same position. I needed a diagnostic procedure that required heavy sedation and they required someone to pick me up. I asked a neighbor to do so. I hated doing that but was desperate. A few weeks later when another procedure was required, I called a home health care agency and hired a nurse assistant to pick me up, take me there, wait, and take me back home. That worked quite well.

A few weeks after that, I was admitted to hospital for an extensive, serious surgery. There was nobody to help as the hospital was three hours' drive from my home. I had a small RV, made reservations at an RV park near the hospital, loaded it with easy to prepare foods, and everything I would need to take care of myself by myself. Took a taxi to the hospital, had the surgery, and four days later when I was discharged, there was no requirement for an escort. Walked by myself to the entrance of the hospital, called a taxi and sat there waiting for an hour for it to show up. By the time I arrived back at the RV, I was dizzy, weak, and could barely walk. I took care of myself for the time it took to recover, a couple of weeks, in that small RV with no shower. Had to walk to the public shower carrying everything I needed. I had arranged for the site I was in to be close to showers and laundry room. This was not easy because I had to take care of the RV, dump tanks, etc. I don't know how I did all of that. I doubt I could do it again.

I recommend you try to hire a home health aide, if you can afford it. Maybe in the UK your NHS will provide that (it sounds like that is where you are)?

You've been through it friend well done. When you're feeling frail trying to do those tasks is such a chore and you can sense your immunity is low yet we are dealing with using even cleaning public toilet etc.

Unfortunately nhs won't sort that unless you have a care worker, like a community worker who sorts out your affairs. Because they force me to be independent to try and get me to kill myself but most of all suffer. Long story.
Humans aren't designed to be solitary even more so when very ill, in tribes the sick one would be isolated but cared for brought food, made comfy, etc. Nursed back to health until they were better and that's how it's meant to be.
But our owners have made it so more most people until old age they don't know what it's like, normal people have the flu and ring a family member to cry and vent.
We had to learn to keep even going to work whilst shiting blood, one time I collapsed and my hemoglobin was 65 lost more than half my blood but I was still trying to work on building site. And still allowing everyone to just call me lazy and shit because my parents taught me never to complain about illness they didn't want to hear it. Bit it was OK for them to hurt you (because they were angry and stressed at having a cold and didn't mean it).
Our owners feed on our suffering, like imagine our incense to give an aroma we enjoy, that's why they've created a world of torture and agony, despair because its like a drug, standard for them.