Discussion suggestions for stuff to write in my suicide note(s)

[waistcoat]

hi all, it's getting to that time where i'm writing my goodbye notes to friends, family, loved ones, you get the idea.

i plan to write quite a few personal and individual notes to friends, that just express how much i love them and have appretiated everything they have done for me, so i don't need advice on those, but for my "final goodbye" note which will probably be shared with quite a few people, what do i put?? am i supposed to say why i'm choosing this? like, what's supposed to go in there? are they supposed to be explainations or things to comfort those that we leave behind??

any and all help appretiated, thank you

 

[galaxid]

A note like this is the very last thing you'll ever be able to say to the people reading it. I've lost people before (they did not ctb) and I wish so much that I could have known what they believed about me, about the world or whatever, before they died. I used to reread the last messages I exchanged with them, but after a while it hurt too much, because there's no conclusion or closure here. Just silence.

So my advice is: tell them what you want them to know. And if you have nothing to say, don't feel compelled to meet someone else's criteria for what you should write. That's just my opinion!!

I'm writing a bunch of meandering journal entries at the moment that I may or may not share (probably will). I like the thought of sharing a bunch of stuff over writing a single, concise note because there's no way I could ever compress what I want to say in something I could write in a day. Or a week. Or a month. I want the people I care about to have a lot to look at. I hope it'll help them understand this was not something anyone could have prevented. I worry about their grief-- and conveying this is important to me, even if (in reality) it won't do much to change what I'm about to put them through.

 

[waistcoat]

A note like this is the very last thing you'll ever be able to say to the people reading it. I've lost people before (they did not ctb) and I wish so much that I could have known what they believed about me, about the world or whatever, before they died. I used to reread the last messages I exchanged with them, but after a while it hurt too much, because there's no conclusion or closure here. Just silence.

So my advice is: tell them what you want them to know. And if you have nothing to say, don't feel compelled to meet someone else's criteria for what you should write. That's just my opinion!!

I'm writing a bunch of meandering journal entries at the moment that I may or may not share (probably will). I like the thought of sharing a bunch of stuff over writing a single, concise note because there's no way I could ever compress what I want to say in something I could write in a day. Or a week. Or a month. I want the people I care about to have a lot to look at. I hope it'll help them understand this was not something anyone could have prevented. I worry about their grief-- and conveying this is important to me, even if (in reality) it won't do much to change what I'm about to put them through.

thank you, thank you a lot for writing this. i didn't mention it in my post but i am actually also doing some kinda journal thing where i just write out my thoughts, i plan to share mine with friends :]

 

[TornReality]

I've thought about this.
But I'm skeptical about it.
I view things a bit differently, where, if I don't exist, you don't exist. So what would a note do? It wouldn't exist.
But I also wonder, what if those exist even after your passing? The not would exist.
I'd say write out your feelings... explain why you did what you did. And let the people you left know how you feel about them.