First thing is first, I'm sorry for all the typos. As you read through this, you might be able to tell why I'm so stressed out, and why I needed a place to ask to advice while venting. This event has messed with my parents and my brain in a negative way.
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Long story short, I'm high functioning autistic. While I have several degrees, getting a job is extremely hard and holding one due to the massive need of social skills makes it about impossible. Because of this, I'm an early 30 something living with their parents. (The up side is I'm always trying to find ways out of my situation)
My sister is a few years older, and ever since she was in her early teens she has been involved with the "wrong" crowd, and she has abused something. It started with drinking, and then it moved on to pot, and then to harder stuff later in her life. I can count somewhere between 20-30 times where my parents had to pull her out of the fire, make sure she doesn't have a DUI, and so on. Once when I was in middle school she was involved with a massive drug head that was into underage girls (keep in mind she was underage at the time). Since my parents lived in 2 different states due to their jobs. My mom picked her up in handcuffs and got her out of that environment. During the time she was with me, she drugged me to knock me out and that away the guy could have sex with her pretty much next to me. (I figured this out when I learned what condoms was)
Anyways, a number of years back my sister gotten away from some human trafficking, drug smuggling, xyz guy. I'm not entirely sure about everything since my parents did their best to keep me out of it. But when she gotten her after a good 2 weeks, her true self started to show. She broke every rule my parents gave her (don't steal, show respect, no drinking, ....). However, during this time she was seeing a therapist for the first bit, until she stopped going to him. After a good 6 months to a year things gotten so bad between the death threats, yelling, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and so on. My parents ended up evicting her from the house. During all of this, my sister told lies about my parents and me to the rest of the family (grandparents, cousins, etc. All that lives several hours away, and while we didn't have the best relationship. We did hang out once in a while when we went to them.)
Some of the lies included my parents beating her, my sister seeing my dad masturbate with a sock, how we committed real crimes, and so on. Instead of coming to us, they just believed her. I mean all but my grandparents on my dad's side which she never talked to since they are religious.
For a number of years after, we didn't hear anything from her and my parents figured she might've been dead. Because my parents were so sad, I used a little of my money over the years to have someone investigate her, and they found she was alive but back in another drug den. During this time I was working on one of my degrees, and within a psychology class they talked about false memories. Basically, you can have false extreme memories put into you, or you can put them into yourself. One common method is by the person taking drugs, watching something on TV, and thinking about someone or something. Say they are watching someone get sexually abused (porn, TV, etc) and they think about their dad while they are super high. Depending on the person's brain and how often this happens, they will make a false memory of their dad sexually abusing them. I figure maybe this is why she said what she said, but still. Outside of my grandparents on my dad's side. No one would talk to us, and everyone treated us like trash. To the point where my grandparents met my parents and I at some beach place over a weekend. We went to the area my granddad grown up at, and I met family I never seen before. When we got back to my grandparent's house, my dad's sister came over drunk accusing us of kidnapping them. (the so and so accused me a number of times of hacking my grandparents since my degrees are in IT and cyber security. She lied to them saying some tech person said they traced some hack back to me. When my grandmom asked me about it, I told her that she is crazy, and she just accused me for breaking a federal law.)
A number of years later my sister made a kid with the SOB she was running with. Some of the family that was accusing my parents and I over things she lied about told her to tell us. Long story short, they forced her to visit us 1 time with the kid. Before this, when asked NONE of my family would even tell us she is alive. We knew they knew due to the investigation that was done on her. But acted dumb to figure out who we can trust.
Anyways, a good year or 2 she gotten my mom to believe she wanted out of that environment. She refused to do anything when asked to help. A few years later, and she made another kid with the SOB. During this time my grandmother on my mom's side went there and bought her stuff which allowed her to stay there even longer. They even argued against her moving out of there. About 3 to 6 months later she told everyone her son told her that his dad drunk is pee while they were shopping at a target. This gotten my parents in high gear to get her out, and a few weeks before she was meant to come here she nutted up. Basically, she blown up on the guy and told him how she was going to screw him over. It turned out he was taking hidden footage of her, and he got the cops to kick her out. Because at the time it was in the middle of the winter in a very cold place (not naming), my parents rented her a hotel space even against me arguing against it. My reason for arguing against sending her to a hotel so quickly is she hasn't hit rock bottom yet, and in her mind she will always have a safety net. My parents argued she could've died. During this time she looked for any place that isn't a homeless shelter to stay at. All the "friends" she had didn't help her at all. (Later, she said she was homeless during this period, but admits she was at the hotel.)
During this time it was told to her to get a job. Because they guy put some restraining order on her, she used that as a way out of that. Eventually she gotten into house cleaning, but I have no doubts she was doing illegal stuff on top of that.
About this time, her problems kept increasing and it became harder for my parents to hide my sisters past from me. It turned out the guy she was with was in human trafficking, he is majorly into drugs, he pimps under age girls, he hurts people, he was/maybe is still in gay porn, and so on. Because of this, I figured out what is the rush to get her and the kids out. For about an entire year later the guy just gave up on the restraining order. He also OK the kids to come here to another state. Secretly the plan was to get the kids here so we could do a custody battle. However, the rule was she couldn't drink, smoke, do drugs, and she had to be respectful. Anyways, over a weekend my mom quickly bought the plane tickets, went there to get her and her stuff, and got her out of their. During this my mom found used drugs all over the place, a mess all over (to the point where there was dog crap all over), and so on. On top of that, the guy kept accusing my sister for having sex with other guys and saying the kids weren't his (i think this is why he OK them to come here).
SIDE NOTE: It turned out the parents were just feeding the kids yogurt, milk, and chicken nuggets from McD. They weren't allowed to see the doctor, the kids when they first came here looked like holocaust survivors. Later when we took the kids to the dentist we found cavities in both their mouths. In fact, nearly every last tooth. Keep in mind at the time one of the kids was around 1.
After she came here, she already broken 2 of the rules. No smoking and be respectful. I complained about it, but basically gotten a shut up. After the kids came here we gotten them into a psychologist. The youngest we couldn't do much with since they were too young. But the oldest was labeled with PTSD. It turns out the dad took the kid out to the woods, and other guys paid him to f his kid. After this, we gotten the kids in some pre-k program which has helped them a bit.
During the time when the kids started pre-k, my sister was forced to get a job. During that entire experience, it was a nightmare since she was constantly fighting them. I've even used my contacts in thinking maybe she was at least off drugs and drinking, and a few places said they would hire her with a starting salary of $20/h with full benefits. All she had to do is work front desk for some doctors office. She lied to me in saying she applied, I checked, and found out she didn't apply to a single place. My parents didn't really care, and used her kids as a reason why that job and the others I had lined up wouldn't work. Something about she needed to be able to take care of her kids. The problem with this is I was the one taking care of them since the mom was literally sticking her kids in a high chair, and walking away for hours (to my guess to get high).
Around this time some of my family that blamed my parents and I for a ton of stuff came here uninvited. During their stay, I kept running into them talking bad about us. So basically they came here to just stir the pot. This is even them seeing pictures and getting a detailed report on what my mom seen when she was out there.
Eventually my sister gotten a job at target, and her drinking kicked in high gear. I brought this up to my parents, and they changed the rules saying she would be kicked out if she drink on the property. Even with me showing them the bottles, they didn't care.
About this time on, nearly every day I'm awaken by my sister screaming at her kids, my parents, the dogs, or herself. Pretty much every day around 6 or 7 pm my sister starts attacking my parents. At one point it gotten so bad that I went in to defend them. She started recording me, while keeping her kid out of the frame, and acting 100% calm. This told me she was up to some stupid stuff (from what I heard the same stuff she did to the guy). So I started recording her from a different room when she started her attacks. My parents blamed the environment she came out of, but later on we found it's just like last time. After that and several cops telling us to make sure our security system is up to date. We replaced all the cameras in the house, and there is a ton of footage of her blowing up with audio. Sometimes flat out yelling at her kids for no reason. Sometimes using her kid's PTSD as a shield, while blowing up when it was brought up to her attention. A number of death threats, a number of insults, a number of times blaming everyone for something that clearly didn't happen, and so on. Literally saying "hi" to her has set her off.
Around this time my sister started to flat out tell me about some of the crap she did. Stuff like making $80k by moving drugs and people with the guy. For those of you who didn't pick up on it, this means she 100% knew this was a bad person before having her first kid. And she decided to have 2, stay with him, and even today threaten to take her kids back to him.
During this time, I started to notice that whenever she had a TV on, it was of the ID channel (murder porn). The death threats came in more frequently, but worse is. She was having both her kids watch that. At this point I started taking the kids out of the house or room when possible when she blown up, when she was feeding them murder porn, and when it looked like something was about to happen. This is seen several times on camera.
A while later the dad started his BS by saying my sister stole the kids. His state ended up putting out a warrant, and he took it to the state I'm in. He went to the cops, and the cops said the warrant doesn't apply here since it's out of state and he needs to get one for this state. He went to the court, and was able to get a hearing without us knowing about it at all (which means the judge went against my sister's constitutional rites). The cops who picked up the kids told us what to do, and my sister and parents went to the local court house. The judge called it a learning moment, and that he would reverse it if the judge in the other state would reverse their ruling. We gotten the judge in the other state to try to call ours, but he wouldn't talk to her at all. From the looks of it, since the judge in our state did what he did. The judge in our state had to reverse it to get the warrant removed. From my understanding, this never happened. But somehow the lawyers were able to get the judge in the other state to put out a warrant for the guy a few weeks later. More than less, the judge wanted the kids in foster care for a week to figure things out and the warrant was meant to be to arrest him if he resisted this. We guess their state messed it up because they guy has warrants in other places, or he is apart of some ongoing investigation (there is a bit of evidence of this being why he never went to jail for his stunts. Where they are after someone bigger, and they need him in play for now. The DEA even told us they were ready to move in on him once he killed my sister, and they knew about much of what he did.)
Something to note, during the time when the cops were around the dad's parents house. This lasted for multiple hours. My sister was drunker than drunk, on drugs, and she was physically and verbally abusive. To the point where my dad still has a cut on his nose where my sister thrown a hose at him. On top of that, when we tried to get everything together to make this happen. She fought us and the lawyer every step of the way. It turned out the guy was at a local gas station a few days before picking up the kids. He was causing so much of a thing that the cops had to be called on him. Even down to getting written statements, paper work from the school, and so on was a nightmare due to her. Every second of it I heard how stupid we are, how she knows better than everyone, and so on. If I had to give it a number, 95% of the time she was drunk, high, or both. During this she tried to get herself fired from work as to my guess as some messed up reason to not have a job. And then to top it off, she was drunker than drunk when her kids finally came back.
During this time before he went to jail for a short period, he tried stupid stunts like tricking the phone system into thinking one parent was texting the other in asking for a copy of all the conversations with the guy. For those of you who don't know, when you send a text it basically acts more like a normal mail in the box. Change the location where it came from on the letter, and whomever is getting the mail will think someone else sent it. But the idiot obviously thought any reply will go back to him, when in reality it just goes to the person you said it came from.
Anyways, the judge ruled the kids to be under my parents care with the guy having pretty much unrestricted access to the kids. But my sister has to be monitored. He gotten off by telling the judge in his hippie state that it was believed his mom was dying, and he went to one of their houses. Even with it proven that this is a lie. The judge didn't care. The kids came back with some rash, and a bit set back.
Around this time I started figuring out my sister is a sociopath. She shows no remorse, it's all about her (to the point she leaves her kids in a high chair for hours when she gets bored of them), it seems to her going to jail is just part of the game, and she tries to manipulate those around her as seen above. I told my parents about my theory, and they agree there is a high chance this is true. I was told once everything is said and done, she will be looked at.
A little bit later the guy told the court we neglected the kids because they have ringworm. During his time with the kids, he went to the doctors and told them what to write. The morning before he tried to use this, we took the kids to a doctor to see what the rash was about. It turns out some soap wasn't acting nice with their skin. Even with this pointed out, nothing happened to him. And then it was pointed how he lied on stand multiple times, and again nothing happened. The only thing that changed is the court said he can contact the kids by x service when he doesn't have them.
The first chance he gotten, he gave the oldest a burner phone and he forced everyone to use some other service. Other than our lawyer yelling about this, nothing happened.
For whatever reason, the lawyer told my mom that it's best if my sister shows up in court in person. The lawyer who my parents already paid somewhere under $50k during all this let it slip up that she wanted this. My sister threaten to end it by giving the kids back to the guy, leaving, and so on. She called my parents cheap, some cuss words, and how they are horrible parents (this honestly happens a lot). At this point my mom in a quick hour bought the tickets and what not. Even still my sister was still going off on my parents. This put everyone in a bind since who will take the kids to school and what not. When we were going out to pick up the kids from school, my mom asked her mom (one of the main people who came to the house to say crap about my parents). During the call I was able to overhear most everything since the volume was loud. My mom's mom said all of this is my mom's fault, how she caused problems, and xyz. Even with this, my mom asked her. About 2 or 3 min in the trip, I told my mom this will cause a war and she will snoop. She might even try to sabotage what my mom is doing. My mom gotten mad at me, slam on the breaks turned around really fast, and drove a few feet from the car in front of her. Every time I told her to slow down, she threaten to wack the person. (Something I haven't said before, but everyone's stress level is to the max due to this. I've seen my dad, mom, and myself cry for hours during separate times. But I seen how my sister doesn't care at all.)
The following days my sister brag how she was going to go shopping with the lawyer, and do each other's hair. This is in between my sister telling my parents the lawyer is laughing at them and the rest of the family is laughing at them. To top it off, she really stop trying to hide her drug use. Like she did it behind doors, but we could 100% smell it. And it is important to know she was doing drugs with the kids in the room with her. Around this time I mentioned how I could just watch the kids. My mom OK it after teaching me how to change them, and my dad worked something out with his work so he would be in the area during those days. We found with the mom out of the picture, the kids became more than less normal. During the last day the mom video called and talked to the oldest. After a few hours, he acted like how he does when his mom is around (kicking, hitting, talking down to everyone, etc. Keep in mind he isn't even in normal school yet).
Anyways, during the same day the oldest gotten sick for some reason, and we (my dad and I) had to change him. Because my sister forced my mom to do all the packing, laying out clothes, and so on on top of taking the kids to school and the doctors, feeding them, washing them, and putting them to sleep. We couldn't find any socks. I was told it was in my sister's room, and my dad went in every draw looking. My dad found vodka in the closet, I found what I believe to be a crack pipe in one of the draws, and we found some evidence of used drugs in a few draws.
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Long story short, I'm high functioning autistic. While I have several degrees, getting a job is extremely hard and holding one due to the massive need of social skills makes it about impossible. Because of this, I'm an early 30 something living with their parents. (The up side is I'm always trying to find ways out of my situation)
My sister is a few years older, and ever since she was in her early teens she has been involved with the "wrong" crowd, and she has abused something. It started with drinking, and then it moved on to pot, and then to harder stuff later in her life. I can count somewhere between 20-30 times where my parents had to pull her out of the fire, make sure she doesn't have a DUI, and so on. Once when I was in middle school she was involved with a massive drug head that was into underage girls (keep in mind she was underage at the time). Since my parents lived in 2 different states due to their jobs. My mom picked her up in handcuffs and got her out of that environment. During the time she was with me, she drugged me to knock me out and that away the guy could have sex with her pretty much next to me. (I figured this out when I learned what condoms was)
Anyways, a number of years back my sister gotten away from some human trafficking, drug smuggling, xyz guy. I'm not entirely sure about everything since my parents did their best to keep me out of it. But when she gotten her after a good 2 weeks, her true self started to show. She broke every rule my parents gave her (don't steal, show respect, no drinking, ....). However, during this time she was seeing a therapist for the first bit, until she stopped going to him. After a good 6 months to a year things gotten so bad between the death threats, yelling, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and so on. My parents ended up evicting her from the house. During all of this, my sister told lies about my parents and me to the rest of the family (grandparents, cousins, etc. All that lives several hours away, and while we didn't have the best relationship. We did hang out once in a while when we went to them.)
Some of the lies included my parents beating her, my sister seeing my dad masturbate with a sock, how we committed real crimes, and so on. Instead of coming to us, they just believed her. I mean all but my grandparents on my dad's side which she never talked to since they are religious.
For a number of years after, we didn't hear anything from her and my parents figured she might've been dead. Because my parents were so sad, I used a little of my money over the years to have someone investigate her, and they found she was alive but back in another drug den. During this time I was working on one of my degrees, and within a psychology class they talked about false memories. Basically, you can have false extreme memories put into you, or you can put them into yourself. One common method is by the person taking drugs, watching something on TV, and thinking about someone or something. Say they are watching someone get sexually abused (porn, TV, etc) and they think about their dad while they are super high. Depending on the person's brain and how often this happens, they will make a false memory of their dad sexually abusing them. I figure maybe this is why she said what she said, but still. Outside of my grandparents on my dad's side. No one would talk to us, and everyone treated us like trash. To the point where my grandparents met my parents and I at some beach place over a weekend. We went to the area my granddad grown up at, and I met family I never seen before. When we got back to my grandparent's house, my dad's sister came over drunk accusing us of kidnapping them. (the so and so accused me a number of times of hacking my grandparents since my degrees are in IT and cyber security. She lied to them saying some tech person said they traced some hack back to me. When my grandmom asked me about it, I told her that she is crazy, and she just accused me for breaking a federal law.)
A number of years later my sister made a kid with the SOB she was running with. Some of the family that was accusing my parents and I over things she lied about told her to tell us. Long story short, they forced her to visit us 1 time with the kid. Before this, when asked NONE of my family would even tell us she is alive. We knew they knew due to the investigation that was done on her. But acted dumb to figure out who we can trust.
Anyways, a good year or 2 she gotten my mom to believe she wanted out of that environment. She refused to do anything when asked to help. A few years later, and she made another kid with the SOB. During this time my grandmother on my mom's side went there and bought her stuff which allowed her to stay there even longer. They even argued against her moving out of there. About 3 to 6 months later she told everyone her son told her that his dad drunk is pee while they were shopping at a target. This gotten my parents in high gear to get her out, and a few weeks before she was meant to come here she nutted up. Basically, she blown up on the guy and told him how she was going to screw him over. It turned out he was taking hidden footage of her, and he got the cops to kick her out. Because at the time it was in the middle of the winter in a very cold place (not naming), my parents rented her a hotel space even against me arguing against it. My reason for arguing against sending her to a hotel so quickly is she hasn't hit rock bottom yet, and in her mind she will always have a safety net. My parents argued she could've died. During this time she looked for any place that isn't a homeless shelter to stay at. All the "friends" she had didn't help her at all. (Later, she said she was homeless during this period, but admits she was at the hotel.)
During this time it was told to her to get a job. Because they guy put some restraining order on her, she used that as a way out of that. Eventually she gotten into house cleaning, but I have no doubts she was doing illegal stuff on top of that.
About this time, her problems kept increasing and it became harder for my parents to hide my sisters past from me. It turned out the guy she was with was in human trafficking, he is majorly into drugs, he pimps under age girls, he hurts people, he was/maybe is still in gay porn, and so on. Because of this, I figured out what is the rush to get her and the kids out. For about an entire year later the guy just gave up on the restraining order. He also OK the kids to come here to another state. Secretly the plan was to get the kids here so we could do a custody battle. However, the rule was she couldn't drink, smoke, do drugs, and she had to be respectful. Anyways, over a weekend my mom quickly bought the plane tickets, went there to get her and her stuff, and got her out of their. During this my mom found used drugs all over the place, a mess all over (to the point where there was dog crap all over), and so on. On top of that, the guy kept accusing my sister for having sex with other guys and saying the kids weren't his (i think this is why he OK them to come here).
SIDE NOTE: It turned out the parents were just feeding the kids yogurt, milk, and chicken nuggets from McD. They weren't allowed to see the doctor, the kids when they first came here looked like holocaust survivors. Later when we took the kids to the dentist we found cavities in both their mouths. In fact, nearly every last tooth. Keep in mind at the time one of the kids was around 1.
After she came here, she already broken 2 of the rules. No smoking and be respectful. I complained about it, but basically gotten a shut up. After the kids came here we gotten them into a psychologist. The youngest we couldn't do much with since they were too young. But the oldest was labeled with PTSD. It turns out the dad took the kid out to the woods, and other guys paid him to f his kid. After this, we gotten the kids in some pre-k program which has helped them a bit.
During the time when the kids started pre-k, my sister was forced to get a job. During that entire experience, it was a nightmare since she was constantly fighting them. I've even used my contacts in thinking maybe she was at least off drugs and drinking, and a few places said they would hire her with a starting salary of $20/h with full benefits. All she had to do is work front desk for some doctors office. She lied to me in saying she applied, I checked, and found out she didn't apply to a single place. My parents didn't really care, and used her kids as a reason why that job and the others I had lined up wouldn't work. Something about she needed to be able to take care of her kids. The problem with this is I was the one taking care of them since the mom was literally sticking her kids in a high chair, and walking away for hours (to my guess to get high).
Around this time some of my family that blamed my parents and I for a ton of stuff came here uninvited. During their stay, I kept running into them talking bad about us. So basically they came here to just stir the pot. This is even them seeing pictures and getting a detailed report on what my mom seen when she was out there.
Eventually my sister gotten a job at target, and her drinking kicked in high gear. I brought this up to my parents, and they changed the rules saying she would be kicked out if she drink on the property. Even with me showing them the bottles, they didn't care.
About this time on, nearly every day I'm awaken by my sister screaming at her kids, my parents, the dogs, or herself. Pretty much every day around 6 or 7 pm my sister starts attacking my parents. At one point it gotten so bad that I went in to defend them. She started recording me, while keeping her kid out of the frame, and acting 100% calm. This told me she was up to some stupid stuff (from what I heard the same stuff she did to the guy). So I started recording her from a different room when she started her attacks. My parents blamed the environment she came out of, but later on we found it's just like last time. After that and several cops telling us to make sure our security system is up to date. We replaced all the cameras in the house, and there is a ton of footage of her blowing up with audio. Sometimes flat out yelling at her kids for no reason. Sometimes using her kid's PTSD as a shield, while blowing up when it was brought up to her attention. A number of death threats, a number of insults, a number of times blaming everyone for something that clearly didn't happen, and so on. Literally saying "hi" to her has set her off.
Around this time my sister started to flat out tell me about some of the crap she did. Stuff like making $80k by moving drugs and people with the guy. For those of you who didn't pick up on it, this means she 100% knew this was a bad person before having her first kid. And she decided to have 2, stay with him, and even today threaten to take her kids back to him.
During this time, I started to notice that whenever she had a TV on, it was of the ID channel (murder porn). The death threats came in more frequently, but worse is. She was having both her kids watch that. At this point I started taking the kids out of the house or room when possible when she blown up, when she was feeding them murder porn, and when it looked like something was about to happen. This is seen several times on camera.
A while later the dad started his BS by saying my sister stole the kids. His state ended up putting out a warrant, and he took it to the state I'm in. He went to the cops, and the cops said the warrant doesn't apply here since it's out of state and he needs to get one for this state. He went to the court, and was able to get a hearing without us knowing about it at all (which means the judge went against my sister's constitutional rites). The cops who picked up the kids told us what to do, and my sister and parents went to the local court house. The judge called it a learning moment, and that he would reverse it if the judge in the other state would reverse their ruling. We gotten the judge in the other state to try to call ours, but he wouldn't talk to her at all. From the looks of it, since the judge in our state did what he did. The judge in our state had to reverse it to get the warrant removed. From my understanding, this never happened. But somehow the lawyers were able to get the judge in the other state to put out a warrant for the guy a few weeks later. More than less, the judge wanted the kids in foster care for a week to figure things out and the warrant was meant to be to arrest him if he resisted this. We guess their state messed it up because they guy has warrants in other places, or he is apart of some ongoing investigation (there is a bit of evidence of this being why he never went to jail for his stunts. Where they are after someone bigger, and they need him in play for now. The DEA even told us they were ready to move in on him once he killed my sister, and they knew about much of what he did.)
Something to note, during the time when the cops were around the dad's parents house. This lasted for multiple hours. My sister was drunker than drunk, on drugs, and she was physically and verbally abusive. To the point where my dad still has a cut on his nose where my sister thrown a hose at him. On top of that, when we tried to get everything together to make this happen. She fought us and the lawyer every step of the way. It turned out the guy was at a local gas station a few days before picking up the kids. He was causing so much of a thing that the cops had to be called on him. Even down to getting written statements, paper work from the school, and so on was a nightmare due to her. Every second of it I heard how stupid we are, how she knows better than everyone, and so on. If I had to give it a number, 95% of the time she was drunk, high, or both. During this she tried to get herself fired from work as to my guess as some messed up reason to not have a job. And then to top it off, she was drunker than drunk when her kids finally came back.
During this time before he went to jail for a short period, he tried stupid stunts like tricking the phone system into thinking one parent was texting the other in asking for a copy of all the conversations with the guy. For those of you who don't know, when you send a text it basically acts more like a normal mail in the box. Change the location where it came from on the letter, and whomever is getting the mail will think someone else sent it. But the idiot obviously thought any reply will go back to him, when in reality it just goes to the person you said it came from.
Anyways, the judge ruled the kids to be under my parents care with the guy having pretty much unrestricted access to the kids. But my sister has to be monitored. He gotten off by telling the judge in his hippie state that it was believed his mom was dying, and he went to one of their houses. Even with it proven that this is a lie. The judge didn't care. The kids came back with some rash, and a bit set back.
Around this time I started figuring out my sister is a sociopath. She shows no remorse, it's all about her (to the point she leaves her kids in a high chair for hours when she gets bored of them), it seems to her going to jail is just part of the game, and she tries to manipulate those around her as seen above. I told my parents about my theory, and they agree there is a high chance this is true. I was told once everything is said and done, she will be looked at.
A little bit later the guy told the court we neglected the kids because they have ringworm. During his time with the kids, he went to the doctors and told them what to write. The morning before he tried to use this, we took the kids to a doctor to see what the rash was about. It turns out some soap wasn't acting nice with their skin. Even with this pointed out, nothing happened to him. And then it was pointed how he lied on stand multiple times, and again nothing happened. The only thing that changed is the court said he can contact the kids by x service when he doesn't have them.
The first chance he gotten, he gave the oldest a burner phone and he forced everyone to use some other service. Other than our lawyer yelling about this, nothing happened.
For whatever reason, the lawyer told my mom that it's best if my sister shows up in court in person. The lawyer who my parents already paid somewhere under $50k during all this let it slip up that she wanted this. My sister threaten to end it by giving the kids back to the guy, leaving, and so on. She called my parents cheap, some cuss words, and how they are horrible parents (this honestly happens a lot). At this point my mom in a quick hour bought the tickets and what not. Even still my sister was still going off on my parents. This put everyone in a bind since who will take the kids to school and what not. When we were going out to pick up the kids from school, my mom asked her mom (one of the main people who came to the house to say crap about my parents). During the call I was able to overhear most everything since the volume was loud. My mom's mom said all of this is my mom's fault, how she caused problems, and xyz. Even with this, my mom asked her. About 2 or 3 min in the trip, I told my mom this will cause a war and she will snoop. She might even try to sabotage what my mom is doing. My mom gotten mad at me, slam on the breaks turned around really fast, and drove a few feet from the car in front of her. Every time I told her to slow down, she threaten to wack the person. (Something I haven't said before, but everyone's stress level is to the max due to this. I've seen my dad, mom, and myself cry for hours during separate times. But I seen how my sister doesn't care at all.)
The following days my sister brag how she was going to go shopping with the lawyer, and do each other's hair. This is in between my sister telling my parents the lawyer is laughing at them and the rest of the family is laughing at them. To top it off, she really stop trying to hide her drug use. Like she did it behind doors, but we could 100% smell it. And it is important to know she was doing drugs with the kids in the room with her. Around this time I mentioned how I could just watch the kids. My mom OK it after teaching me how to change them, and my dad worked something out with his work so he would be in the area during those days. We found with the mom out of the picture, the kids became more than less normal. During the last day the mom video called and talked to the oldest. After a few hours, he acted like how he does when his mom is around (kicking, hitting, talking down to everyone, etc. Keep in mind he isn't even in normal school yet).
Anyways, during the same day the oldest gotten sick for some reason, and we (my dad and I) had to change him. Because my sister forced my mom to do all the packing, laying out clothes, and so on on top of taking the kids to school and the doctors, feeding them, washing them, and putting them to sleep. We couldn't find any socks. I was told it was in my sister's room, and my dad went in every draw looking. My dad found vodka in the closet, I found what I believe to be a crack pipe in one of the draws, and we found some evidence of used drugs in a few draws.
