ratpudding
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- Sep 22, 2021
- 30
Does anyone here feel like they're staying alive out of spite?
I consider my main reason for living the only 5 people I talk to (3 friends, boyfriend and grandma)
But my secondary reason is definitely to spite my parents.
My dad was physically abusive and once I was diagnosed with ADHD he started parading me to different psychiatrists to drug me up and give me different doses of medications every day. He would starve me for any reason (gained weight over the weekend at mom's house, got a C on my report card, etc) I still hold that he was trying to kill me in a way that would look like I did it to myself, since everyone knew I wanted to ctb (this was age 9-12 w the meds, abuse was happening since I was about 6)
On the other end, my mom was neglectful, leaving me home for weeks at a time to go see her boyfriend out of state, never had enough money to buy me new shampoo. Just leave me with her food stamps card. My sister's son was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago, but hes fully recovered now, no problems except hey may be hard of hearing as after effects of chemotherapy (No contact with her or my parents) But the two of them LEAPT at the opportunity it be 'Oh poor me, my son/grandson has cancer, I need a free meal, free this, free that'
Years later they're still doing these performative charades for attention. I can only imagine that would come of the daughter/sister ending it all.
I feel like, besides not wanting to upset my loved ones, not wanting to give the others the satisfaction of me dying is pretty effective. Even though I feel like my loved ones would be able to move on, my death would be milked to the end for attention and pity by the others and refuse to give it to them, no matter how miserable I feel day-to-day. I have to at least outlive them. They're both in their mid-late 50s now though. Neither of them are in that great of health, so maybe I won't have to wait too long.
I consider my main reason for living the only 5 people I talk to (3 friends, boyfriend and grandma)
But my secondary reason is definitely to spite my parents.
My dad was physically abusive and once I was diagnosed with ADHD he started parading me to different psychiatrists to drug me up and give me different doses of medications every day. He would starve me for any reason (gained weight over the weekend at mom's house, got a C on my report card, etc) I still hold that he was trying to kill me in a way that would look like I did it to myself, since everyone knew I wanted to ctb (this was age 9-12 w the meds, abuse was happening since I was about 6)
On the other end, my mom was neglectful, leaving me home for weeks at a time to go see her boyfriend out of state, never had enough money to buy me new shampoo. Just leave me with her food stamps card. My sister's son was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago, but hes fully recovered now, no problems except hey may be hard of hearing as after effects of chemotherapy (No contact with her or my parents) But the two of them LEAPT at the opportunity it be 'Oh poor me, my son/grandson has cancer, I need a free meal, free this, free that'
Years later they're still doing these performative charades for attention. I can only imagine that would come of the daughter/sister ending it all.
I feel like, besides not wanting to upset my loved ones, not wanting to give the others the satisfaction of me dying is pretty effective. Even though I feel like my loved ones would be able to move on, my death would be milked to the end for attention and pity by the others and refuse to give it to them, no matter how miserable I feel day-to-day. I have to at least outlive them. They're both in their mid-late 50s now though. Neither of them are in that great of health, so maybe I won't have to wait too long.