OP , I can tell you one thing, if nothing else. Getting fired from a job is not something to be ashamed of. Ik you mentioned that's how we're grown, but really. Jobs most of the time are not a mirror of your qualifications as a person, or the company in this world would be an epitome of perfection. Yes, it'll prolly leave a bad spot on you record, but how you narrated the whole thing, a lot of employers do look for that honesty as well.
Just......don't get ashamed over a stupid firing, really, As far as colleagues go, most are generally shitty, which is normal in a customer service oriented job. It'll be a good experience.
Remember how you bought twenty Christmas presents? Go treat yourself something this time. You've earned it :)
( I'm not gonna say anything about WFH, istg that's like a blessing for people like me)
@thevaccumguy I am more hurt at the older woman colleague who betrayed me. It hurts so much because before all this we bonded and I thought I found a friend. We both live in the same city in the northern part just different neighbourhoods and I was familiar with her neighbourhood as I have shopped there a lot. She liked the same reality TV shows I like etc. I thought I was safe especially the way she comforted me and her being a mother.
I don't understand she is a mother herself with daughters the same age as me. How would she feel if her daughter went to an older colleague, trusted her and then older colleague revealed her private conversations to man she feeling hurt over . She betrays me.
The day I found out she went to the man and told him our private conservation my heart sank. This was someone I admired, respected and she does this to me. I have never done anything bad to her. If I was a piece of shi-t human being then I say to myself "I deserve the workplace humiliation" but I am not a bad person and I have done wrong. I was always good to her and helped her with her work when she needed assistanceI don't understand why she did this to me
I am so disappointed because last year things were finally starting to improve and i finally was happy and looking forward to the future. 2023 has been the worst year ever. Month after month things have been getting even worse and nothing is going right.
On my letter it says the reason why I got fired. Perfromance reasons: I Failed to meet the organisations high standards expected in delivering good customer service to the customer base and meeting targets. I will tell future employers I have learnt from the mistakes I made in my previous job and being fired was a massive wake up call.
Being fired like that must have been just awful. I can only imagine how bad it was. Sometimes shitty things like happens and it can be difficult to focus in the future. I highly doubt it means the end of the world for you though. I hope you can recover.
@GoodDog I have been reminding myself people get fired for even worse things than I have done. I have been following the Alec Baldwin rust movie shooting. The headarmourer Hannah Gutierrez-Reed is she the same age as me and it was her job to check the all the guns on set.
Despite all these awful feelings of pure shame, anger, embrassmemt and massive loss confidence in myself I feel every day at least I can recover from all this, even though right now it doesn't feel that way.
Hannah Gutierrez-Reed, she has not got the opportunity to have the chance to move on like I can, and I feel sorry for her. She will always be remembered for the rest of her as the headarmour who failed to check the gun.
Alec Baldwin should have never hired an inexperienced young woman to have such an enormous role with huge responsibility.
On my letter it says the reason why I got fired. Perfromance reasons: I failed to meet the organisations high standards expected in delivering good customer service to the customer base and meeting targets. I will tell future employers I have learnt from the mistakes I made in my previous job and being fired was a massive wake up call.
My confidence is at an all time low.
Being fired like that must have been just awful. I can only imagine how bad it was. Sometimes shitty things like happens and it can be difficult to focus in the future. I highly doubt it means the end of the world for you though. I hope you can recover.
@GoodDog I have been reminding myself people get fired for even worse things than I have done. I have been following the Alec Baldwin rust movie shooting. The headarmourer Hannah Gutierrez-Reed is she the same age as me and it was her job to check the all the guns on set.
Despite all these awful feelings of pure shame, anger, embrassmemt and massive loss confidence in myself I feel every day at least I can recover from all this, even though right now it doesn't feel that way.
Hannah Gutierrez-Reed, she has not got the opportunity to have the chance to move on like I can, and I feel sorry for her. She will always be remembered for the rest of her as the headarmour who failed to check the gun.
Alec Baldwin should have never hired an inexperienced young woman to have such an enormous role with huge responsibility.
On my letter it says the reason why I got fired. Perfromance reasons: I Failed to meet the organisations high standards expected in delivering good customer service to the customer base and meeting targets. I will tell future employers I have learnt from the mistakes I made in my previous job and being fired was a massive wake up call.
I relate to what you say, and the feeling of shame is absolutely horrible. I still have awful memories of humiliating mistakes I've made years and years ago. I don't know how to stop feeling so horrible about myself.
On the flip side, the fact that it was your first job is telling. The thing that I've learned is that we need people to explain things to us, not to assume that every subtle aspect of the culture is 'commonsense'. If you're in any way neurodivergent, this applies tenfold.
My current job is the best example, as I was new to the industry and the culture. When I first started, I stuffed everything up in every way. They didn't know what to do with me, so they took me off the main job some days and had me sweep the floor. Everyone was talking about what an idiot I was. They kept me on because they needed people and I stayed on because I had nowhere else to go.
Over time, I learned from each and every mistake and developed some unique skills. A couple of years later, when I was finally ready to quit, they offered me a huge pay rise to stay. They have openly acknowledged me as one of their best performers.
@Pluto Thanks for sharing. I got my first part time job at 24 and then my first full time job at 25. I am so upset my first ever full time job I got fired from it.
I always knew I was getting fired but a part of me didn't want to accept it. All throughout my life I have been crazy situations but somehow managed to get out of it and it going well. I thought this time i will be lucky again.
I fought till the very end tried so hard to redeem myself for the workplace mistakes we made. I genuinely felt bad for my mistakes.
First I wrote an open apology letter apologising for all the controversies I have caused ie incident with the customer, failing to update case managers and being distant. I emailed it to everyone in the department. In the letter I said take full responsibility for my actions. I also mentioned how I find the job rewarding and enjoying working with people who share the same people. I end it with saying how I want to move forward and promising to be there for the team. I mentioned how bad I feel for all the controversies I have caused. My boss criticising me about how I bring nothing to the department and calling me a troublemaker was reason why I wrote the letter.
Then I tried keeping my head down and just working up until in my performance review. In my performance review I calmly made the case for myself, acknowledgement of my mistakes and learning from the mistakes.
I did what I have been doing all my life standing up for myself. I spoke in that review. I was shocked at how very strong of a speaker can be.
right now I feel like the only person in the world who messed up and get fired through my own doing and mistakes. Being fired feels so lonely and its harder seeing people my age having their lives together then there is me who can't hold a job. The job was a 6 month contract and I got fired within 3 months this is so embrassing. 
What was your dream job? 
