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Shouldhavebeendone
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- Feb 10, 2022
- 40
I've always thought I would not speak to anyone about me wanting to ctb as I don't want them to feel guilt or responsibility. This was a rule as such and something I felt very firmly and sure about. I want to ctb very soon. But I actually feel there's a friend in my life who I want to talk about this with. I've not felt like this before (past attempts).
I'm torn about whether to or not. Everyone is always saying to just talk to someone. I'm ok with my mind being changed that's still a lot of pressure on them though if they're the one to change my mind. I doubt it will be changed so I don't want to hurt them put too much pressure on them or traumatise them in some way I care a lot about them. I also don't want to scare them away either or drag them into my problems and screw them up to. I'm confused about feeling this way as I've never wanted to discuss this feeling with people irl and because of that I've been debating cutting them off completely so they're not so hurt when I do ctb. When I imagine talking to them I just feel guilty for putting that weight on them or like they're going to be scared of me and think I'm mental and want no more to do with me. Their actions towards me so far haven't indicated that they would be, but I have been treated that way in the past when people have found out how I feel. I don't know what to do.
Sorry about this rambled text, I hope it makes some kind of sense.
I'm torn about whether to or not. Everyone is always saying to just talk to someone. I'm ok with my mind being changed that's still a lot of pressure on them though if they're the one to change my mind. I doubt it will be changed so I don't want to hurt them put too much pressure on them or traumatise them in some way I care a lot about them. I also don't want to scare them away either or drag them into my problems and screw them up to. I'm confused about feeling this way as I've never wanted to discuss this feeling with people irl and because of that I've been debating cutting them off completely so they're not so hurt when I do ctb. When I imagine talking to them I just feel guilty for putting that weight on them or like they're going to be scared of me and think I'm mental and want no more to do with me. Their actions towards me so far haven't indicated that they would be, but I have been treated that way in the past when people have found out how I feel. I don't know what to do.
Sorry about this rambled text, I hope it makes some kind of sense.