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Proud Normie
- Sep 19, 2023
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If you're on the recovery road, you know there is a lot of negativity out there. Negativity - for whatever reason - has a correlation with arrogance. I've been that guy: 'oh life is awful and if you're enjoying the little things you just don't see it.'
Here's the thing: being miserable is not winning. Being miserable is not a symptom of having figured out life. If someone has come to a conclusion about the world that negates the possibility of happiness, and they are determined to look no further, they've lost and given up. Do not let someone like that tell you how to go about life - assuming you want to recover . . . assuming you want to get to a point where life is worth it to you.
That person may be very smart in some other way, but when it comes to getting their shit together and living life, they have a loooooong way to go to say the least. That type of misery can become an addiction. (Speaking from experience.) Just like an alcoholic might be a mathematical genius, I still don't want to imitate him if I am trying to get sober. If they can admit that fault, and try to help you identify where they messed up, they can be great support. But if they are sitting there clearly stumbling over themselves telling you how in control they are, it might be best to steer clear.
And they may tell you they are happy. Just like the alcoholic insisting they don't have a problem. Look past it. See in their eyes. Misery doesn't lie.
It's okay to not be miserable.
Here's the thing: being miserable is not winning. Being miserable is not a symptom of having figured out life. If someone has come to a conclusion about the world that negates the possibility of happiness, and they are determined to look no further, they've lost and given up. Do not let someone like that tell you how to go about life - assuming you want to recover . . . assuming you want to get to a point where life is worth it to you.
That person may be very smart in some other way, but when it comes to getting their shit together and living life, they have a loooooong way to go to say the least. That type of misery can become an addiction. (Speaking from experience.) Just like an alcoholic might be a mathematical genius, I still don't want to imitate him if I am trying to get sober. If they can admit that fault, and try to help you identify where they messed up, they can be great support. But if they are sitting there clearly stumbling over themselves telling you how in control they are, it might be best to steer clear.
And they may tell you they are happy. Just like the alcoholic insisting they don't have a problem. Look past it. See in their eyes. Misery doesn't lie.
It's okay to not be miserable.
