Really upset over something a friend did

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

Please don't judge but here goes

So today one of my old college friends reached out to me. We met through an art class. Of the bat, I noticed somethign kinda off. She was very open, maybe a bit too open. We talked casually but she opened up about her traumas and stuff in a lot of detail. Tbh, I do the same so im not trying ot be a hypocrite. Though hearing it from another person put me into perspective when I do it to others. Anyways, we worked on a project together and we'd hangout on campus every now and then. So for the most part I do like her company and she seems to like mine

Today, she texted me and we talked for a bit. When saying goodbye she ended the conversation with "love you". Tbh I never felt comfortable with it so I told her not to do it and gave her an alternative. She said she knew I didnt like it but did to see how I would react. Annoyed, I firmly repeated what I said before and I think she got the message

Im still pissed about it. Maybe im sensitive/petty but just something that has been bugging me all day.

 

[Phill]

I don't think you should let that bother you. In my opinion, neither of you two is wrong on this matter. She said something she was willing to say in order to see how you'd react, and you did react: you didn't like it. And that's okay. To be honest, I would react just like you did.

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

it's reasonable to be pissed about it. why say it in the first place if she already anticipated your reaction? it isn't funny.

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

Thank you both for your responses. I decided to take a bit of a break after I told her how I felt

 

[DyingAlf]

I can understand why you were upset about that & I think it's fair that you were.
My advice, if you're interested, is to try to let it go now. You have very clearly told her how you feel & offered an alternative, she's tried to push it & you have kept your boundary solid.
If she does it again - it shows she's toxic & doesn't respect you, so cut her out of your life.