Venting Should I tell it to my friend?

[HowSoonIsNow]

Soon my setup will be reafy but being in silence about my decision is making me feel really bad, I feel like I'm a liar but I know that if I say it to someone they'll try to convince me, again..

 

[Jblack]

Other then sharing my feelings and plans within this forum, I have never expressed by desire to CTB to anyone. Call me paranoid, but I really don't trust anyone, particularly doctors. I don't want to end up being committed by some do gooder. This my sound a little crazy but my safe rather then sorry has protected me so far. I know at times it makes me feel very lonely and isolated but the reality of being committed hits. Knowing that I have not shared provides me with a little sense of security.

 

[Stick]

I think you need to ask yourself, what is more important to you, telling your friend the truth, or avoiding a conversation where they convince you to live? It sounds like your friend about this before. Did they try to send you to a mental hospital, or anything else scary? If not, the your next conversation with them about it probably won't result in that, either. Do you want to talk about your feelings a bit more? Doing so may give you a better sense of what to prioritize.
If not talking to them is making you feel really bad, then some part of you must want to tell them really bad. It might help them understand and cope with their loss of you once you do ctb.

 

[AlreadyGone]

I don't see any good in telling anyone IMO.

 

[Aap]

Very few people have a friend in their life they could tell. If you want to be stopped, then it's another question...

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

Soon my setup will be reafy but being in silence about my decision is making me feel really bad, I feel like I'm a liar but I know that if I say it to someone they'll try to convince me, again..

Some thoughts...
For me personally I will not be telling anyone. (Again) It didn't go well. Fortunately I wasn't locked up. I don't think they thought I was serious.
You have to consider that they may try to stop you by going to the police. Also not telling them leaves them off the hook if they don't turn you in.
It's going to hurt either way. There is no way to prevent it.
The only reason IMHO to tell anyone is if you want to be prevented from CTB.
Honestly humans lie all the time. Some more than others but most of us tell everyone we are ok when we are not.
I can't tell you what you should do but for myself... I will not be telling anyone. (Again)

 

[icanhasnick]

Also not telling them leaves them off the hook if they don't turn you in.

Is it a crime not ratting people out ? And why should they rat them out to the cops, if suicide itself is no crime ?
Moreover, who will be there to bring such a claim against them ?

 

[AlreadyGone]

Is it a crime not ratting people out ? And why should they rat them out to the cops, if suicide itself is no crime ?
Moreover, who will be there to bring such a claim against them ?

I think he is referring to guilt. Your friend would feel guilty for not taking action if you were to ctb. Hence I say it serves no purpose at all to tell anyone your plans unless you want them to stop you.

 

[Ghost2211]

I wouldn't. It would cause distress and guilt for your friend, and would not benefit either of you.

 

[icanhasnick]

Idk, i imagine they should feel guilty for taking action against your voluntary ctb, not for not doing it. But then again, i haven't yet told my closest friend, and i don't know if i'll tell her. It might be very stressful for her to know in advance.
At the same time, it also feels odd seeking the company of strangers on places like here, when we could have that of those who have known us and with whom we've shared meaningful stuff over the years.

 

[lost guy]

I feel bad because lied to my best friend, who I consider my brother, that asked me a couple months ago if I've had thoughts of CTB. He is a licensed therapist. I must have been giving off some vibes that he picked up on.

But I choose not to directly tell anyone.

 

[death137]

Like some said before don't tell them unless you want to be stopped.

 

[thethatsitboy]

pode ler em português

I think it always depends. You must know who are around you and what they would do if you tell something like this.

I told my mom, dad (not that close), a "friend", my ex (and friend) and my psychiatrist and psychologist. To all of them in different ways.
My psychologist knows everything. My psychiatrist and my ex know I have SN here. My "friend" knows my will to do it. My mom and dad just know about Suicide thoughts.

So, I regreted to tell my mom and dad only. Although they were the ones I told it the most delicate way, they were the ones that, because of it, got eyes on me. Not that much, and I thank myself that I did not told more.

My ex knows my mother, knows I think so much in suicide and knows about me having SN. I don't talk about it anymore, I will not let her think that I will do it and I think I can 'make her forget' that I have a substance with me. She would not just "be there for me", she would try to convince me and if it wouldn't work, she would tell my mom. And I reaaally don't want that risk.

So, I trust my ex, as you can see. But not to talk about it anymore. Who do you really trust to it?

 

[Greenberg]

Soon my setup will be reafy but being in silence about my decision is making me feel really bad, I feel like I'm a liar but I know that if I say it to someone they'll try to convince me, again..

If you really want to share your thoughts, I would suggest that you tell your friend after the fact through a recording, email, or letter. At the least, there will be no interference.

 

[lobster salad]

Soon my setup will be reafy but being in silence about my decision is making me feel really bad, I feel like I'm a liar but I know that if I say it to someone they'll try to convince me, again..

Don't tell anyone. Take my word for it, I've made the mistake of telling a few people and they called me a "cunt" for being like that...also I told my crush too and she panicked at the time I was gonna do it, she called me every 3 minutes over a period of 2 hours... I didn't notice because I didn't have my phone with me, but after I chickened out and went home(i thought that method would do nothing but bring more pain and no death) I felt like a total asshole telling her I was still around... she made me promise I wouldnt try again... so I said 'i'll try'
My parents and family still don't have a clue yet(I think) so I'm safe there though occasionally they ask why do you have Low energy, are you sick, why aren't you happy; shit like that
See? My point is you will make people concerned if you tell, and you will get in trouble, maybe treatment too. I am lucky that my group of people haven't told my family yet or everyone would know that I'm a total psycho right now. Don't tell, unless you don't mind trouble and treatment

 

[Greenberg]

Just be very careful with whom you share your decision. If the authorities get wind of it, they will try to institutionalize you under the premise that you are a potential danger to yourself AND others.