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tiredxillenial
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- Jul 19, 2020
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They say reach out etc if you're suicidal. I've done that and still experience suicidality. The thing about the reach out thing though is that no one wants to hear about suicidality. If you say you're suicidal you have to worry about your disclosure crossing other people's boundaries, because some people don't want to hear any mention of suicidality. If you're chronically suicidal, then you run the risk of burning out others or putting them in a situation where they feel they have to provide support that is unrealistic.
I feel like my therapist is in that situation now. I refuse hospitalization because it would out me at work, and nothing takes the suicidality away. So, I'm just not going to talk about suicidality anymore and will talk about positive things in an appearance of depression recovery, such as getting an advent calendar of actual beer, having more energy, and getting more work done. I want to hang on for the election in the States to see what happens, and I know the results of that might not be known for awhile. That does keep me here longer, which might decrease my likelihood of acting, but not talking about it with others might help me do it.
One of the things that keeps me from acting is that I'd be leaving stuff behind for other people to deal with. I want to have the energy to clean up my laptop so I can leave the password and gift it to someone, and I want to go through the random papers and boxes of stuff that I have. If someone is having to deal with my credit or something after I act, then they might want access to files. Right now all my papers are a mess and all over the house and there's personal stuff mixed in with the finacial stuff etc. So, I feel I have to organize that before I act. And then with the personal stuff, there are a lot of things that I would like to purge before anyone could see them, but I don't purge them because I want them in case I'm still living. It's circular and supports itself. So, to act I need energy to get my affairs and things in order, and that all feels too overwhelming, so I keep living. Am hoping that maybe a semblance of depression recovery from getting a gun might give me the energy I need to get my affairs and things in order. Another thing that keeps me from acting, is that I feel that if I'm going out, I may as well take an evil person or a few out with me, but I don't have the knowledge or wherewithall to plan an assasination. So I don't act because I figure I'd be wasting an opportunity to take out someone whose death would truly improve the world. Cognitively I would say not living is the best option, but I don't have the energy to clean up and don't want to leave a mess behind for others.
I feel like my therapist is in that situation now. I refuse hospitalization because it would out me at work, and nothing takes the suicidality away. So, I'm just not going to talk about suicidality anymore and will talk about positive things in an appearance of depression recovery, such as getting an advent calendar of actual beer, having more energy, and getting more work done. I want to hang on for the election in the States to see what happens, and I know the results of that might not be known for awhile. That does keep me here longer, which might decrease my likelihood of acting, but not talking about it with others might help me do it.
One of the things that keeps me from acting is that I'd be leaving stuff behind for other people to deal with. I want to have the energy to clean up my laptop so I can leave the password and gift it to someone, and I want to go through the random papers and boxes of stuff that I have. If someone is having to deal with my credit or something after I act, then they might want access to files. Right now all my papers are a mess and all over the house and there's personal stuff mixed in with the finacial stuff etc. So, I feel I have to organize that before I act. And then with the personal stuff, there are a lot of things that I would like to purge before anyone could see them, but I don't purge them because I want them in case I'm still living. It's circular and supports itself. So, to act I need energy to get my affairs and things in order, and that all feels too overwhelming, so I keep living. Am hoping that maybe a semblance of depression recovery from getting a gun might give me the energy I need to get my affairs and things in order. Another thing that keeps me from acting, is that I feel that if I'm going out, I may as well take an evil person or a few out with me, but I don't have the knowledge or wherewithall to plan an assasination. So I don't act because I figure I'd be wasting an opportunity to take out someone whose death would truly improve the world. Cognitively I would say not living is the best option, but I don't have the energy to clean up and don't want to leave a mess behind for others.