Help Recording a goodbye video - good idea or will it seem odd?

[MichiyoCornell]

I'm thinking of recording like a 10 minute video explaining to friends and family why I elected to end my life. I'm not sure if it would seem weird or if people would take it as attention seeking....? I would really try to keep it grounded, sincere, and be calm so people don't think it was some impulsive decision. Then I would have it sent via email to them later as an attachment. Are there any pitfalls with going a video route instead of a letter?

 

[MerrySkeleton]

I don't see any problem here. I hardly think that asking for 10 minutes of attention after you've ended your life could be classified as "attention seeking." At minimum you're going to be taking up a full day of everyone's time with the funeral so what's 10 extra minutes of attention within the context of that? Furthermore, if you've just killed yourself I would think that whether or not your explanation video is weird would be the last thing on your family and friend's minds. If it feels right to you, go for it

 

[MakyMy]

I'm thinking of recording like a 10 minute video explaining to friends and family why I elected to end my life. I'm not sure if it would seem weird or if people would take it as attention seeking....? I would really try to keep it grounded, sincere, and be calm so people don't think it was some impulsive decision. Then I would have it sent via email to them later as an attachment. Are there any pitfalls with going a video route instead of a letter?

I think about it very often. I have written so many notes. I destroyed them and wrote them. Over and over. I dont know if is video good idea. Just imagine that. People who loved gonna watch it over and over again. This is not great last memory.
But its only my opinion.

 

[BPD_LE]

I've done it. It's quick and easy compared to a note.

 

[MichiyoCornell]

I think about it very often. I have written so many notes. I destroyed them and wrote them. Over and over. I dont know if is video good idea. Just imagine that. People who loved gonna watch it over and over again. This is not great last memory.
But its only my opinion.

Well I appreciate your opinion, so thanks for the two cents. I had a friend who CTB and apparently left a video note to her friends, in addition to a written email. Her friends did have a hard time watching it, but were also grateful that she left it behind because she thanked a lot of them for having supported her while she was alive. They felt like she obviously cared about them enough to do the video. For me, I'm not so sure the reception would be so great as I've lost a lot of friends over the last few years.That's the reason I ask if it would come across as negative or manipulative somehow. But obviously if you're dead then there's nothing to manipulate someone into doing or feeling, so it's a bit stupid to assume such a thing out of someone who died by suicide.

 

[sleepy dog]

I thought of this in the past. Don't care anymore about that really. What happens if I succeed doesn't seem to matter anymore.

 

[tomz323]

When/If I ctb, I'll leave a video note too.

 

[Yorkshire91]

When I made my previous attempt I left audio recordings.

 

[Rachel74]

Not sure about this, I think it would destroy my family, I will just go quietly x

 

[MichiyoCornell]

I don't know. After seeing people's responses to this, I'm still unsure of whether it would be the right thing to do. My family is really big about saving face and hiding things they find shameful so it kind of goes against their wishes, but I know my friends would probably appreciate it.

 

[everydaygetsworse]

I've considered the same many times, as it was said before by another member, so many notes destroyed. I think a video will be the way to go, and I understand you completely about having a large family that is big in saving face, they bury things so deep that it was not until recently that I learnt that a cousin who used to be somewhat close to me, has major depression, but it's something that it's kept in the down-low.
My two cents would be that once we've elected to ctb, it should no longer be about their wishes or desires, but about us at the deepest possible level, think about what would make you feel more peaceful, that would be my 2 cents, I hope they're worth something
Best wishes