should i inform an internet friend that im planning to kill myself ?

[Mess]

She's maybe the person i care the most about, and that's why i want her to understand that if one day i stop replying to her, its not because im ghosting her, but because im dead. But she is depressed and also feel suicidal, and she's only 14, and i dont want her to be more stressed than she is now. I sent her messages a few minutes ago but i deleted them because idk how i should act.

 

[Stan]

I think the one thing that jumps out here is the age of your friend. I think you are right with the ghosting and that there should be some conclusion that makes her think she isn't being ghosted, but at the same time not let her think that ctb is the only answer because its the one you have taken.

 

[Astral316]

I don't know how old you are but I think... the greater the age discrepancy, the less appropriate it is to inform her of any suicidal plans.

 

[anonbpdgirl]

How old are you?

 

[TAW122]

If you don't want to risk getting intervention or her tipping off someone in hopes to "save" you like most people do when they hear about suicide or mental distress, then I would NOT mention it to her. Also, like you said, since she is not in a good mental state, then it would be detrimental to talk about wanting to CTB with her.

 

[Lennox]

If she's able to find out what happened to you after the fact on her own, that would probably be for the best. Other than that, I think you should use a delayed message service. Inform her after the fact, not before. Since she's so young, maybe write something nice, that you hope she doesn't follow the same path as you, something like that.

 

[Mess]

I think the one thing that jumps out here is the age of your friend. I think you are right with the ghosting and that there should be some conclusion that makes her think she isn't being ghosted, but at the same time not let her think that ctb is the only answer because its the one you have taken.

idk how to make her understand why i disappeared then; if i die one day. Shes following me on social media, and im very active on it. If i stop being active, ppl will wonder why

I don't know how old you are but I think... the greater the age discrepancy, the less appropriate it is to inform her of any suicidal plans.

im 17yo. So yes, im older than her, but not enough to be a "model" to follow (at least i hope so).

If you don't want to risk getting intervention or her tipping off someone in hopes to "save" you like most people do when they hear about suicide or mental distress, then I would NOT mention it to her. Also, like you said, since she is not in a good mental state, then it would be detrimental to talk about wanting to CTB with her.

thats why i am hesitating...

If she's able to find out what happened to you after the fact on her own, that would probably be for the best. Other than that, I think you should use a delayed message service. Inform her after the fact, not before. Since she's so young, maybe write something nice, that you hope she doesn't follow the same path as you, something like that.

Thats a great idea thanks

 

[Stan]

idk how to make her understand why i disappeared then; if i die one day. Shes following me on social media, and im very active on it. If i stop being active, ppl will wonder why

Ghosting justs adds more questions rather than becomes a solution, so I agree its not good to do that, especially if she is in not a good space. You have two options: you either lie and say you are coming off all forms of social media and messaging as you find it unhealthy. Or you do a delayed message to her saying that you have ctb and encourage her to go down a different path. Neither are perfect but personally I would hate my legacy to be that I helped someone so young not look at all their options. You are 17, I know my early days were not great, but then I had a 20 year time period which on the whole was a good time. Obviously I am here now for whatever my reasons are and I am so not a pro-lifer but at your age(s) I would wonder if every option or possibility was looked at. I think its easier to get practical help to get you out of the situation thats triggering all this than emotional and therapeutic support which seems more miss than hit from what is written here in testimonies about therapy and psych wards

 

[dreamingofpeace]

im 17yo. So yes, im older than her, but not enough to be a "model" to follow (at least i hope so).

sorry ur definitely old enough to be a model to follow. I think u should either use a delayed message service or not say anything at all even if that's harsh because the other option is basically making a 14 year old keep someones suicide plans a secret which could do her a lot more damage having to live w that. if u do leave a delayed message ask her to stay alive for u or something cus thatll prolly stick and help her think about tryna recover before following. gl

 

[ClownWorld2023]

sorry ur definitely old enough to be a model to follow. I think u should either use a delayed message service or not say anything at all even if that's harsh because the other option is basically making a 14 year old keep someones suicide plans a secret which could do her a lot more damage having to live w that. if u do leave a delayed message ask her to stay alive for u or something cus thatll prolly stick and help her think about tryna recover before following. gl

This thread is from more than 4 years ago. I think they're long gone.

 

[dreamingofpeace]

This thread is from more than 4 years ago. I think they're long gone.

oh damn. wonder how i ended up here