Stalked & harassed

[Livingvsdying25]

My ex was essentially stalking for like almost a month??

Threatening to post videos we made together(yes that kind)

Threatening a bunch of crap if i didn't return something he left here (i threw it out)

Even got to a point of calling my mom's few times ugh.

I think it's done now??

I threatened to tell people on his Facebook. First started with threats then pleas then pretending to not care.

Now i think he's gone and doesn't plan on contacting me again i really fucking hope so. Its been 2 days??

Before when i thought he was done he would just pop up again...

He played this whole thing that now i was somehow bothering him -.- but whatever as long AS HE IS GONE.

I dont need people and stuff messing with my life. Its tiring enough. I dont need anyone extra.

People and stress contribute to my impulsive suicidality. I dont need a life where ANYONE is pushing me toward this I want to be the only one.

Ugh I hope he's really gone and done.

 

[Livingvsdying25]

why you made those vydeos yn the fyrst place??

I was in a bad places and really passive with things. I regret it so much but it's so much regret to carry so kind just let it go??

But yeah :( he triggered my PTSD so hard and such responses so. Plus he constantly lied about it.

 

[realjunes]

Hey, Imtrying21,

Forget about it. Regrets are for the past, you are in a new time now, and one without a toxic individual. Best wishes in your new space, where you can do you now.

 

[LegaliseIt!]

why you made those vydeos yn the fyrst place??

Not a supportive post. @lymbo, could you please consider OP's current feelings?

 

[Jean4]

If you are in the USA and would like to discuss restraining orders PM me. I deal with them on a regular basis.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

Sorry this has happened to you … you are far better off without him.

 

[NeCkDeEp]

why you made those vydeos yn the fyrst place??

Why being a bitch and blane the victim?

 

[LegaliseIt!]

I was in a bad places and really passive with things. I regret it so much but it's so much regret to carry so kind just let it go??

But yeah :( he triggered my PTSD so hard and such responses so. Plus he constantly lied about it.

You are right. If you are able to let it go, it is good. I'm certain that @lymbo doesn't realize that his judgmental post is not constructive to your overall situation. Most of the people here are supportive and caring. ((Hugs)))

 

[hhsp]

I was in a bad places and really passive with things. I regret it so much but it's so much regret to carry so kind just let it go??

But yeah :( he triggered my PTSD so hard and such responses so. Plus he constantly lied about it.

It is totally normal these days to make these kind of videos. Nothing wrong or stupid about it. It has become part of 21st century sexuality! Its just how it is, nothing wrong or bad.

 

[LegaliseIt!]

Why being a bitch and blane the victim?

Well said @NeCkDeEp!

 

[hhsp]

do not beat up yourself for having done these videos
next time maybe you decide differently, maybe not wou are a free person

 

[starleaf]

Oh man I am so sorry. What a terrible person your ex is. I really hope he is 100% gone forever from your life. You don't deserve this and I really hope something helpful and positive can happen to you soon too

 

[Livingvsdying25]

If you are in the USA and would like to discuss restraining orders PM me. I deal with them on a regular basis.

Im in Canada :( i would really like some advice tho bc our laws are kinds similar around that???

I was considering posting on legaladvice Reddit.. He's been threatening it for so long i have so much proof. I was considering going to a legal clinic bc there's quite a few good offers if you're on the "disadvantaged side of life (ie poor) i wasn't sure if i was worth it or even had a case. So stressful honestly. Any legal advice or guidance would be much appreciated.

 

[realjunes]

Im in Canada :( i would really like some advice tho bc our laws are kinds similar around that???

I was considering posting on legaladvice Reddit.. He's been threatening it for so long i have so much proof. I was considering going to a legal clinic bc there's quite a few good offers if you're on the "disadvantaged side of life (ie poor) i wasn't sure if i was worth it or even had a case. So stressful honestly. Any legal advice or guidance would be much appreciated.

If you have a legal clinic in Canda, by all means go there if allowed, they know about these things, and the local laws, requirements, all you need to know.

 

[Livingvsdying25]

If you have a legal clinic in Canda, by all means go there if allowed, they know about these things, and the local laws, requirements, all you need to know.

Yeah, I think ima do that. Ive just been wanting to keep it secret but thats not good for me

 

[realjunes]

Yeah, I think ima do that. Ive just been wanting to keep it secret but thats not good for me

At least you will have a place to ask the questions Armed with information, you can decide what to do or not to do, whatever is best for YOU, no one else.

 

[LegaliseIt!]

Yeah, I think ima do that. Ive just been wanting to keep it secret but thats not good for me

Please see pm. Privacy laws are in place to protect survivors like you.

 

[realjunes]

Please see pm. Privacy laws are in place to protect survivors like you.

Also, by consulting attorneys, you will have whatever you say put under a privacy privilege so if you decide to not go any further, the information is sealed.

 

[ManWithNoName]

It is totally normal these days to make these kind of videos, it is almost normal now. Nothing wrogn or stupid about it. if there is trust in the relationship it has become part of 21st century sexuality

That's a valid argument. Plus @Imtrying21 you could argue, as position of defense, that whatever video or photo that has your likeness (even though it is you) is "Deep Fake", which is technology that places the face of one individual on the body of another.

Here is an example of a home made deep fake. This video clip shows Arnold Schwarzenegger's face on Clint Eastwood's body from a movie that Eastwood did back in the 1970's "Dirty Harry"



This sort of technology is going to become more prevalent over time—politicians will be saying things that in fact they never said or did—to the point where we won't even know what is real anymore when we see / view anything almost by default making photos and videos without credibility. This is what I see happening in the future.

I'm sorry @Imtrying21 to hear that you are going through this. All this technology and nano technology is becoming more detrimental to society. Privacy is something sacred imho, and should be held in the highest regard. Do check with legal counsel, because your ex could very well get in serious shit should he / she carry out his / her threats. Other factors to consider: Does your ex also appear in the videos in question? Does your ex not risk his / her reputation?

 

[LegaliseIt!]

If you have a legal clinic in Canda, by all means go there if allowed, they know about these things, and the local laws, requirements, all you need to know.

Posting on Reddit is not secure. The free legitimate legal advice available in every Province protects you. There are resources to help you, even in remote places. I know this.

 

[Livingvsdying25]

That's a valid argument. Plus @Imtrying21 you could argue, as position of defense, that whatever video or photo that has your likeness (even though it is you) is "Deep Fake", which is technology that places the face of one individual on the body of another.

Here is an example of a home made deep fake. This video clip shows Arnold Schwarzenegger's face on Clint Eastwood's body from a movie that Eastwood did back in the 1970's "Dirty Harry"



This sort of technology is going to become more prevalent over time—politicians will be saying things that in fact they never said or did—to the point where we won't even know what is real anymore when we see / view anything almost by default making photos and videos without credibility. This is what I see happening in the future.

I'm sorry @Imtrying21 to hear that you are going through this. All this technology and nano technology is becoming more detrimental to society. Privacy is something sacred imho, and should be held in the highest regard. Do check with legal counsel, because your ex could very well get in serious shit should he / she carry out his / her threats. Other factors to consider: Does your ex also appear in the videos in question? Does your ex not risk his / her reputation?

I laughed really hard this is so creative omg such a good excuse.
I dont think he risks much and i can't remember if he appears in en obv he wouldn't try to use those. He does risk his reputation and thats the only way I've been able to get em to stop.
Sighs i think he created a new number... This si tiring it and it won't just go away!!! Im going to be looking into something as soon as I can

 

[ManWithNoName]

I laughed really hard this is so creative omg such a good excuse.


... This si tiring it and it won't just go away!!! Im going to be looking into something as soon as I can

I was having a conversation with a friend about the implications of deep fake - and it's rather Orwellian because it is so convincing. Another thing he pointed out to me is that the deep fake technology has apparently hit the adult film industry already—in the form of faces of known female celebs superimposed on adult video actresses bodies.

But unless your ex is among the true bottom layer of society types who has absolutely nothing to lose if he releases anything of your intimate moments with him, he will ruin his respect among his peers and friends, as well potentially his own family. Seriously. The vast majority of everyone across the board definitely shares the opinion that a private video made public—in malice—is considered very uncouth which will backfire on him.

My speculation is that the more time that passes and he does not share any private video or photo to the public, the higher the probability that nothing will get posted. Usually these kinds of things are done in the heat of the moment. There is no rushing time, but over the coming weeks you should start to feel better. Hang in there.

 

[Responsibleresident]

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My ex was essentially stalking for like almost a month??

Threatening to post videos we made together(yes that kind)

Threatening a bunch of crap if i didn't return something he left here (i threw it out)

Even got to a point of calling my mom's few times ugh.

I think it's done now??

I threatened to tell people on his Facebook. First started with threats then pleas then pretending to not care.

Now i think he's gone and doesn't plan on contacting me again i really fucking hope so. Its been 2 days??

Before when i thought he was done he would just pop up again...

He played this whole thing that now i was somehow bothering him -.- but whatever as long AS HE IS GONE.

I dont need people and stuff messing with my life. Its tiring enough. I dont need anyone extra.

People and stress contribute to my impulsive suicidality. I dont need a life where ANYONE is pushing me toward this I want to be the only one.

Ugh I hope he's really gone and done.

Contact police.

I was having a conversation with a friend about the implications of deep fake - and it's rather Orwellian because it is so convincing. Another thing he pointed out to me is that the deep fake technology has apparently hit the adult film industry already—in the form of faces of known female celebs superimposed on adult video actresses bodies.

But unless your ex is among the true bottom layer of society types who has absolutely nothing to lose if he releases anything of your intimate moments with him, he will ruin his respect among his peers and friends, as well potentially his own family. Seriously. The vast majority of everyone across the board definitely shares the opinion that a private video made public—in malice—is considered very uncouth which will backfire on him.

My speculation is that the more time that passes and he does not share any private video or photo to the public, the higher the probability that nothing will get posted. Usually these kinds of things are done in the heat of the moment. There is no rushing time, but over the coming weeks you should start to feel better. Hang in there.

Deep fake tech is old news. The public barely learn but they can spoof satellite feed images . Fraternities commit organized crime using these classified tech. There is a whole scam boom industry of imaging tech hidden from public by state secrecy that is used to violate us by stalkers. We are researched by think tanks who violate our privacy and abuse us. It is terrorism.

 

[ManWithNoName]

Fraternities commit organized crime using these classified tech.

That's sad. What organized crimes do fraternities engage in? Used to be that frats were all about stupid fun which occasionally got out of hand: