StarNomad

StarNomad

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Some suicidal people should agree to eventually meet other suicidal people face to face to help each other not feel alone and to come together and brain storm solutions to help each other. Like I have said before, no one should be alone in this. Keep in mind, this is only suicidal people that should come together no normies allowed unless they are there to truly understand. One thing that stands out online is all the experts saying that suicidal people meeting each other is a bad idea, well of course it is if you are a psychologist, psychiatrist or therapist, that affects job security. These people want to make a lifetime income off your pain and suffering, plus subscribe medication that has more side effects than anything that can possibly help someone. Being with a group of people that are seriously in the same suicidal mind set as everyone else can eventually lead to a bond that no one can fracture. A person can start to feel human again because they can openly talk about dying with no strange stares and rolling of the eyes, people that will not walk away and wave there hands in disgust. All people that wish to do it should contact each other in the area they live in or at least the same state they live in. I just do not want to be one of those people that state my intent to CTB over and over again, which is not a good option for people that are middle aged, connecting to like minded people is the best option possible. Just simply meeting others like you and then going out to eat or the movies with them can make you glad you got up in the morning, at least when much of this COVID-19 garbage is pushed back more to make this less of a hassle. I need this, others need this, meeting each other would breath fresh air into our lungs, I mean we know full well what it is like to spend time around people that are not like us and that alone is a source of pain and loneliness and despair. We deserve this, we deserve that connection that others believe we do not, because they think it will make us more suicidal. Hell no!!! This will give us a reason to pull together, something the normies already have. I am not saying a normie couldn't be privately suicidal, but they need to reach out like we do. So does anyone know of an organic group controlled by suicidal people that get together and figure things out? I live in California, in Kern County, at this time in this place I am truly cut off from any connection because you cannot just put a banner outside looking for suicidal people to meet, this is very obvious a source of pain for others on this website as well. People wouldn't be advertising their pain year after year on here if they were not looking for the same thing, because you would of told us all you are dying today or tonight then never hear from you again. So let us be the power that heals each other and work together in that endeavor. I think it is clear we would like to come together without having the suicide hot line stuffed up our collective a$$e$$. I see it this way, if co-ops or groups can get together about the environment, we can get together to solve our internal environment, get together and openly acknowledge how this external system hurts us so much and that we are very sensitive to its corrosive effects on our lives. If such a group already exists let me know about it or it is about time for that type of group to get started. So I will say I wish everyone that can come together on this please let your voice be heard, we can help each other. Know this, this for me doesn't mean I will not one day take my life and that is going to be true for others as well, it is just a way to feel happy and connected while we are still here.
 
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DyingAlf

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I've heard that people meet up with each other through the partners thread even if they don't want a partner to ctb with, but I haven't done it myself so I don't know for sure.

I have a friend who is also very suicidal, it's so good to have someone to talk to openly & honestly. We don't encourage each other to live & we don't encourage each other to die.
I don't tell my friend when I plan to ctb as I don't want them to be implicated but they have still been there for me & been supportive when I've failed (as I would be for them if the roles reversed).
 
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RealHumanBean

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I've thought about this too and had no luck finding a way to do it. There's no app for just finding someone not to be alone with. Being alone/lonely is a huge trigger for many of us, but either we're too unreliable to actually make it out of the house and meet someone, or there's just no good way to find someone in the moment when you really need it. Somebody write an app for depressed people to find temporary (or not) friends so that we don't have to suffer alone.

Also, I've tried searching for support groups thinking maybe that's how people do it, but it is surprisingly hard to find any active groups in my age range (30s).
 
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StarNomad

StarNomad

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I've heard that people meet up with each other through the partners thread even if they don't want a partner to ctb with, but I haven't done it myself so I don't know for sure.

I have a friend who is also very suicidal, it's so good to have someone to talk to openly & honestly. We don't encourage each other to live & we don't encourage each other to die.
I don't tell my friend when I plan to ctb as I don't want them to be implicated but they have still been there for me & been supportive when I've failed (as I would be for them if the roles reversed).

I hear you, so important to be there for them, but help them in a way that would not put you in legal peril and that is something that can be worked out.
I've thought about this too and had no luck finding a way to do it. There's no app for just finding someone not to be alone with. Being alone/lonely is a huge trigger for many of us, but either we're too unreliable to actually make it out of the house and meet someone, or there's just no good way to find someone in the moment when you really need it. Somebody write an app for depressed people to find temporary (or not) friends so that we don't have to suffer alone.

Also, I've tried searching for support groups thinking maybe that's how people do it, but it is surprisingly hard to find any active groups in my age range (30s).

That is my issue as well, especially where I live, it would be much easier if I lived in Los Angeles, but even there you would have to walk softly :ahhha: I will keep looking until I hit pay dirt, I'll post on here I find anything.
 
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RealHumanBean

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Are we really the only three people here who think suicidal people should have more options to not be alone?
 
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Michaelwaev

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Bodmin, UK is an absolute mess of a town dude. Itd be rly cool to see someone like you guys and of course you guys;)
I agree with the suicidal people need to be less alone. But uh yeah bad ting alone thing suicidal people come together would make suicidal people sing.
But it would be good 0w0
 
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my country's views on suicide and suicidal people are as bad as it can get, and i'm not american, so i can't help you there. but i agree tho. i met someone here and talked a bit with them, and they said they feel bad that i'm suicidal bc i sound so nice. believe me it's instant endorphins. i think if i have someone to say that back and forth long enough it could give me strength to get help.

I have a friend who is also very suicidal, it's so good to have someone to talk to openly & honestly. We don't encourage each other to live & we don't encourage each other to die.
I don't tell my friend when I plan to ctb as I don't want them to be implicated but they have still been there for me & been supportive when I've failed (as I would be for them if the roles reversed).
how nice. i'm glad you have someone like that by your side. my friend used to be suicidal but now he's getting better, but I can't tell him anything about this in fear of triggering him. he has a good life going on and i'm just getting worse. wish i could talk to him, but i won't. i'm scared that he'll just leave me and then i'm left completely alone. well, all the more reason to go.
 
Nymph

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I would If there was a safe way to meet up with strangers
 
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RealHumanBean

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I would If there was a safe way to meet up with strangers
IM, then phone call, then video chat, then finally meet in person? If the person is bad news, surely they'll put off some bad vibes in a few calls/video chats.

P.s. I am absolutely not minimizing your concern, some people are terrible; however, we all desperately need connection/contact here, so I think it's worth a shot.
 
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MrAsclepius

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As far as IRL groups, good luck finding one. In a perfect world we would be able to find such people near us, but I feel the ones that do exist originate online and just happen to live close together. All the groups I know of at least start online, and rightfully so. In case you were unaware, sanctionedsuicide has a Discord server. You can refer to the FAQ to find how to join, if you're interested. Apart from that, the partner thread is the only active way to maybe find someone near you that I know of.
 
RealHumanBean

RealHumanBean

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As far as IRL groups, good luck finding one. In a perfect world we would be able to find such people near us, but I feel the ones that do exist originate online and just happen to live close together. All the groups I know of at least start online, and rightfully so. In case you were unaware, sanctionedsuicide has a Discord server. You can refer to the FAQ to find how to join, if you're interested. Apart from that, the partner thread is the only active way to maybe find someone near you that I know of.
I joined the discord server; there doesn't seem to be a channel where people can actually talk to each other though. Maybe I need to be vetted by a mod? I sent a message but no reply. Weird how few people post in the recovery partners thread :notsure:
 
Nymph

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IM, then phone call, then video chat, then finally meet in person? If the person is bad news, surely they'll put off some bad vibes in a few calls/video chats.

P.s. I am absolutely not minimizing your concern, some people are terrible; however, we all desperately need connection/contact here, so I think it's worth a shot.
Yeah I guess that's possible, but it's hard to find people who truly want to connect like that and would understand that I'm scared and want to take it slow with text-call-meet irl. Plus they also gotta live close and so far I only found 1 person here from my country lol.
 
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I joined the discord server; there doesn't seem to be a channel where people can actually talk to each other though. Maybe I need to be vetted by a mod? I sent a message but no reply. Weird how few people post in the recovery partners thread :notsure:

I'm not in the discord server so I suppose I can't vouch for it's activity. Perhaps this is a sign some of us should revive the recovery partners thread. If you guys do end up creating a new group of some sort, do let me know. I believe a good many people would be interested in more connection oriented groups rather than forced support groups that are apparent on the internet.
 
Nymph

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Yeah I guess that's possible, but it's hard to find people who truly want to connect like that and would understand that I'm scared and want to take it slow with text-call-meet irl. Plus they also gotta live close and so far I only found 1 person here from my country lol.
Either general chat or vent. But I feel like on vent you just say something into a void. And I also feel like people who go there want to disconnect from this whole suicide negative thing so for me personally it's not a great place to find people to connect with about our similar feelings
 
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TimeToBiteTheDust

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A friend of mine attempted many years ago. He was many weeks at hospital. Some months ago he told me he had dark thoughts again...
 
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I joined the discord server; there doesn't seem to be a channel where people can actually talk to each other though. Maybe I need to be vetted by a mod? I sent a message but no reply. Weird how few people post in the recovery partners thread :notsure:
ya you should be verified first. if you got no replies here, try DMing them there.
 
RealHumanBean

RealHumanBean

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Yeah I guess that's possible, but it's hard to find people who truly want to connect like that and would understand that I'm scared and want to take it slow with text-call-meet irl. Plus they also gotta live close and so far I only found 1 person here from my country lol.
We need to find a depressed developer to write an app for suicidal people to connect with each other. Like Tinder, but instead of dating the goal is to help each other not want to die :tongue:
 
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We need to find a depressed developer to write an app for suicidal people to connect with each other. Like Tinder, but instead of dating the goal is to help each other not want to die :tongue:
Agree
 
MrAsclepius

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We need to find a depressed developer to write an app for suicidal people to connect with each other. Like Tinder, but instead of dating the goal is to help each other not want to die :tongue:

Its an interesting idea, there are plenty of smart individuals here, you never know.