Discussion Should I leave an angry suicide note?

[Untitled]

So I will be leaving this world with a lot of anger, aimed mostly at my parents. I just don't know whether to leave a suicide note or not.
I know for sure that I will write a lot of unpleasant things to them if I do leave a note, so I'm thinking maybe it's better to not leave a note at all.
On the other hand, if I don't leave a note then it may be even more painful to them, and they may want to know why I killed myself. So maybe I should leave a note?

I don't want to cause them unnecessary pain, but I just can't write anything nice to them. I don't love them, I suffered a lot because of them, and I don't want to write anything good to them.

So should I leave an angry note or not leave a note at all? Assuming I don't want to cause too much pain...

 

[throwaway123]

No better to leave without a note. Noone will understand why you did it. trust me

 

[RememberWhatUCameFor]

i would write a note and would be honest

 

[JustAboutDone]

The thing is, if you write an angry note and that is your final word then there's no way back from that. It's not like having an argument, clearing the air and making things right and moving on - it's a final saying your thing but not giving them a chance to respond.

Yes, I am 100% sure they have let you down and behaved atrociously to you otherwise you would not be feeling the way you do. However, parents are just people - they are nothing special, just ordinary people and I think you should vent your angry at them in person or in a letter before you ctb to get it in the open.

 

[DyingToCTB]

I'd let it go. Once you've CTB, what does it matter? Let your parents have their blissful ignorance. They are the ones that have to live with themselves.

 

[AndyCurious]

How you feel matters, and the truth hurts, but removes the doubts.. One way or the other, I think you should tell them how you feel..

 

[lemmeeleev]

Or wrote in a notebook about why you did it, but not a suicide note. Leave it in your room somewhere they will find it for sure, but only after you ctb. Explain everything so the people who want to know bad enough will have answers. But write a note or don't, it's your choice.

 

[JustAboutDone]

Also, if you think about it, it's not fair on you to feel all this pent up anger. Let it out. Tell them what they have done. You'd be surprised what people are unaware of you really would - especially parents who are completely stupid. Trust me, I am one.

 

[Untitled]

Hey thanks everyone for the sensitive and thoughtful comments. I was afraid I would just be bashed and be told that I'm an ungrateful son or something. This is the kind of atitude I'm already used to get from normal people. But instead I recieved from you the respectful attitude that I needed so much. Thanks guys. I guess people who believe in the right to die are generally more understanding and good hearted than your average person.

 

[JustAboutDone]

Hey thanks everyone for the sensitive and thoughtful comments. I was afraid I would just be bashed and be told that I'm an ungrateful son or something. This is the kind of atitude I'm already used to get from normal people. But instead I recieved from you the respectful attitude that I needed so much. Thanks guys. I guess people who believe in the right to die are generally more understanding and good hearted than your average person.

That's sad that people are making you feel like 'an ungrateful son' I really hope they are just a bit thoughtless and not setting out to hurt you x

If your parents are hard to talk to in person, try a letter before you go out to college or wherever or ask a friend to explain - if they rant and rave it says far more about their inadequacies than yours.

I was 14 before I plucked up the courage to tell my father that he couldn't beat me, that it was illegal and if he did it again I would tell the police and that he was angry aggressive and terrifying. He was genuinely shocked! He hadn't thought he was doing anything wrong! He made a conscious effort to change after that. You have to keep parents on a strict leash!

 

[Untitled]

That's sad that people are making you feel like 'an ungrateful son' I really hope they are just a bit thoughtless and not setting out to hurt you x

If your parents are hard to talk to in person, try a letter before you go out to college or wherever or ask a friend to explain - if they rant and rave it says far more about their inadequacies than yours.

I was 14 before I plucked up the courage to tell my father that he couldn't beat me, that it was illegal and if he did it again I would tell the police and that he was angry aggressive and terrifying. He was genuinely shocked! He hadn't thought he was doing anything wrong! He made a conscious effort to change after that. You have to keep parents on a strict leash!

I have a very similar story with my dad. He used to beat me too until I got strong enough to resist. Thanks for sharing. Totally agree on keeping parents on a tight leash.

 

[JustAboutDone]

Hopefully it won't be long until you can leave home and then leave them explaining why you choose not to see them again :-)
Having children should be a privilege and an honour and a complete joy - anyone who thinks otherwise should not have them!

 

[Untitled]

Hopefully it won't be long until you can leave home and then leave them explaining why you choose not to see them again :-)
Having children should be a privilege and an honour and a complete joy - anyone who thinks otherwise should not have them!

Thanks again for the reply, JustAboutDone. And thanks for being so nice, you even added a little smiley in the end :-)
I just want to clarify that I'm already an adult and I've already left home.
I hope for you too that you find a place of your own (if you haven't yet found one) and that you will be free from your parents (if you aren't already).

 

[JustAboutDone]

Thanks again for the reply, JustAboutDone. And thanks for being so nice, you even added a little smiley in the end :-)
I just want to clarify that I'm already an adult and I've already left home.
I hope for you too that you find a place of your own (if you haven't yet found one) and that you will be free from your parents (if you aren't already).

Oh phew! Am glad you've got away - especially from a father who is violent. Yes, I am a million years old and live far away from mine :-) I have forgiven my father and made my peace with how my mother treated me. It would have been easier if she could have seen how awful she was - but no chance! It's easier to move on - either to live or die without anger or bitterness so speak the words that must be spoken, resolve, forgive them for your sake - not theirs! Then your life or death is your own :-)

See, another smiley

 

[leaps]

Assuming I don't want to cause too much pain...

This says it all right here

 

[creationisdeath]

That's really your call. Sounds like you're better off not writing anything at all. I would want to make them suffer but you seem to be a better person than me.

My own reason for not leaving angry notes is because the people aren't worth it. It would only be one more headache for me with no payoff.

I like the idea of telling them what you really think beforehand - if that makes you feel better. And only then. This is about you and not anyone else.